re: Girlfriend Pet Peeve

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I didn't text you back because I don't want to talk to your annoying arse, bitch.

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hell the worst was when she would do it while she knew i was in class or at an interview or at work. Like YOU KNOW I'M BUSY BITCH.

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Or for most it is just that. Because they are accepting that their SO isn't perfect and vice versa.

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I don't know of any couple whom if are constantly arguing about not folding the towels correctly, or whatever other insignificant issue, are actually arguing about that issue, and that has always been the case in my experience. It doesn't really have anything to do with being perfect.

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I don't know that I've ever known a couple that doesn't have those kind of complaints, happily together or not.

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Just had this conversation with friends the other day, some of whom are happily married; some are divorced or separated. In relationships that were happy & healthy, there weren't complaints about their partners' idiosyncrasies. They were thought of as charming or unique, not annoying, if noticed at all. They were regarded as extremely aggravating, some to the point of disproportionately aggravating, in the troubled relationships. Judging from my own past relationships, the happier they were, the less annoying my exes' "bad habits" were to me, and mine to him, I'm sure. Some of the same things that bothered me in the bad relationships, I didn't even notice in the good ones.

My parents who have been married 40 years can't think of anything the other does that irks them. They either don't notice, so it doesn't bother them, or they don't do certain things that they know will aggravate the other out of respect.

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I took the OP's complaint as just one of those run of the mill deals.

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Probably. "Table manner" issues are a pretty common pet peeve.

Every healthy relationship has their little annoyances. Anyone that says their SO doesn't do things that annoy them are liars.

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Dump her arse now. Make sure to tell her it's because of the way she eats dip.

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Strange that you take people disagreeing with your "experienced" opinion so personally.

It is a message board after all. People will actually share opposing opinions.

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The relationship I am in now is with a person who has no habits that irritate me. Not a thing about him aggravates me.

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Give it 10 years and 3 kids.

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Then you must know some pretty "perfect" couples.

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It would be more accurate to say I know some "pretty perfectly matched couples" and people who are able to recognize when they're in a relationship that's not good for them and have learned from it.

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I don't know of anyone that hasn't at some point complained to their guy/girlfriends about something their SO does that drives them crazy

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I know some of both (myself included, hence, the "experience") - people who constantly bitch about their partners and are not so happy in their relationship, and people who can't find a thing wrong with their partners; who find irritations that would be considered like fingernails on a chalkboard by most as charming in their partner.
I'm pretty sure most people know couples who fall into both categories.

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Using your criteria and "experience" everyone who has bitched in this thread are in unhappy/unhealthy relationships.

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My "criteria"?? I don't have any "criteria" for anyone regarding relationships except for me and my own which comes from my own past "experience" with them, and learning through previous ones, as well as learning from people with successful ones.
As far as this thread goes, I couldn't tell you who's even in it or who's bitched. I couldn't tell you about them or their relationships, and don't really care considering I don't know them. I take most things here with less than a grain of salt. Obviously, some here take it, and themselves, much too seriously, care way too much about folks' business that they have no clue about, and turn something that started out fun & tongue in cheek into ridiculousness. Bizarre people who give a shite about what someone else does or their opinions on things that has absolutely zero effect on their own lives.

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Give it 10 years and 3 kids

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Oh, I've been there, actually, a bit longer, but not the kids. That's where my "experience" comes from.

And don't mind Bluebell. She seems bitter about something.

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Not a thing about him aggravates me.

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Nothing? Not one single thing? Mrs. Tantal has a horrible habit of eating a cup of yogurt, then getting sidetracked by the kids and forgets to throw it away. I walk in to find an empty yogurt cup on the table with a spoon hanging out the top. Not a deal-breaker by any stretch, but I find it annoying. You don't have even a little thing that you find to be a nuisance?

Nah, just someone getting their granny panties in a bundle again because multiple people disagree with her assessment that if you find anything at all annoying about your SO you can't have a happy relationship.