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Posted on 6/17/16 at 9:09 am to CCTider
Posted on 6/17/16 at 9:09 am to CCTider
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Find out what he likes to drink, if he does. Bring something to enjoy at dinner.
I think it'd be funny if you could somehow find out what beverage he stereotypes blacks as really liking and bring that.
But I have a twisted sense of humor.
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Posted on 6/17/16 at 9:48 am to The Spleen
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I think it'd be funny if you could somehow find out what beverage he stereotypes blacks as really liking and bring that
lol, are you afraid to say what black's stereotypically drink just because the OP is black? I'll help you out.
OP, bring a 2-liter of grape drink to dinner. Spleen thinks it would be funny. I agree.
Posted on 6/17/16 at 9:58 am to dwgsfrlife7673
Good luck dude. It's a shame there are still people around that feel like that about the interracial stuff.
Posted on 6/17/16 at 10:29 am to dwgsfrlife7673
I would just suck it up and go to the relatives house. Meeting on his terms will show respect for him and earn respect for you. If he loses it and acts like an a-hole, you should try to keep your composure and politely excuse yourself along with his daughter. He may try to bait you into an argument but the more he tries, the cooler you should play it. If nothing else, he and everybody else will know that you were the bigger man. It won't improve your chances of him liking you but you'll at least have the satisfaction of knowing that his plan went off in his face.
Posted on 6/17/16 at 10:32 am to Stacked
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are you afraid to say what black's stereotypically drink just because the OP is black?
No, but some people have different stereotypes.
OP, bring a bottle of Hennessy.
See?
Posted on 6/17/16 at 10:32 am to DaBama
It would be uncomfortable no matter where you eat.
Let us know how it goes.
Let us know how it goes.
Posted on 6/17/16 at 10:32 am to DaBama
It would be uncomfortable no matter where you eat.
Let us know how it goes.
Let us know how it goes.
Posted on 6/17/16 at 10:38 am to dwgsfrlife7673
Offer to meet him at the blackest soul food restaurant in town.
Posted on 6/17/16 at 10:42 am to The Spleen
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bring a bottle of Hennessy.
My wife's cousin married a black guy. He bought me a shot of Hennessy on new Year's Eve a couple of years ago. That must be an acquired taste because I damn near threw up right there in the middle of the bar. He's a good guy though.
Posted on 6/17/16 at 10:49 am to DaBama
I like cognac every now and then. Not my favorite though. Courvosier(sp?) is better than Hennesy.
Posted on 6/17/16 at 1:01 pm to I-59 Tiger
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quote: Stacked You sound like a complete horse's arse. Shut up
First time on he OTB?
Posted on 6/17/16 at 1:15 pm to dwgsfrlife7673
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I appreciate the compliment! In actually decided to meet on his terms so I'm going to the house this evening. Hopefully nothing explosive happens and I can get in and out still showing him regardless my color I'm not a bad guy.
I don't expect him to like me during, after, or any time after this dinner however lol.
Don't forget to update us with all the interesting stuff.
Posted on 6/17/16 at 1:26 pm to Evolved Simian
T-Minus three hours to dinner. They decided on chicken wings for supper. I actually laughed a bit at that one. He asked her if I would sell her to a sex ring while we are on vacation in a day or two. Which showed me he has some weak material lol. But seriously I plan on turning the other cheek and just being calm through dinner. My stance has really calmed my girlfriend down and she is really feeding off my confidence. Really appreciate you guys again for helping me make the most mature decision. I'll update after!
Posted on 6/17/16 at 2:23 pm to dwgsfrlife7673
As a Dad with a white daughter with a black boyfriend, I speak with some experience on this.
I will admit that I struggled hard with this. Im old school and believe(d) that colors shouldnt mix. Call me old school southern, racist, whatever. Its how I was raised.
Having said that, at the end of the day I found myself asking the following questions.
