The Mindset Behind Sexual Assualt

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I don't get it.

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It's about control for rapist. And if they're a popular athlete? They probably think they can get away with it because of who they are.

That said, whether rightfully so or not, I'm always hesitant to rush to judgement in some of these athlete/on campus deals. I think Universities are handling it appropriately as of late, but there needs to be some blowback when some of these accusations are found to be false. We're going a long way towards empowering victims in these cases, which we should. But we're also setting up a situation where any girl who feels guilty for getting sleeping with someone when they're drunk can make some life changing accusations without much consequence.

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any girl who feels guilty for getting sleeping with someone when they're drunk can make some life changing accusations without much consequence.

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Or if they just get pissed off for some reason.

Stephen A. Smith is that you?

I'm going to say something a little controversial, but I think a lot of the incentive for rape is because of the reaction afterward.

Now, hear me out: Most of us have this barrier that can't be crossed -- the majority of us would not rape someone for any reason under the sky. To save humanity, for vengeance or even just to control another person.

But I think it gives them too much power when people react in such a way where it "ruins" their life. It's a horrendous thing, because takes your power away and makes you feel unsafe anywhere you go -- but I think the culture around rape gives an extra incentive for the rapist.

I don't even know how to fix what I'm suggesting, but I've noticed that a lot of problems are amplified by society.

And don't mistaken this as me saying it's anyone's fault for their response -- I can't imagine how I would react or what would go through my head afterwards, but I think it's high time we stop giving sociopathic rapists ammunition.

I don't think that's controversial. I think that's an extension of the power play Belle was alluding to, actually.

If the end game is power, then the reaction is a manifestation of exactly how much power the perp wielded. For those uncaring of the consequences, that unfortunately can be enough of an incentive to do some truly heinous things.

I'll hearken back to something I heard on a podcast about the Fappening thing that happened recently: if more of those victims had kind shrugged their shoulders and said they didn't really give a shite (not saying they should have, but hear me out), a lot of pervs thinking "HAHA, GOTCHA BITCH!" would have gotten far less enjoyment out of the whole situation. Why? They don't have the power to incite an incensed reaction.

THIS IS NOT TO SAY THAT RAPE IS OK OR THAT VICTIMS SHOULD JUST REMAIN SILENT.

Perish the thought. Coming at it from the perspective of power/exhibiting control over the other person, I can see how the fallout afterwards can become as much of a power play for sick, twisted individuals as the actual act itself.

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THIS IS NOT TO SAY THAT RAPE IS OK OR THAT VICTIMS SHOUTCAST REMAIN SILENT.

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I would like to reiterate this -- I can't imagine what it would be like but I think the power is amplified.

I liken it to school shooters in some ways. Our reaction is to make them into ultra-villains, and it appeals to their narcissism -- what they feel is adequate attention from society and I think it compels them to behave.

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I'll hearken back to something I heard on a podcast about the Fappening thing that happened recently: if more of those victims had kind shrugged their shoulders and said they didn't really give a shite (not saying they should have, but hear me out), a lot of pervs thinking "HAHA, GOTCHA BITCH!" would have gotten far less enjoyment out of the whole situation. Why? They don't have the power to incite an incensed reaction.

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Exactly. I think the sooner people accept the consequences with open arms rather than convulsing so violently -- you take the power and incentive to do so. It'll still happen, but the only way someone has power over you is if you let them.

Now when the NSA publishes my porn, we'll see if it changes my outlook on this.

All jest aside: I think society exacerbates issues by ascribing too much trauma to certain experiences. I'm scared to say things like that, because the emotional power behind rape is so extensive that it's almost impossible to compare it to other experiences in life.

But with something like, let's just say, growing up without a father: When I was younger (and even now) people say that if you don't have an adequate father figure then you'll be maladjusted to society to some degree.

I had to wonder growing up (and even now) if this would have been true or not if no one had said anything, or if society had a different view on it.

I don't smoke, I don't drink alcohol, I've never taken an illicit drug and I respect authority within good limitations. I'm not saying that it's not an exclusive endeavor, the statistics speak for themselves -- but I think a large part is the perspective from society.

And I think we could eliminate a lot of power from these sick bastards with a change in perspective.

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I don't smoke, I don't drink alcohol, I've never taken an illicit drug and I respect authority within good limitations

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What Belle said.

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That sounds as likely the reason behind their motivation as anything else I have heard. For many we will probably never know what their malfunction was. Some people are just broken. If it's a power over women thing then the jail sentence should also involve a woman taking a shite on their food once a week.

I've never understood how a guy gets and keeps a woody when the woman is being assaulted. I guess some guys are turned on by that. Sick motherfrickers.