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Weddings are out of control
Posted on 1/19/16 at 10:23 am
Posted on 1/19/16 at 10:23 am
My girlfriend is getting ready to drop over $1,000 on her friend's wedding. She has to buy a dress, get professionally done makeup on the wedding day, help throw an engagement party, help throw a bridal shower, and there's a weekend vacation for the bachelorette party. When did getting married entitle the couple to demand such money and time investments from their friends?
Marriage used to be done the right way. Everyone got married when they were young and poor, and all their friends were young and poor, so there would be small ceremonies and not much of an investment from anyone except for the wedding day, maybe one night on the town for the bachelor/bachelorette party, and a home appliance as a gift. Now it seems like most people wait until ~30, when everyone has jobs and can afford to do more. But just because people can afford more doesn't mean we should all be piling up expenses because we can.
I do not expect anything from anyone if I ever get married, and it's bullshite that money that could be going to our future house or our own wedding is going toward extravagances for high maintenance bitches who think entering into a marriage contract should be the biggest and most celebrated event of the year for everyone.
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Marriage used to be done the right way. Everyone got married when they were young and poor, and all their friends were young and poor, so there would be small ceremonies and not much of an investment from anyone except for the wedding day, maybe one night on the town for the bachelor/bachelorette party, and a home appliance as a gift. Now it seems like most people wait until ~30, when everyone has jobs and can afford to do more. But just because people can afford more doesn't mean we should all be piling up expenses because we can.
I do not expect anything from anyone if I ever get married, and it's bullshite that money that could be going to our future house or our own wedding is going toward extravagances for high maintenance bitches who think entering into a marriage contract should be the biggest and most celebrated event of the year for everyone.
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Posted on 1/19/16 at 10:29 am to Jon Ham
Sounds like basic bitches that grew up watching too much mtv my super sweet sixteen.
Posted on 1/19/16 at 10:32 am to Jon Ham
My wife and I looked at the cost years ago.
We opted to go to St Lucia to have a honeymoon/wedding and vacation for friends to go.
I think the total cost for us was about 4000 dollars.
Best money we ever spent. Friends who went had a great time.
Of course we can never go back. fricking Oprah plugged the place we stayed a year later and the rates tripled.
We opted to go to St Lucia to have a honeymoon/wedding and vacation for friends to go.
I think the total cost for us was about 4000 dollars.
Best money we ever spent. Friends who went had a great time.
Of course we can never go back. fricking Oprah plugged the place we stayed a year later and the rates tripled.
Posted on 1/19/16 at 10:33 am to Jon Ham
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My girlfriend is getting ready to drop over $1,000 on her friend's wedding. She has to buy a dress, get professionally done makeup on the wedding day, help throw an engagement party, help throw a bridal shower, and there's a weekend vacation for the bachelorette party
seems about standard for a nicer wedding and if all activities are being done. if she doesnt want to spend that much, she didnt have to accept the offer to be a bridesmaid .
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Everyone got married when they were young and poor, and all their friends were young and poor,
well yeah if you are poor
Posted on 1/19/16 at 10:35 am to Jon Ham
I am beyond pissed off by my wife's friends that have been so desperate to get married for the last few years that when some schlub pops the question, it takes them no more than a week to book a venue on a beach somewhere IN THE MIDDLE OF MOTHERfrickING FOOTBALL SEASON. And I have no qualms about watching the game on my phone during the ceremony but, holy dog shite, when I have already booked hotels for road trips to SEC West games that will now only come around once every 10 years or so and I tell said engaged women not to frick with those days and they do it anyway because "my wedding day is more important than some game" I am forced to have the difficult conversation with my wife that she needs to find new friends.
frick Fall weddings, frick beach weddings, frick paying for hotels for beach weddings, frick paying for bridesmaid dresses that will only ever be worn once, and frick YOU IF AFTER ALL THAT YOU DENY ME AN OPEN BAR.
frick Fall weddings, frick beach weddings, frick paying for hotels for beach weddings, frick paying for bridesmaid dresses that will only ever be worn once, and frick YOU IF AFTER ALL THAT YOU DENY ME AN OPEN BAR.
