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Posted on 2/16/26 at 10:37 am
Posted on 2/16/26 at 10:37 am
Yall know I requested prayers a month or so ago. Continue to pray for me please. I am going through some major things in life. I’m healthy so no concerns there.
I will expound a little without going into much detail. On my mother’s side of the family my mom was 1 of 14 kids. On my dad’s side my dad was 1 of 7 kids. I myself am 1 of 7 with an adopted sister added in to make us 8.
On my mother’s side I’m next to the youngest of all grandchildren. The youngest is 2 months younger. On my dad’s side I’m 3rd from the youngest.
I’ve seen to much death. I’ve buried so many people. Obviously at 54 I’ve buried all my grandparents, of biological and married aunts and uncles I’ve buried 38 of 41. 3 are still living. I don’t even know the number of cousins I’ve seen pass. I’ve lost 3 siblings. Had a memorial for one of my sisters last Friday evening.
It’s not just that, it’s the totality of life. These are just some situations probably everyone can relate to. I’ve aged like 10 years the past 3 years it feels like. My kids are basically all grown. My youngest is 20. Maybe this is my midlife crisis. Heck if I know.
I’m truly blessed with my life and where I come from. I am as close to God as I ever have been and that’s been going on 13 years now. But something is off, something is missing. I’ve yet to figure that out. Maybe some young bucks or old heads have some advice for me.
I will expound a little without going into much detail. On my mother’s side of the family my mom was 1 of 14 kids. On my dad’s side my dad was 1 of 7 kids. I myself am 1 of 7 with an adopted sister added in to make us 8.
On my mother’s side I’m next to the youngest of all grandchildren. The youngest is 2 months younger. On my dad’s side I’m 3rd from the youngest.
I’ve seen to much death. I’ve buried so many people. Obviously at 54 I’ve buried all my grandparents, of biological and married aunts and uncles I’ve buried 38 of 41. 3 are still living. I don’t even know the number of cousins I’ve seen pass. I’ve lost 3 siblings. Had a memorial for one of my sisters last Friday evening.
It’s not just that, it’s the totality of life. These are just some situations probably everyone can relate to. I’ve aged like 10 years the past 3 years it feels like. My kids are basically all grown. My youngest is 20. Maybe this is my midlife crisis. Heck if I know.
I’m truly blessed with my life and where I come from. I am as close to God as I ever have been and that’s been going on 13 years now. But something is off, something is missing. I’ve yet to figure that out. Maybe some young bucks or old heads have some advice for me.
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Posted on 2/16/26 at 11:13 am to CorchJay
I would say this is normal. Nothing to be ashamed of but death is part of life and it’s something everyone has to come face to face with. The best thing to do is enjoy life as much as you can. Getting old sucks lol. I try to tell my buddies they need to avoid stress and quit worrying so much about shite you cannot control. We got limited time so be efficient with it. 
Posted on 2/16/26 at 12:32 pm to CorchJay
Not to diminish your pain, but you must have made alot of memories with that big of a family. Its looking a real possibility that Ill get to enter my 40 by myself other than my mother's support (which Im grateful for). Burying no one is never easy but being on the opposite side of the spectrum hasn't been what I'd hope.
I may not be family but I for one enjoy reading your words, even if its just a random stranger on a message board. Gonna be praying for you baw
I may not be family but I for one enjoy reading your words, even if its just a random stranger on a message board. Gonna be praying for you baw
Posted on 2/16/26 at 12:36 pm to FahQGump
If you have your health you are truly blessed and pray for the other situations in your life,
Posted on 2/16/26 at 12:40 pm to CorchJay
“Honor you father and mother”
It’s the first commandment with a promise.
You seem like a genuinely good man.
You are probably here as an example for the others in you circle of how to care about family.
God loves you and everyone of us- even when we get ornery about orbit motions or flex cuts.
It’s the first commandment with a promise.
You seem like a genuinely good man.
You are probably here as an example for the others in you circle of how to care about family.
God loves you and everyone of us- even when we get ornery about orbit motions or flex cuts.
Posted on 2/16/26 at 7:34 pm to CorchJay
It is all normal Corch. It’s an adjustment once all the kids are gone from the house. It’s tough losing family especially siblings, parents, and children.
