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3rd time in a row we've invited friends over for dinner only to have them cancel
Posted on 12/5/15 at 2:02 pm
Posted on 12/5/15 at 2:02 pm
.... at the last minute. 3 different groups of people. We buy all this food, clean the house, only to get a text 2-3 hours before with a lame arse excuse. We've never done this to someone.
Is it us? Just the millennial generation? Has anyone else experienced this? I don't know what the frick is the matter here.
Is it us? Just the millennial generation? Has anyone else experienced this? I don't know what the frick is the matter here.
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Posted on 12/5/15 at 2:04 pm to cokebottleag
Posted on 12/5/15 at 2:06 pm to cokebottleag
Hey now, don't blame it on a generation
Should've made better friends
Should've made better friends
Posted on 12/5/15 at 2:08 pm to cokebottleag
Sounds like you need better friends.
Posted on 12/5/15 at 2:14 pm to cokebottleag
People like to flake these days. It is annoying. I do think it might be a millenial thing as well.
Posted on 12/5/15 at 2:16 pm to cokebottleag
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3rd time in a row we've invited friends over for dinner only to have them cancel
We had a couple we used to hang out with that would call us up, make dinner plans, and then cancel on us the night before. We were very close to them when they started flaking and it confused and pissed us off!
When they would flake on us at the last minute, it left us with no other plans because other friends had already made plans of their own. There were a couple of times when we made weekend lake plans and ended up being stuck with a full condo bill that was supposed to be evenly split due to this couple bailing at the last second. We could've invited other friends or family.
After about a year of this, I called them out on it and they acted like I was crazy...like I was making it up! When I started naming off times that they bailed on us, they just rolled their eyes and tried to play it off like it wasn't a big deal. I remember saying to them, "If you don't want to commit to plans with us, that's okay! Just let us know so that we can make plans with other people." They brushed it off like I was crazy.
Flash forward 4 years.
We haven't seen them once in the past 3 years and we live 7 miles away from them. We completely erased them from our lives, hang out with better people, and we're happier for it.
Good riddance.
In the meantime, we've heard thru the grapevine that their marriage is in turmoil and they are close to divorce. Perhaps they started bailing on us because they no longer wanted to hang out with a happy couple who don't fight. Who knows? Who the frick cares?
Move on.
This post was edited on 12/5/15 at 2:28 pm
Posted on 12/5/15 at 2:41 pm to mizzoukills
OR use the struggling marriage to lure the wife into a three way
Posted on 12/5/15 at 2:43 pm to cokebottleag
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Is it us? Just the millennial generation?
Nope
Flakers gonna flake
Posted on 12/5/15 at 2:49 pm to cokebottleag
Yea i have a few friends who are flakey. One of them is a life long friend. I just never make plans with him anymore and dont go to a lot of things he sets up because i cant trust that everything will be as great as he sells it up to be. Sucks but eventually you just have to treat people the way they act and hope to find new people with better standards.
This post was edited on 12/5/15 at 10:02 pm
Posted on 12/5/15 at 3:43 pm to TeLeFaWx
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People like to flake these days. It is annoying. I do think it might be a millenial thing as well.
It has to do with texting. Texting and cell phones have allowed us to be in constant communication. Thus, if someone makes plans, they physically can cancel at the last moment, when in the past that was not an option. It allows people to be flaky.
In the 80's, when you told a group of friends you would meet them at the mall at 6:00, if you weren't there, they had no means of knowing why. Now, you can send a text at 5:59 explaining that you won't be there.
Posted on 12/5/15 at 7:50 pm to kingbob
Don't agree with this.
Some people just aren't reliable and flake on you.
Get better friends
Some people just aren't reliable and flake on you.
Get better friends
Posted on 12/5/15 at 7:58 pm to cokebottleag
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Just the millennial generation? Has anyone else experienced this? I don't know what the frick is the matter here.
I have had similar experiences. Most recently, I had four guys scheduled to go deer hunting. Its a 30 minute drive out to the spot from Fayetteville. Three of the four flaked out over two days, just prior.
I'm all for people doing whatever they want to do. Planning a dinner party is a lot more work. I killed a nice buck and didn't have to wait around very long. The other guy who went also killed a buck, and everything was fine. Luckiest hunt ever.
Posted on 12/5/15 at 7:59 pm to AubieALUMdvm
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Get better friends
I also agree with this. There are people who I know are reliable, who I can make plans with, and there are others who I know are 50/50. I tend to be a pretty non-committal person with certain things. If I know somebody went to a lot of trouble, I'll never cancel, just out of basic human decency. Find others like that.
Posted on 12/5/15 at 8:08 pm to cokebottleag
We have some friends like this. Of course it's not everybody in the milennial generation but in general they aren't reliable for shite. I work with a bunch and they call out all the time, they're late, and they have horrible work ethic.
Posted on 12/5/15 at 8:13 pm to wmr
I have a friend who flakes a lot...my solution is to tell him what our plans are and we'd love for him to join us but nothing about our plans are dependent on him...if he says can we do it this day or a different time, I just say no...if he shows up great, if not no big deal. Works great.
Posted on 12/5/15 at 9:31 pm to thekid
I may seem like the friend who flakes a lot, but sometimes you guys just won't stop asking to do stuff. My buddy is like this, I love him to death, but a lot of the times I just don't feel like doing anything on the weekends, so quit bugging me almost every day about it. I usually always tell him no, I can't, etc, but he still will not stop asking me. So I say yeah I will, then cancel that day. He still does this, so I don't think he has picked up on it yet. 
Trust me, if I wanna hang out, I'll hit you up. Now I don't do this on big weekend traveling or anything like that, just more on casual hangout for a game or something.
Trust me, if I wanna hang out, I'll hit you up. Now I don't do this on big weekend traveling or anything like that, just more on casual hangout for a game or something.
Posted on 12/6/15 at 8:53 am to cokebottleag
I've had it happen twice to my family in the last 6 months. One was my cousin for my wife's birthday dinner and another was when my parents were supposed to come check out the house I just bought and called and bailed on me 10 minutes before they were supposed to be here. I blew up on both of my parents for it and said that shite was unacceptable along with a few other choice words.
Both my parents and cousin apologized until they were blue in the face and have done a good job of trying to make it up to us.
I'm a millenial, but I respect people's time and commitments. I try to be 10 minutes early to everything and I will give you a two days notice if I have to cancel plans.
Uncle Sam will teach you how to respect other people's time real fast. And if you don't, well, you'll learn the hard way.
Both my parents and cousin apologized until they were blue in the face and have done a good job of trying to make it up to us.
I'm a millenial, but I respect people's time and commitments. I try to be 10 minutes early to everything and I will give you a two days notice if I have to cancel plans.
Uncle Sam will teach you how to respect other people's time real fast. And if you don't, well, you'll learn the hard way.
This post was edited on 12/6/15 at 9:16 am
Posted on 12/6/15 at 9:17 am to cokebottleag
Find better friends at www.aff.com
Posted on 12/6/15 at 10:42 am to TRUERockyTop
You blew up on your parents? That isn't very respectful either. I would never do that over something as trivial as canceling a visit.
Posted on 12/6/15 at 10:54 am to kingbob
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It has to do with texting.
Texting should be banned. It's only used by people who are too cowardly to call you or speak to you in person. It's the perfect tool for pansies to drop out of an event at the last second with.
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