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Wife quit her professional medical job when we decided to have a kid
Posted on 1/3/17 at 9:43 pm
Posted on 1/3/17 at 9:43 pm
Her pregnancy was the happiest time of her life.
Even with our kid here now and all the added challenge/stress/lack of sleep, things have never been better.
Before, both of us came home tired and stressed and she bitched about the cleaning or cooking or whatever.
Now she takes pride and joy in providing a clean home and good meal for her husband.
She is thankful to be able to be home providing care for our baby.
With her focus entirely on family and home, instead of work, she has a newfound respect for her husband being the sole provider for our family.
I have a newfound appreciation for all she does for me and the family when I see what I come home to now.
Everyone is happier. More balanced. Our household is more functional. We understand and fit into our separate roles perfectly.
frick her degree. frick the extra income. frick women's lib.
This is the way it always should have been.
Even with our kid here now and all the added challenge/stress/lack of sleep, things have never been better.
Before, both of us came home tired and stressed and she bitched about the cleaning or cooking or whatever.
Now she takes pride and joy in providing a clean home and good meal for her husband.
She is thankful to be able to be home providing care for our baby.
With her focus entirely on family and home, instead of work, she has a newfound respect for her husband being the sole provider for our family.
I have a newfound appreciation for all she does for me and the family when I see what I come home to now.
Everyone is happier. More balanced. Our household is more functional. We understand and fit into our separate roles perfectly.
frick her degree. frick the extra income. frick women's lib.
This is the way it always should have been.
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Posted on 1/3/17 at 10:02 pm to genro
I guess there is something to money not always buying happiness.
Posted on 1/3/17 at 10:25 pm to genro
My mom did the same thing when she had me. Left her job as a military officer to be a stay at home mother, and I am forever grateful 
Aggiebelle actually did something similar when she left the USAF this year--she knew damn well she was taking a major pay cut, but we both wanted to have a family and she wanted a job that was less demanding so she could spend more time raising kids/being a wife (our relationship was hard to manage with us both in the military).
She's so much happier now it's crazy. Even with her pregnancy hormones going bonkers. Best decision she/we ever made.
Congrats, genro. Happy for y'all
Aggiebelle actually did something similar when she left the USAF this year--she knew damn well she was taking a major pay cut, but we both wanted to have a family and she wanted a job that was less demanding so she could spend more time raising kids/being a wife (our relationship was hard to manage with us both in the military).
She's so much happier now it's crazy. Even with her pregnancy hormones going bonkers. Best decision she/we ever made.
Congrats, genro. Happy for y'all
Posted on 1/3/17 at 10:30 pm to genro
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This is the way it always should have been.
Maybe for you and your wife, but not for everyone.
Posted on 1/3/17 at 10:30 pm to genro
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This is the way it always should have been.
Maybe for you and your wife, but not for everyone.
Posted on 1/3/17 at 10:30 pm to genro
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This is the way it always should have been.
Maybe for you and your wife, but not for everyone.
Posted on 1/3/17 at 10:33 pm to genro
Timely thread. Wife and I have fricking had it with kid A staying sick from daycare and Kid B getting bad influence from after school care. Close to pulling the plug. But she enjoys her job and neither of us are great full time parents so its a hard call to make. Plus we both have dreams of living on land someday and that won't be cheap.
But man do I want that balance right now.
But man do I want that balance right now.
Posted on 1/3/17 at 11:42 pm to genro
How are you gonna get those shiny new Bama tires?
This post was edited on 1/3/17 at 11:51 pm
Posted on 1/4/17 at 12:38 am to genro
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frick the extra income.
Just please wear clothes that fit.
Posted on 1/4/17 at 7:51 am to genro
My wife would be miserable staying at home. What works for some doesn't work for others.
Posted on 1/4/17 at 8:25 am to genro
The highest income earner in our household got to go to work. The other got to stay at home. With the first kid, I was making better money so she stayed at home. By the time our second kid came around, my wife's part time startup business turned into a full time business. She was making more than I was so I stayed at home. Youngest just turned 16 and now I'm reentering the workforce and going back to school.
It'll be nice to have the two incomes again. We look forward to downsizing and looking for a lake house.
It'll be nice to have the two incomes again. We look forward to downsizing and looking for a lake house.
Posted on 1/4/17 at 9:10 am to genro
Is this the thread we add this
As much as us white males would love to bring back the 1950s, we should probably not do that.
