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re: Derek Mason’s Daughter—Depression
Posted on 12/4/18 at 12:13 pm to VandyTops17
Posted on 12/4/18 at 12:13 pm to VandyTops17
Awesome read.
So much truth in there.
So much truth in there.
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Posted on 12/4/18 at 12:16 pm to VandyTops17
I am currently battling the worst case of depression I’ve ever had after losing my father, an aunt who died in my arms after a long illness, and a difficult divorce from the woman I thought was my soulmate for life, all in 18 months time. I am barely hanging on and have even had to remove my guns, which I’ve owned and used all my life, from my home. If I wasn’t self-employed I’d have been fired already for poor performance.
It’s difficult for men to admit and reach out for help because of the stigma. We’re supposed to be tough and by God suck it up. I was a HS and college distance runner and have always prided myself on my mental strength and perseverance in the face of pain. If you’ve never suffered from this horrible disease, you simply can’t understand the inner pain, heartache and hopelessness. It’s like an evil, heavy and dark force has taken over your mind and emotions and no amount of willpower can pull you out of the abyss. I’d rather have the cancer that took my dad.
Sorry for the dark tone and this is probably not the place for it, but I needed this today if for nothing else than to put my feelings into words. And from an unlikely source: a link on tRant about a 19 year old coach’s daughter. God works in mysterious ways.
It’s difficult for men to admit and reach out for help because of the stigma. We’re supposed to be tough and by God suck it up. I was a HS and college distance runner and have always prided myself on my mental strength and perseverance in the face of pain. If you’ve never suffered from this horrible disease, you simply can’t understand the inner pain, heartache and hopelessness. It’s like an evil, heavy and dark force has taken over your mind and emotions and no amount of willpower can pull you out of the abyss. I’d rather have the cancer that took my dad.
Sorry for the dark tone and this is probably not the place for it, but I needed this today if for nothing else than to put my feelings into words. And from an unlikely source: a link on tRant about a 19 year old coach’s daughter. God works in mysterious ways.
Posted on 12/4/18 at 12:31 pm to KingOfTheWorld
It sucks.
It’s ok to feel as you do—you aren’t weak or defective.
On the contrary, you sound incredibly strong to me.
You won’t always feel this way; but if you haven’t reached out for help, do so.
You’ll be surprised how little it takes (Rx and/or otherwise) to take the edge off while you’re going through this incredibly low point in your life.
If you need someone to talk to, let me know.
It’s ok to feel as you do—you aren’t weak or defective.
On the contrary, you sound incredibly strong to me.
You won’t always feel this way; but if you haven’t reached out for help, do so.
You’ll be surprised how little it takes (Rx and/or otherwise) to take the edge off while you’re going through this incredibly low point in your life.
If you need someone to talk to, let me know.
Posted on 12/4/18 at 12:42 pm to EKG
Never apologize for that EKG. I have had my battles and medicated myself with alcohol for most of my adult life. I came to the conclusion that wasn't getting anywhere and that I was gonna commit suicide or kill myself at the bar. May 16th 2015 I drove home drunk and woke up the next day wondering how I got there. It scared the shite out of me. That day I took control of my life and started dealing with all the things that I had covered up for so long......It was scary and uncomfortable. Today, I still deal with bouts of depression but I have the tools to deal with it now and alcohol has not been one of them since that day.
Thank you for sharing.
Thank you for sharing.
Posted on 12/4/18 at 12:43 pm to EKG
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If you need someone to talk to, let me know.
I appreciate it, truly. I have my 2nd session with a counselor tomorrow and they are looking for psychiatrist for referral. Damn, it’s hard to write those words about yourself.
This post was edited on 12/4/18 at 12:52 pm
Posted on 12/4/18 at 12:47 pm to KingOfTheWorld
That appointment to which you’re going tomorrow—that takes more bravery than just about anything.
Like I said earlier: You have no reason to be ashamed; this happened to you (not the other way around).
Take care of yourself.
Like I said earlier: You have no reason to be ashamed; this happened to you (not the other way around).
Take care of yourself.