There are many things we obviously can’t control but it doesn’t make it any less difficult to experience.
You will get through this and the fact you are healthy goes a long way. Enjoy the days with those still with you and find your joy in the things you and your wife enjoy doing. It’s that season in life that you two get to focus on your wants and needs.
Grandkids, if you don’t have any, become a real game changer in these latter years as well. It’s good you reached out and sought conversation. Life can suck and be over burdening at times. And of course death becomes all too familiar as we age but never gets easier to deal with. Wish you the best and hope it smooths out soon. War Eagle!
There are many things we obviously can’t control but it doesn’t make it any less difficult to experience.
You will get through this and the fact you are healthy goes a long way. Enjoy the days with those still with you and find your joy in the things you and your wife enjoy doing. It’s that season in life that you two get to focus on your wants and needs.
Grandkids, if you don’t have any, become a real game changer in these latter years as well. It’s good you reached out and sought conversation. Life can suck and be over burdening at times. And of course death becomes all too familiar as we age but never gets easier to deal with. Wish you the best and hope it smooths out soon. War Eagle!
Posted on 2/16/26 at 8:54 pm to RockyMtnTigerWDE
Thank you friends. Inspired to say the least. Some are martial issues. So no support system there. This is my biggest problems for now. Blessed that it hasn’t hurt my relationships with my step-sons. The youngest of the 2 is really the one that threw my head for a loop. On Thanksgiving were discussing his mother and I’s relationship. He looks me dead arse in the face and says “If it were me, CJ, I would have been gone a long time ago”. Devastating!!
I do have that grand baby but she lives in Tampa. Tough trip on a whim but I do it as regular as I can.
I do have that grand baby but she lives in Tampa. Tough trip on a whim but I do it as regular as I can.
Posted on 2/16/26 at 10:18 pm to CorchJay
Pray about it, pick up your Bible… Life isn’t easy, surround yourself with friends and take it day by day
Posted on 2/16/26 at 11:01 pm to CorchJay
Take it one day at a time. I am the youngest of 4, wife is the youngest of 3.
I have only 1 sibling left. My mom family of 12 all gone along with most of their kids, my dad family of 13 all gone along with most of their kids. I don't remember grandparents on my mom's side. Barely remember my dad's side.
Grew up basically as an only child due to the age gap between me and the next one. I miss my dad tremendously.
Now my wife is going through it.
All we can do is think of them and take it one day at a time. Speak to God and walk the path. Good luck in taking it all in and working through it.
I have only 1 sibling left. My mom family of 12 all gone along with most of their kids, my dad family of 13 all gone along with most of their kids. I don't remember grandparents on my mom's side. Barely remember my dad's side.
Grew up basically as an only child due to the age gap between me and the next one. I miss my dad tremendously.
Now my wife is going through it.
All we can do is think of them and take it one day at a time. Speak to God and walk the path. Good luck in taking it all in and working through it.
Posted on 2/16/26 at 11:03 pm to Luke
Love you Corch, let me know if there is anything i can do for you brother. The roller coaster sometimes has to roll to the bottom before it climbs to the top again.
Posted on 2/16/26 at 11:56 pm to RandySavage
Thanks Randy. I’m leaning on the Lord for sure. I’m an emotional wreck. I’ve been that way for a few years now. I have cried, not because of sorrow, more the past 3-4 years then my entire life. I’m not “down” or anything like that. I’m lost in emotion. Hope that makes sense.
I just don’t know what is going on in life. I have always known the future I determined the future. First time in my life I’ve felt I don’t control the future.
Is this normal emotions and feeling entering your mid 50’s, looking toward retirement in the not to distant future, kids grown? I guess that’s another issue for me I don’t have the answers to my questions when I’ve always known the answers.
Hell maybe I’m overthinking everything.
I just don’t know what is going on in life. I have always known the future I determined the future. First time in my life I’ve felt I don’t control the future.
Is this normal emotions and feeling entering your mid 50’s, looking toward retirement in the not to distant future, kids grown? I guess that’s another issue for me I don’t have the answers to my questions when I’ve always known the answers.
Hell maybe I’m overthinking everything.
Posted on 2/17/26 at 6:06 am to CorchJay
Corch, good luck big dog
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