With 2 kids so far, I am glad that both of us work and survive doing it. My opinion of children raised by stay-at-home moms is probably not like others. Those kids on average (not all) tend to be less socially skilled entering school and many times behind in the educational level. They also tend to get sick more, as daycare kids have already built up immunity to many germs.
As much as us white males would love to bring back the 1950s, we should probably not do that.
With 2 kids so far, I am glad that both of us work and survive doing it. My opinion of children raised by stay-at-home moms is probably not like others. Those kids on average (not all) tend to be less socially skilled entering school and many times behind in the educational level. They also tend to get sick more, as daycare kids have already built up immunity to many germs.
Posted on 1/4/17 at 9:33 am to genro
Money doesn't equal happiness. Your story shows that.
Posted on 1/4/17 at 10:01 am to genro
Excellent post
It is how we have done it our whole marriage. She is no lesser a person than me. My wife loves being able to volunteer at the schools and involved with parent groups.
There has always been little chaos living this way. For 3 years she worked in sales for her brothers company opening a new territory. She was successful but unhappy and missed picking up the kids and all the other tasks of being a mother.
She no longer is in sales for her brother and all is smooth and Happy again.
It is how we have done it our whole marriage. She is no lesser a person than me. My wife loves being able to volunteer at the schools and involved with parent groups.
There has always been little chaos living this way. For 3 years she worked in sales for her brothers company opening a new territory. She was successful but unhappy and missed picking up the kids and all the other tasks of being a mother.
She no longer is in sales for her brother and all is smooth and Happy again.
Posted on 1/4/17 at 10:32 am to genro
When my kids were young, I made the decision to take a job that allowed me to stay home with them while my wife worked. So, in a way, we didn't buy into the political bs that the husband should be the one that goes out while the wife stays home. We also didn't care about traditional gender roles. I did the laundry, made dinner, read books to the kids, etc. I got to spend quality time with my children that a lot fathers don't get to do and I feel very thankful to have had that opportunity. Now that my kids are older, my wife and I both work outside the home. We don't put as much value in material things as we do experiences. We work hard so that we can travel and expose our children to the natural world and other cultures.
Posted on 1/4/17 at 10:56 am to genro
I do know one thing: My girlfriend and I hate having all this extra money, free time and lack of responsibility. It really sucks knowing that I can call her at 11 PM and we can go to the midnight screening of any given movie of our choice.
Sure is terrible.
Sure is terrible.
Posted on 1/4/17 at 1:11 pm to genro
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frick her degree. frick the extra income. frick women's lib.
Congrats to her for taking a spot in medical school that could have been used for a Man that wouldn't have quit after a few years.
Posted on 1/4/17 at 3:46 pm to genro
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Before, both of us came home tired and stressed and she bitched about the cleaning or cooking or whatever.
So you can afford to be a single income family but couldn't afford a housekeeper and eating out when adding a "professional medical job" as a second income?
Alternatively, maybe you could have helped her clean/cook/whatever instead of drinking beer on the couch
This post was edited on 1/4/17 at 3:47 pm
Posted on 1/4/17 at 4:10 pm to genro
I work from home exclusively while my wife who owns a restaurant works a mixture of day and night shifts. Since I'm very knowledgeable of her business, I've been working two of of week night shifts of the weeknights...Gives her two more days off and no loss in income...
Those two days have really made a difference in our home life...We have a daughter that is 10 so it helps for her to be there for her in these puberty years...don't forget the extra sects
It works for us
Those two days have really made a difference in our home life...We have a daughter that is 10 so it helps for her to be there for her in these puberty years...don't forget the extra sects
It works for us
Posted on 1/4/17 at 4:19 pm to genro
I am a big free market guy, but I don't believe humans are perfect economic creatures, so we do need some guidelines and laws that can accommodate that. We have to accept certain economic realities that many women need to work, and should be able to do so, but the family unit should be something we as a society nurture and respect, IMO.
I had a mother that worked growing up, but for a lot of years, she controlled her own schedule, and could accommodate me and and my sister with motherly duties.
I think we should give make maternity as financially viable as possible with our tax system. I don't know the best way to do this, but I think it's important.
I had a mother that worked growing up, but for a lot of years, she controlled her own schedule, and could accommodate me and and my sister with motherly duties.
I think we should give make maternity as financially viable as possible with our tax system. I don't know the best way to do this, but I think it's important.
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