1. Is he a good man? (yes)
2. Does he love my daughter? (yes)
3. Does she love him? (yes)
4. Do they respect each other (seems so.)
5. Is he an ambitious person who would be a good provider/partner/husband in due course (I think so.)
6. Does he have a good family? (mostly)
At the end of the day, if these questions are all yes, then color is irrelevant. Im good with it.
Where I do have concerns is with mixed kids. They take shite from both races. I look at the crap blacks give steph curry as an example. I was on twitter last night and someone was calling him that "tan colored n&gga". I've seen articles about that issue of color of color.
Anyway, I digress. go talk to your future FIL. Respectfully tell him all those things above. if he still has a problem, then tell your future MIL those same things. She'll fix his arse.
Thats my advice.
I will admit that I struggled hard with this. Im old school and believe(d) that colors shouldnt mix. Call me old school southern, racist, whatever. Its how I was raised.
Having said that, at the end of the day I found myself asking the following questions.
1. Is he a good man? (yes)
2. Does he love my daughter? (yes)
3. Does she love him? (yes)
4. Do they respect each other (seems so.)
5. Is he an ambitious person who would be a good provider/partner/husband in due course (I think so.)
6. Does he have a good family? (mostly)
At the end of the day, if these questions are all yes, then color is irrelevant. Im good with it.
Where I do have concerns is with mixed kids. They take shite from both races. I look at the crap blacks give steph curry as an example. I was on twitter last night and someone was calling him that "tan colored n&gga". I've seen articles about that issue of color of color.
Anyway, I digress. go talk to your future FIL. Respectfully tell him all those things above. if he still has a problem, then tell your future MIL those same things. She'll fix his arse.
Thats my advice.
Posted on 6/17/16 at 2:44 pm to Pavoloco83
People are going to not like you no matter what 
Black people give Lebron shite too. Black people give Cam shite too. White people hate Peyton Manning, white people hate Brady, white people hate Bush and Kennedy, black people hate Obama. No matter what your skin color is there will always be someone that hates you even if they share the same pigment as you.
Black people give Lebron shite too. Black people give Cam shite too. White people hate Peyton Manning, white people hate Brady, white people hate Bush and Kennedy, black people hate Obama. No matter what your skin color is there will always be someone that hates you even if they share the same pigment as you.
Posted on 6/17/16 at 2:49 pm to Pavoloco83
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Where I do have concerns is with mixed kids. They take shite from both races
Not quite like in the past. Mixed kids are commonly some of the most attractive people, especially in rural areas where the genes seem to be getting too similar. Plus, our president for the last 8 years is mixed. That problem is on the decline.
I don't think this is a problem at all in decent sized cities. Maybe in very small country towns. But I don't expect a teacher with a masters degree to end up in bum frick Egypt. Things have changed a lot between generations.
And if he tries to tell the old joke, . What do you call a black guy with a masters degree?
Answer : either boss or sir
Preempt the dumb racist shite and prove a point. Just the fact that you've gone to a site with a lot of racist or pro segregation posters, says a lot about how conflicted you and how much you love this woman.
This post was edited on 6/17/16 at 3:00 pm
Posted on 6/17/16 at 2:50 pm to dwgsfrlife7673
Praying for you, good luck!
Posted on 6/17/16 at 4:29 pm to Stacked
Bring a watermelon. Everybody loves watermelon.
Posted on 6/17/16 at 4:36 pm to Pavoloco83
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Having said that, at the end of the day I found myself asking the following questions.
1. Is he a good man? (yes)
2. Does he love my daughter? (yes)
3. Does she love him? (yes)
4. Do they respect each other (seems so.)
5. Is he an ambitious person who would be a good provider/partner/husband in due course (I think so.)
6. Does he have a good family? (mostly)
At the end of the day, if these questions are all yes, then color is irrelevant. Im good with it.
Very sound philosophy.
Posted on 6/18/16 at 7:52 pm to JustGetItRight
No update? I hope OP made it out of there...
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