Posted on 12/4/18 at 12:48 pm to KingOfTheWorld
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I am currently battling the worst case of depression I’ve ever had after losing my father, an aunt who died in my arms after a long illness, and a difficult divorce from the woman I thought was my soulmate for life, all in 18 months time
That is rough, man. Hang in there. You can do it.
Posted on 12/4/18 at 12:50 pm to EKG
Thank you so much for helping to spread the word.
Posted on 12/4/18 at 1:07 pm to DivePlay
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I swear to god 50 years from now we will find that there is something in our food, electronics, or medication that is causing these levels of mental issues. Wish her the best.
This.
Posted on 12/4/18 at 1:20 pm to VandyTops17
I sympathize with anyone going through a deep depression to that degree. It's sad to see. Hope she, along with millions of others going through it, find the help they need so they can live long, happy, successful lives like everyone deserves.
Posted on 12/4/18 at 3:50 pm to KingOfTheWorld
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I appreciate it, truly. I have my 2nd session with a counselor tomorrow and they are looking for psychiatrist for referral. Damn, it’s hard to write those words about yourself.
I had to do it as well, and I sometimes get uncomfortable mentioning that I have a psychiatrist, but at the end of the day there are so many people out there who are more than happy to help in any way they can and empathize with those in need.
Sorry you’re going through these struggles brother, but know that it does eventually get better, even when you think there’s no way it will.
Posted on 12/4/18 at 3:53 pm to A Menace to Sobriety
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Hope she, along with millions of others going through it, find the help they need
Absolutely. I, too, hope the same for Mackenzie Mason.
Unfortunately shame and silence prevent people from seeking help and treatment.
Mental illness, while widespread, is still very misunderstood.
Posted on 12/4/18 at 4:03 pm to VandyTops17
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Derek Mason’s Daughter—Depression
We have been through this with both of our children at different points in their lives. Both are doing great now, but it is a long, ongoing process that is devastating both for the person going through it and the people who love them.
Good for Mason's daughter for going public, it helps remove the stigma of the illness and hopefully will give other sufferers of depression hope.
I don't even know if the rant has a direct message function but if anyone is dealing with this themselves or with a loved one, I would be happy to offer support.
Posted on 12/4/18 at 4:07 pm to KingOfTheWorld
Hey man,
For those of us who've been there and many others that haven't, the best thing you can do is simple "talking therapy." A place like this where you can remain anonymous helps.
But don't underestimate professional help. Unfortunately mental health treatment usually isn't covered under health insursnce. But find a good therapist if you can. Helped me so much. If you can't do that, find a group or clergy that you can talk to.
Bottom line, recognizing the problem is the first step. Just keep moving towards the light every day. Even if it's a baby step. I know this is going to sound trivial and pointless but I had someone tell me get out of bed everyday and make it up. Then tell yourself, "Ok, if I don't do anything else today, I did 1 positive thing. Sounds silly I know, but it helped me.
And remember it took 18 months to get to this point. You won't snap your fingers an it will be over. But little by little the bad moments will be less and the good ones more. Eventually the bad ones will go away.
Good luck man and HANG IN THERE! !! The hardest step is behind you.
For those of us who've been there and many others that haven't, the best thing you can do is simple "talking therapy." A place like this where you can remain anonymous helps.
But don't underestimate professional help. Unfortunately mental health treatment usually isn't covered under health insursnce. But find a good therapist if you can. Helped me so much. If you can't do that, find a group or clergy that you can talk to.
Bottom line, recognizing the problem is the first step. Just keep moving towards the light every day. Even if it's a baby step. I know this is going to sound trivial and pointless but I had someone tell me get out of bed everyday and make it up. Then tell yourself, "Ok, if I don't do anything else today, I did 1 positive thing. Sounds silly I know, but it helped me.
And remember it took 18 months to get to this point. You won't snap your fingers an it will be over. But little by little the bad moments will be less and the good ones more. Eventually the bad ones will go away.
Good luck man and HANG IN THERE! !! The hardest step is behind you.