Posted on 1/19/16 at 10:37 am to Jon Ham
I hate weddings for this reason, and refuse to go to them unless it is a really close family member.
Posted on 1/19/16 at 10:40 am to Jon Ham
yep, that's just ridiculous. personally, i think if the bride wants all that she should have to pay half or so herself because you're asking people to be a part of your stuff thus you should cover most expenses. that would put an end to some of that mess. thank god i'm older and all the weddings i participated in were reasonable.
i heard one of those stupid stories on the radio where a woman was suing a couple in small claims court over them sending in their rsvp card to attend a wedding reception but an illness kept them from coming so she was wanting them to pay for their seats and dinner that they missed.
i heard one of those stupid stories on the radio where a woman was suing a couple in small claims court over them sending in their rsvp card to attend a wedding reception but an illness kept them from coming so she was wanting them to pay for their seats and dinner that they missed.
Posted on 1/19/16 at 10:41 am to Jon Ham
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high maintenance bitches who think entering into a marriage contract should be the biggest and most celebrated event of the year for everyone
Narcissism is rampant these days. Most (white American) women grow up with mentality that their wedding is "their day" and they "deserve whatever they want" on that day because it's "their day". Cost, inconvenience, burdens on others...none of that stupid shite matters. It's their Goddamned day, goddammit!
I'm of the opinion that the avg American woman wants a wedding, but not so much a marriage. I honestly don't see any appeal for marriage to American men these days. Getting married just means financial ruin is right around the corner at any moment, at the whim of the most entitled creatures to ever walk the face of the planet. Also, when she gets tired of sex, you aren't allowed to have any with anyone.
Posted on 1/19/16 at 10:47 am to Numberwang
I think what aggravates me more than anything is how such a big deal the bride and groom will make about people attending their wedding without understanding or knowing that they won't hardly see any of those people on the day of the wedding as a result of taking pictures, doing toasts, first dance, father daughter dance, more pictures, etc. We barely had 100 people at our wedding and we still didn't have enough time to make it around the room to say hello to every one of them before the departure.
What brides and grooms don't realize is that while everyone says "its the bride's day," really a wedding is more for your guests (same as bachelor parties are really for your groomsmen/friends). I didn't drink at all the day of my wedding and I barely remember it; there was so much going on and it went by that fast. Which is why I'm glad we spent a nice amount on a great photographer because all you have in the end are the pictures.
What brides and grooms don't realize is that while everyone says "its the bride's day," really a wedding is more for your guests (same as bachelor parties are really for your groomsmen/friends). I didn't drink at all the day of my wedding and I barely remember it; there was so much going on and it went by that fast. Which is why I'm glad we spent a nice amount on a great photographer because all you have in the end are the pictures.
Posted on 1/19/16 at 10:54 am to Jon Ham
I agree Ham,
My wife and I chipped in on dresses and tuxes for the wedding.
I paid 60 percent of the rental costs for my groomsmen.
My wife and I chipped in on dresses and tuxes for the wedding.
I paid 60 percent of the rental costs for my groomsmen.
Posted on 1/19/16 at 10:56 am to tylerdurden24
Here is some of the best advice my dad ever gave me. Towards the end of college, I was poor and was holding wedding invitations to 4 different weddings, 3 of which I was asked to be a groomsman. 2 of those 3 required overnight hotel for 2 nights. Only 1 of those guys would I have called a close friend. One I know for a fact I was only asked to be a groomsman because he was scrambling to find guys after his bride wanted 12 bridesmaids.
Dad sat me down and explained that this was the time in life when you decide who your friends truly are. Weddings are totally optional, but funerals are mandatory once you make those choices. I ended up only being a groomsman in one of those weddings, and only went to one other. Almost 20 years later the only one I keep in touch with is the one I was a groomsman for.
