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Serious question..if your S/O did this what would your response be?
Posted on 9/27/16 at 10:16 am
Posted on 9/27/16 at 10:16 am
My S/O of almost 7 months just dropped a bomb on me today:
He "loaned" a girl he met on twitter over $126 in July by moneygramming it to her. He 'claims' that he thought the girl and I were 'close friends' but I have never met this girl and outside of a few casual twitter replies to posts, I have no idea who she is. I don't know her last name, where she is from..nothing at all.
Then I get a txt from my "S/O" ASKING ME TO CALL THIS CHICK TO SEE IF I COULD GET HER TO PAY HIM BACK BC SHE HAS IGNORED HIS ATTEMPTS AT HAVING HER PAY HIM BACK!!!!!!!!! WHAT in the frick?!
Who does that shite?! Goes behind their gf's back and gives another chick $ and then when she won't pay him back, he asks his gf to do it?!?!?
If there was nothing wrong with this, and it was not deceitful and a betrayal of trust, why wouldn't he have talked it over with me or even told me about it when it happened?
This guy knows the history of my ex being a serial cheater and completely dishonest and he also knew that he was the first guy I have actually had a serious relationship with since divorcing my ex...8 years ago. He knew all of that and still did it.
What do y'all think? I seriously need nonbiased opinions here.
Sorry this is so long..I am just hurt beyond belief and that kinda lends itself to rambling.
He "loaned" a girl he met on twitter over $126 in July by moneygramming it to her. He 'claims' that he thought the girl and I were 'close friends' but I have never met this girl and outside of a few casual twitter replies to posts, I have no idea who she is. I don't know her last name, where she is from..nothing at all.
Then I get a txt from my "S/O" ASKING ME TO CALL THIS CHICK TO SEE IF I COULD GET HER TO PAY HIM BACK BC SHE HAS IGNORED HIS ATTEMPTS AT HAVING HER PAY HIM BACK!!!!!!!!! WHAT in the frick?!
Who does that shite?! Goes behind their gf's back and gives another chick $ and then when she won't pay him back, he asks his gf to do it?!?!?
If there was nothing wrong with this, and it was not deceitful and a betrayal of trust, why wouldn't he have talked it over with me or even told me about it when it happened?
This guy knows the history of my ex being a serial cheater and completely dishonest and he also knew that he was the first guy I have actually had a serious relationship with since divorcing my ex...8 years ago. He knew all of that and still did it.
What do y'all think? I seriously need nonbiased opinions here.
Sorry this is so long..I am just hurt beyond belief and that kinda lends itself to rambling.
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Posted on 9/27/16 at 10:21 am to Carolina_Girl
I'm a dude, and I think his excuse that he thought y'all were close friends is BS. He's known you for 7 months. He should know who your close friends are.
Beyond the trust question, I would question the sanity of someone that would loan a complete stranger on the internet any sum of money, and I would cut tail and run the moment that person asked me to get involved by asking for the money back.
This guy sounds like a loser.
Beyond the trust question, I would question the sanity of someone that would loan a complete stranger on the internet any sum of money, and I would cut tail and run the moment that person asked me to get involved by asking for the money back.
This guy sounds like a loser.
Posted on 9/27/16 at 10:21 am to Carolina_Girl
Well, it's not good. I don't know enough to determine if his story has any credibility at all. I find it odd that he would tell you about it if he was up to no good though.
Posted on 9/27/16 at 10:31 am to Carolina_Girl
Somethings not right, he's either beyond dumb or lying to you.
Run, don't look back, God has a better fish in the sea for you
Run, don't look back, God has a better fish in the sea for you
Posted on 9/27/16 at 10:32 am to Carolina_Girl
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Who does that shite?! Goes behind their gf's back and gives another chick $ and then when she won't pay him back, he asks his gf to do it?!?!?
No smart people.
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What do y'all think?
I dont know enough about the situation to tell you what to do. But your S/O seems like a dumbass.
Posted on 9/27/16 at 10:39 am to Carolina_Girl
sketchy.
Seriously, he may have presented you a great opportunity to get out and move one to someone not questionable.
Good luck.
Seriously, he may have presented you a great opportunity to get out and move one to someone not questionable.
Good luck.
Posted on 9/27/16 at 10:43 am to Carolina_Girl
Seems shady as hell to me. not the loaning $$, but the not telling you.
My advice is to consider you S/O's action compared to actions of previous S/O, then look at the outcomes of those situations. If you see a pattern you don't like, then do the opposite of what you did previously.
My advice is to consider you S/O's action compared to actions of previous S/O, then look at the outcomes of those situations. If you see a pattern you don't like, then do the opposite of what you did previously.
Posted on 9/27/16 at 10:50 am to Carolina_Girl
I wouldn't be concerned he loaned a random girl some money. Maybe he is a nice guy and he thought he was helping someone.
