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Posted on 8/8/23 at 11:28 am
Posted by ruckusdawg
knoxville
Member since Oct 2012
875 posts
Posted on 8/8/23 at 11:28 am
My daughter moves in this week to start at UGA and while she’s a great person and super smart she’s also shy. Any suggestions from alum that I might share with her as far as things to do that may grease the social wheels? We live in middle Tennessee so she won’t be making it home for weekends, but I have family close by as a stop gap I just don’t want her discouraged and getting homesick too quick. She’s a Dawg through and through and really wants to get in with the spike squad. Just concerned as a father and want to set her up for success without meddling.
Posted by RealDawg
Dawgville
Member since Nov 2012
9369 posts
Posted on 8/8/23 at 11:37 am to
Dorms have become increasingly less social also. Nothing like no AC or internet back in the day to force you to socialize.

Biggest thing from recent experience is to get to know the people around her in dorm.

Spike squad would be a great social tool.

I am not up on all the social or interest clubs.

Meddling is still your job!
Posted by AlaCowboy
North Alabama
Member since Dec 2011
6942 posts
Posted on 8/8/23 at 11:53 am to
This is her time to develop lifetime social skills and some lifelong friends. Encourage her to approach one or two people and introduce herself and ask them to join her for coffee or a coke and get to know them. That will lead to meeting other people these people know. I wish her the best and hope she has a great time and gets a good education.
Posted by IT_Dawg
Georgia
Member since Oct 2012
21749 posts
Posted on 8/8/23 at 11:56 am to
Definitely keep meddling. You need to be supportive and make sure she doesn’t go off the deep end one way or another.

There are a million clubs, groups, events, etc to get involved no matter your interests. Encourage her to meet as many girls in the dorm as possible. Try to attend all the dorm events, freshman events, etc as possible. She will certainly get into a group of girls before her first day of class.

Reach out to her often. She’s still your girl. Ask about things and keep encouraging her. Thousands of girls like her go off to freshman year of college. She will be fine
Posted by K9
wayx....BOBO IN '19
Member since Sep 2012
24003 posts
Posted on 8/8/23 at 11:58 am to
What are her hobbies?
Posted by Peter Buck
Member since Sep 2012
12415 posts
Posted on 8/8/23 at 12:01 pm to
Athens dorm life is less social than it used to be. One of mine worked for the football team and was involved with other stuff and the other did sorority. Both also were involved with academic clubs and stuff like that. Bottom line, it can be as much or as little as you make it.
Posted by ruckusdawg
knoxville
Member since Oct 2012
875 posts
Posted on 8/8/23 at 12:30 pm to
She actually really enjoys sports. She watches F1 racing which was brought on by Netflix auto playing the show that followed the drivers. She pretty mellow and go with the flow and if she doesn’t like something she will just remove herself. She also does a lot of crafty type things and likes to cook and bake. She could win over everyone with cookies. She was into gymnastics when she was younger
Posted by RealDawg
Dawgville
Member since Nov 2012
9369 posts
Posted on 8/8/23 at 12:34 pm to
She can also look outside of UGA for local interests.

Give her room to fly but also stay in touch.
Posted by ruckusdawg
knoxville
Member since Oct 2012
875 posts
Posted on 8/8/23 at 12:37 pm to
I’ll be reaching out often. I can break away and will be around for weekend visits if she’s not busy. My sister is already primed to go see her a few times a week if she needs. I guess I’ll always meddle, but I don’t want to be the dad that hovers, also can’t be the one to not.
Posted by ruckusdawg
knoxville
Member since Oct 2012
875 posts
Posted on 8/8/23 at 12:43 pm to
This is all new to me. She’s the first in our family to go to a large University. having a tough time getting a parking pass so she’ll be stuck with no car most of the time. I was gonna rent at a monthly lot a few miles from creswell but they have to move the cars by 6am on saturdays which is terrible bc she wants to attend the games. I know she can Uber and take the bus, but I just don’t trust people in general.
Posted by meansonny
ATL
Member since Sep 2012
25569 posts
Posted on 8/8/23 at 12:48 pm to
I never did dorm living. I moved straight into River Mill.

We found common interests /compromise with the girls across the hall (we'd watch Melrose Place over there and they'd watch Law and Order at our apartment).

Trivia nights. Dancing/bar hopping. Sight seeing / day hikes in the area.

Find new people. Try new things. If something is too awkward, don't go back. But now you know.

I worked my way through college, and had work friends over a lot as well. Restaurants are a great way to meet new people (coworkers and regulars).
Posted by Barstools
Atlanta
Member since Jan 2016
9411 posts
Posted on 8/8/23 at 6:49 pm to
It's obviously too late now but if you have any other children I HIGHLY recommend freshman college. The last thing I wanted to do the summer after my senior year was start classes early but it was the best decision my parents made.

Got to move in early, with only a few floors of students in Russell and take 2 classes of credits. It's a good way to ease into the college experience because there are not as many people and you get to meet everyone in classes or at the SLC or whatever. That's how I met about 5 of my future unbeknownst pledge brothers.
This post was edited on 8/8/23 at 6:54 pm
Posted by miledawg
athens ga
Member since Sep 2005
2033 posts
Posted on 8/8/23 at 7:49 pm to
One of the campus church groups.

On the one hand it’s good to challenge oneself to get out of the comfort zone.

Otoh it’s probably ok to just be herself and be shy. There are probably dozens or hundreds of shy folks in every uga class who do just fine.
Posted by Griffindawg
Member since Oct 2013
6131 posts
Posted on 8/9/23 at 10:55 am to
When my sister was a freshman and my dad made me drive to athens and drag her out of her dorm room to go to the first football game of the season. A couple weeks later she had found some friends and was good to go.
Posted by armtackledawg
Member since Aug 2017
11920 posts
Posted on 8/9/23 at 10:59 am to
From someone who just did this, your worries are unfounded. Soon you will wish she called more
Posted by RedPants
GA
Member since Jan 2013
5413 posts
Posted on 8/9/23 at 1:43 pm to
quote:

River Mill.

This post was edited on 8/9/23 at 1:51 pm
Posted by agentoranj1990
Mableton
Member since Oct 2016
910 posts
Posted on 8/9/23 at 1:51 pm to
Man, I remember that first quarter I moved into Hill Hall June of 1990. I was so homesick I could hardly move. Luckily the dorms then were great. Everyone kept their door open and we just hung out and played guitar and listened to music. Once fall rolled around a bunch of my friends started joining fraternities and I had decided it wasn't for me. I went to some of the Church groups on campus like Baptist Student Union which was cool. My nephew did the Wesley foundation. I was living in Myers at the time which was not a social dorm. I switched to Russell Hall and a group of us on our hall become really tight and are still friends to this day. One other thing to look at are the academic fraternities; they have varying levels of social activities. I joined the Business frat which was basically like a co-ed frat. My niece did some type of international studies frat which she really liked. The other thing that a friend of mine did that was really fun was GORP(Georgia outdoor recreation program). They did a lot of outdoor activities and trips. Then there is also intramural sports.
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