Dad sat me down and explained that this was the time in life when you decide who your friends truly are. Weddings are totally optional, but funerals are mandatory once you make those choices. I ended up only being a groomsman in one of those weddings, and only went to one other. Almost 20 years later the only one I keep in touch with is the one I was a groomsman for.
Posted on 1/19/16 at 10:59 am to Jon Ham
Posted on 1/19/16 at 11:00 am to Jon Ham
It's even worse when you live far away from your friends and have to drop serious money just to get back and forth from the location.
Posted on 1/19/16 at 11:12 am to Jon Ham
Ugh. Reading this shite I'm remembering I have a daughter.
Posted on 1/19/16 at 11:19 am to Jon Ham
My wedding involved me calling a JOP that day to marry us. Overall cost was 2 grand, and that's just because we took 16 people to commander's palace.
Pick better women.
Pick better women.
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Posted on 1/19/16 at 11:41 am to Duke
Weddings can be a lot of fun for both the married couple and the guests if the couple just takes the time to think it through and plan it out. While I don't remember a ton, I know I had a blast at my wedding because we planned it for a summer weekend well in advance when the Braves weren't at home and at a location that we knew all of our guests could drive to (the ones that couldn't we made special arrangements to either stay with us or to notify a hotel to get them a reduced rate). Part of good planning is scheduling a place and time that is going to work best for most everyone (I say most because there is no day that is perfect for every guest you invite) and then trying to have fun with the planning process. Do your research ahead of time and make a careful decision.
I get irate and pissed off when people rush these damn weddings and then expect me or my wife to attend them. I know it's going to be a shite show because it was poorly planned, it's going to cost me money to attend because it was poorly planned, and it's going to inconvenience me because it was poorly planned. And because the groom and bride can't pull their heads out of their asses, I also know that they're probably going to be divorced in the next 10 years because they clearly didn't bother to think through a HUGE purchase which means they probably didn't put a whole lot of thought into proposing or accepting either.
I get irate and pissed off when people rush these damn weddings and then expect me or my wife to attend them. I know it's going to be a shite show because it was poorly planned, it's going to cost me money to attend because it was poorly planned, and it's going to inconvenience me because it was poorly planned. And because the groom and bride can't pull their heads out of their asses, I also know that they're probably going to be divorced in the next 10 years because they clearly didn't bother to think through a HUGE purchase which means they probably didn't put a whole lot of thought into proposing or accepting either.
Posted on 1/19/16 at 11:47 am to tylerdurden24
My advice would be to marry a girl who's family will pay for it all. My wife doesn't talk to her dad anymore, but her uncle(mom's brother) is loaded and paid for our wedding. It was a fricking blast. Been happily married for 7.5 years.
Also, live together before you get engaged/married.
Also, live together before you get engaged/married.
Posted on 1/19/16 at 11:54 am to higgs_boson
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Of course we can never go back. fricking Oprah plugged the place we stayed a year later and the rates tripled.
I'm sick of Harpo. She needs to go away and never come back. There's never been a more annoying, less talented hack in history.
Posted on 1/19/16 at 12:01 pm to CharlieTiger
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Also, live together before you get engaged/married.
This more than anything. It's the 21st century. If you can't bring yourself to live with the person you claim to want to marry before you're married, you're either not really that invested in marrying them or you're not mature enough to get married. You don't have to sleep with your future wife before your wedding but at least get used to how she operates behind closed doors before you commit yourself to her.
Posted on 1/19/16 at 12:05 pm to tylerdurden24
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If you can't bring yourself to live with the person you claim to want to marry before you're married, you're either not really that invested in marrying them or you're not mature enough to get married. You don't have to sleep with your future wife before your wedding but at least get used to how she operates behind closed doors before you commit yourself to her.
As a Christian, I have to say I agree with this 100%.
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