I wouldn't be concerned if he got scammed because being gullible isn't a crime. Good people trust other people even when its not warranted.
I am concerned as frick he seems so worried about a trivial amount of money (like I can blow that drinking in a NOLA bar one night amount). That amount shouldn't be a big deal to him, and he really should have looked it as charity from the get go if he gave it to a stranger.
Either he is poor or he is cheap, and I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with either.
I wouldn't be concerned if he got scammed because being gullible isn't a crime. Good people trust other people even when its not warranted.
I am concerned as frick he seems so worried about a trivial amount of money (like I can blow that drinking in a NOLA bar one night amount). That amount shouldn't be a big deal to him, and he really should have looked it as charity from the get go if he gave it to a stranger.
Either he is poor or he is cheap, and I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with either.
Posted on 9/27/16 at 10:54 am to Carolina_Girl
This is very strange to me. Who borrows $126 dollars exactly from someone? At least round up to $130! 
Posted on 9/27/16 at 11:01 am to Carolina_Girl
Best case, this is bad judgement and a red flag nonetheless.
I find it odd that one would work so hard to get back 126 dollars. Is it possibly more?
I find it odd that one would work so hard to get back 126 dollars. Is it possibly more?
Posted on 9/27/16 at 11:08 am to Carolina_Girl
Sorry, but he is up to no good and this fails the smell test. He thought he was going to get some poon and it didn't work and now he is on the cover up. End it.
Posted on 9/27/16 at 11:09 am to Carolina_Girl
I hope he's hot because he's dumb as frick
Posted on 9/27/16 at 11:13 am to Carolina_Girl
Its only $126, if he was cheating or something he wouldnt have said anything. Sounds like he is a moron though
Posted on 9/27/16 at 11:16 am to Carolina_Girl
He sounds sketchy and not very bright. Lose him. Now.
Posted on 9/27/16 at 11:21 am to Carolina_Girl
Just curious, are yall living together/sharing finances, etc?
If so, that should be an immediate deal breaker. If not, it's his money and he shouldnt need to ask or inform you how he spends it.
That all being said, he sounds like he is either incredibly naïve, or he isnt telling you something about this person. Either way, big red flag. You dont need to be with someone that is bad at spending money, or is comfortable loaning it to a stranger and expecting any kind of repayment. Just my .02
If so, that should be an immediate deal breaker. If not, it's his money and he shouldnt need to ask or inform you how he spends it.
That all being said, he sounds like he is either incredibly naïve, or he isnt telling you something about this person. Either way, big red flag. You dont need to be with someone that is bad at spending money, or is comfortable loaning it to a stranger and expecting any kind of repayment. Just my .02
Posted on 9/27/16 at 11:24 am to Carolina_Girl
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He 'claims' that he thought the girl and I were 'close friends' but I have never met this girl and outside of a few casual twitter replies to posts, I have no idea who she is. I don't know her last name, where she is from..nothing at all.
Dafuq? This part is even more mystifying than the random moneygram.
Wife and I have 100% visibility over each other's finances, so this situation would be highly unusual if it were to happen to us.
Sounds more stupid than shady, though.
Posted on 9/27/16 at 11:29 am to Carolina_Girl
The dude in this situation is a fricking moron
Posted on 9/27/16 at 11:33 am to Carolina_Girl
Who says 'over $126'? Wouldn't a normal person say 'over $120' or $125? Or just over $100?
When words like over/under are used rounding up or down is usually involved. That was just strange.
Your boyfriend gave money to a random girl on twitter?
This entire situation sounds like dumpster trash.
*I said more, but it was pretty mean and I'd like to last at least a month before I'm banned.
It involved dropping L Bee's, Wal Mart, a truck driver and some other things. It was harsh. But probably the best advice you're gonna get.
When words like over/under are used rounding up or down is usually involved. That was just strange.
Your boyfriend gave money to a random girl on twitter?
This entire situation sounds like dumpster trash.
*I said more, but it was pretty mean and I'd like to last at least a month before I'm banned.
It involved dropping L Bee's, Wal Mart, a truck driver and some other things. It was harsh. But probably the best advice you're gonna get.
This post was edited on 9/27/16 at 11:38 am
Posted on 9/27/16 at 11:39 am to Carolina_Girl
Dump him. The fact that he loaned money to a girl isn't worrisome. It's the fact that he did it over the internet without even knowing her. He probably just got catfished and you have to be pretty fricking stupid to have that happen to you.
If you want to have investments on a Nigerian Prince's wealth in the future, then stay with him. Otherwise, you can probably do better.
If you want to have investments on a Nigerian Prince's wealth in the future, then stay with him. Otherwise, you can probably do better.
This post was edited on 9/27/16 at 11:40 am
Posted on 9/27/16 at 11:53 am to Carolina_Girl
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Carolina_Girl
Like someone else said....run & don't look back.
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