re: Considering Golf, tennis, and hockey for my children

Tennis and golf are the only sports you really keep on playing as an adult.

My daughter is in fencing. Being a trained female fence with (by the time she is looking at college) 10 years of fencing, she should be able to pull a scholarship fairly easily. And it’s a great martial art to learn for both body and mind.

Do some of you really live your lives this way?

Let your kids do whatever they want and make them do it to the best of their ability and learn how to grind and love the art of working and seeing improvement.

Politics? Seriously?

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like what it means to be part of a team and how to handle winning and losing, but those lessons are also being forced out

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I understand your thinking here but I respectfully disagree. Winning and losing are still very important lessons in organized sports and are still very prominent. Especially in high school sports, there are no participation trophies for losing and it's easy to feel the weight of a loss vs. the energy of a win. Dealing with teammates and discipline from coaching are also learned. According to my current employer, I landed the position I have because I related my past experiences with high school baseball to teamwork, work ethic, and being coachable.

The important thing is to get your child onto a team with a coach and other players that understand and share this mentality. Putting a child on a sports team for the sake of being on a team doesn't help near as much in the long run.

Yea okay.

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I have been guilty of spending too much time directed toward organized sports. If my kids want to play something that’s fine, but I have come to the realization that they would be better served In life with more time devoted toward hunting, fishing, and camping and less time spent playing sports. I’m not saying there aren’t still good lessons to be learned from organized team sports like what it means to be part of a team and how to handle winning and losing, but those lessons are also being forced out, so the benefits outside of physical activity are becoming fewer and fewer.

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In other words, you just want them to avoid Black people.

What a snowflake

If you're actually adverse to getting your kid into one of the big 3 I would actually recommend getting them into BJJ. They'll learn all of the lessons they would in traditional sports, and they'll be able to handle themselves if they ever find themselves in a position where they need to defend themselves.

While you compete as an individual in BJJ, you train with and are part of a team. All of the life lessons you learn in traditional sports as far as teamwork, adversity, learning how to win and lose the right way are all applicable to BJJ, and again, they have the added benefit of being able to defend themselves or others if they need to.