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What to do: college roommate is gay
Posted on 8/5/14 at 11:28 pm
Posted on 8/5/14 at 11:28 pm
So, my kid just found out that his college roommate is gay - he came out of the closet on social media and has stated he hates sports.
My son has never met him, just through social media and they don't move in for a week or so. My kid did not look comfortable when he told me about it, not that he dislikes anyone, but he wants someone more like him . . . into sports (my son will compete in a sport in college) and very into girls.
Any suggestions? This is his first year of college and it is several states away.
My son has never met him, just through social media and they don't move in for a week or so. My kid did not look comfortable when he told me about it, not that he dislikes anyone, but he wants someone more like him . . . into sports (my son will compete in a sport in college) and very into girls.
Any suggestions? This is his first year of college and it is several states away.
This post was edited on 8/5/14 at 11:30 pm
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Posted on 8/5/14 at 11:30 pm to Bham4Tide
Tell him to lube up
Posted on 8/5/14 at 11:32 pm to Bham4Tide
Posted on 8/5/14 at 11:34 pm to Bham4Tide
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...it is several states away.
Louisiana?
Posted on 8/5/14 at 11:35 pm to five_fivesix
in the midwest
Posted on 8/5/14 at 11:35 pm to Bham4Tide
Well, that gay dude will probably get to know more hot chicks than your son could imagine. So that's a plus.
I've never gone wrong with having a gay friend or two, as far as that goes.
That being said, if he's not comfortable, it's understandable. If that dude is a drama queen, he's not gonna like it at all. If he's just a regular arse gay dude, it won't be so bad.
Honestly, you're the one paying for his school, and it's his first year, if he seems discombobulated, find him a new roommate. You gotta do what's best for your kid, if it's a distraction, and is really going to upset HIS apple cart, not yours, his. Then move him somewhere else.
If he's cool with it, let him live his life. That's what college is about.
I've never gone wrong with having a gay friend or two, as far as that goes.
That being said, if he's not comfortable, it's understandable. If that dude is a drama queen, he's not gonna like it at all. If he's just a regular arse gay dude, it won't be so bad.
Honestly, you're the one paying for his school, and it's his first year, if he seems discombobulated, find him a new roommate. You gotta do what's best for your kid, if it's a distraction, and is really going to upset HIS apple cart, not yours, his. Then move him somewhere else.
If he's cool with it, let him live his life. That's what college is about.
Posted on 8/5/14 at 11:38 pm to Bham4Tide
Get over it.... That's all you can do. A lot of gay guys know to get over straight men. Why not vice versa?
Posted on 8/5/14 at 11:40 pm to Bham4Tide
Tell your boy to sleep on his back and if there's something hanging on the door knob, DO NOT ENTER!
Seriously though, it shouldn't be an issue.
Seriously though, it shouldn't be an issue.
Posted on 8/5/14 at 11:43 pm to DanniDoodle
just email the housing people and ask for a change of roommate. They do it at Auburn and UGA for things way less important than this all the time. I know a chick from uga that got a new roommate because her's was a night owl and she was an early bird. Any college should switch out the roommate with no hesitation.
Posted on 8/5/14 at 11:46 pm to five_fivesix
His first thing was, "Dad I don't want to walk in to dudes making out or gay sex."
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Posted on 8/5/14 at 11:50 pm to BZ853
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I know a chick from uga
Oh don't we all
Posted on 8/5/14 at 11:52 pm to Bham4Tide
Had a college room mate that was very much culturally different than me. His habits that were stereotypical of his heritage were very distracting. He was also not very friendly at all the first 3 days I was there. My parents paid extra and got me my own room. I was very thankful, would have been a long very uncomfortable semester.
Posted on 8/5/14 at 11:55 pm to Bham4Tide
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my kid just found out that his college roommate is gay
Your son is an Aggie?
Posted on 8/5/14 at 11:57 pm to Bham4Tide
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His first thing was, "Dad I don't want to walk in to dudes making out or gay sex." Even left-leaning straight guys like him don't want to see that.
That's why the sock on the door was invented.
It works for everything.
I'm convinced you'll find the answers from somewhere other than an Internet message board though.
Posted on 8/5/14 at 11:59 pm to Bham4Tide
Ask the school to change roommates.... Say it makes you so uncomfortable that you're thinking about suicide. That should work. and if it doesn't, then you go to one shitty school.
Posted on 8/6/14 at 12:03 am to TbirdSpur2010
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Your son is an Aggie
my only regret in life is I didn't respond with this first......
and that one time at band camp.
Posted on 8/6/14 at 12:05 am to five_fivesix
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my only regret in life is I didn't respond with this first......
I was shocked that that response was still on the board, tbh
Y'all slippin' tonight
Posted on 8/6/14 at 12:36 am to Bham4Tide
Your son will meet people from all walks of life as he ages. I think it's best that he not over react and ask for another roommate right now. He doesn't want to be labeled a homophobe.
Ask him to try tolerating the situation for a while. If the two of them do have a genuine personality conflict then, by all means, he should find a new roommate. I think the school understands that this can happen and I'm sure they'll do right by your son.
Ask him to try tolerating the situation for a while. If the two of them do have a genuine personality conflict then, by all means, he should find a new roommate. I think the school understands that this can happen and I'm sure they'll do right by your son.
Posted on 8/6/14 at 12:43 am to Bham4Tide
Buy your son a condo
Posted on 8/6/14 at 12:50 am to Bham4Tide
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My kid did not look comfortable when he told me about it, not that he dislikes anyone, but he wants someone more like him . . . into sports (my son will compete in a sport in college) and very into girls.
Don't most schools do roommate matching these days? My son completed a profile so he could be matched with people who shared similar interests, hobbies, activities, etc.
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