3rd time in a row we've invited friends over for dinner only to have them cancel

Sounds like you need better friends.

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3rd time in a row we've invited friends over for dinner only to have them cancel

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We had a couple we used to hang out with that would call us up, make dinner plans, and then cancel on us the night before. We were very close to them when they started flaking and it confused and pissed us off!

When they would flake on us at the last minute, it left us with no other plans because other friends had already made plans of their own. There were a couple of times when we made weekend lake plans and ended up being stuck with a full condo bill that was supposed to be evenly split due to this couple bailing at the last second. We could've invited other friends or family.

After about a year of this, I called them out on it and they acted like I was crazy...like I was making it up! When I started naming off times that they bailed on us, they just rolled their eyes and tried to play it off like it wasn't a big deal. I remember saying to them, "If you don't want to commit to plans with us, that's okay! Just let us know so that we can make plans with other people." They brushed it off like I was crazy.

Flash forward 4 years.

We haven't seen them once in the past 3 years and we live 7 miles away from them. We completely erased them from our lives, hang out with better people, and we're happier for it.

Good riddance.

In the meantime, we've heard thru the grapevine that their marriage is in turmoil and they are close to divorce. Perhaps they started bailing on us because they no longer wanted to hang out with a happy couple who don't fight. Who knows? Who the frick cares?

Move on.

Yea i have a few friends who are flakey. One of them is a life long friend. I just never make plans with him anymore and dont go to a lot of things he sets up because i cant trust that everything will be as great as he sells it up to be. Sucks but eventually you just have to treat people the way they act and hope to find new people with better standards.

We have some friends like this. Of course it's not everybody in the milennial generation but in general they aren't reliable for shite. I work with a bunch and they call out all the time, they're late, and they have horrible work ethic.

I've had it happen twice to my family in the last 6 months. One was my cousin for my wife's birthday dinner and another was when my parents were supposed to come check out the house I just bought and called and bailed on me 10 minutes before they were supposed to be here. I blew up on both of my parents for it and said that shite was unacceptable along with a few other choice words.

Both my parents and cousin apologized until they were blue in the face and have done a good job of trying to make it up to us.

I'm a millenial, but I respect people's time and commitments. I try to be 10 minutes early to everything and I will give you a two days notice if I have to cancel plans.

Uncle Sam will teach you how to respect other people's time real fast. And if you don't, well, you'll learn the hard way.

I'm a flake, but I just don't commit to stuff in the first place.

Three times? Fool me once...

Every generation has flakes, lots of them. It's a people thing.

You have to decide how important those people are to you and go from there. Doesn't seem like you're very important to them.

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Is it us? Just the millennial generation? Has anyone else experienced this?

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Here's the thing. Yes, there are some uncouth people in the world. But you always have to look at the common denominator, which in this case would be you. Do you make it "easy" for these people to flake out on you? Are you so overbearing that they try to be nice at first, but as the time gets near, decide that you just aren't worth the hassle?

I mean, I don't know you from Adam, I just know there are always two sides to a story and here we only have yours.

We're in our 40's and its never happened to us with friends our age, except one instance where they had a legit excuse.

Our niece is 21 and is notorious for flaking on plans at the last minute. Leads me to believe it's a generational thing, but don't really have enough evidence to say with certainty.