This post was edited on 12/4/18 at 4:15 pm
Posted on 12/4/18 at 4:09 pm to EKG
Come on fellas. Suck it up!! J/k’n
As othes have stated you should talk to someone if you aren’t yourself. I waited a long time before I realized that I wasn’t the same. It happens slowly and our ability to see it can take time also. Self awareness or introspection is important to reflect on.
I still feel like I’m recovering and will be for awhile. My issue is a combination of depression and fatigue. I could hardly get out of bed. I forced myself to work and do things. It took about 6 months. Now I look back at say wtf took me so long to realize it.
Anyways, I’ll reiterate what others have said. Don’t be afraid to seek help. Sometimes just talking about it helps.
It’s hard to fix something if you’re not aware of it.
As othes have stated you should talk to someone if you aren’t yourself. I waited a long time before I realized that I wasn’t the same. It happens slowly and our ability to see it can take time also. Self awareness or introspection is important to reflect on.
I still feel like I’m recovering and will be for awhile. My issue is a combination of depression and fatigue. I could hardly get out of bed. I forced myself to work and do things. It took about 6 months. Now I look back at say wtf took me so long to realize it.
Anyways, I’ll reiterate what others have said. Don’t be afraid to seek help. Sometimes just talking about it helps.
It’s hard to fix something if you’re not aware of it.
Posted on 12/4/18 at 4:18 pm to VandyTops17
I wonder if this thread could be stickied for awhile, maybe through the holiday season as it is an even harder time for those suffering from depression. There has been a lot of response to it. I think it would help a lot of people.
I requested a sticky.
I requested a sticky.
This post was edited on 12/4/18 at 4:21 pm
Posted on 12/4/18 at 4:30 pm to bingo
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I requested a sticky.
2nded.
Posted on 12/4/18 at 4:43 pm to Lonnie Utah
I know this may seem silly but here are 3 things that help till you get help
#1 Sunlight - just getting some sun helps when you are depressed
#2 Pets - they sense and can help on the bad days
#3 The worse off game
To play #3 when you are near rock bottom start with where you are and work your way down to someone else who has it worse than you do. Usually you wind up in the shoes of some street beggar in India who is homeless, hungry, and has all kinds of issues that make most of yours seem pretty tame in comparison. Next day that means a trip to working a local food bank or homeless shelter and things perk up when you reinforce what you already are blessed with but often fail to see when depression takes hold.
#1 Sunlight - just getting some sun helps when you are depressed
#2 Pets - they sense and can help on the bad days
#3 The worse off game
To play #3 when you are near rock bottom start with where you are and work your way down to someone else who has it worse than you do. Usually you wind up in the shoes of some street beggar in India who is homeless, hungry, and has all kinds of issues that make most of yours seem pretty tame in comparison. Next day that means a trip to working a local food bank or homeless shelter and things perk up when you reinforce what you already are blessed with but often fail to see when depression takes hold.
Posted on 12/4/18 at 4:53 pm to KingOfTheWorld
I go through all of this too for what it’s worth. I’m almost 43 and it hit me like a hammer about 31/2 years ago. I still have good days and bad days, but I manage better now than then. Opening up and being honest with my doctor and getting the nerve to call my work EAP probably saved my life. Hoppes tastes terrible btw.
Hang in there and just know that although we may not be traveling your same road, a lot of us are on similar ones.
God bless!
Hang in there and just know that although we may not be traveling your same road, a lot of us are on similar ones.
God bless!
Posted on 12/4/18 at 4:57 pm to Cheese Grits
I genuinely appreciate your perspective, Cheese Grits.
But this isn’t a mind over matter deal—a condition that is alleviated by acknowledging that some people have a worse life than do you.
It’s an issue of a chemical imbalance(s) of the brain.
Dopamine, noradrenaline, serotonin, norepinephrine, genetics, environmental and social factors, and trauma, all play a role.
But this isn’t a mind over matter deal—a condition that is alleviated by acknowledging that some people have a worse life than do you.
It’s an issue of a chemical imbalance(s) of the brain.
Dopamine, noradrenaline, serotonin, norepinephrine, genetics, environmental and social factors, and trauma, all play a role.
This post was edited on 12/4/18 at 5:01 pm
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