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Who Here Has Had This Feeling?
Posted on 4/6/14 at 6:14 pm
Posted on 4/6/14 at 6:14 pm
I've been feeling down and anti-social today, which may be a result of how much fun I had Friday and Saturday.
The Feeling
The amount of people you like is few to none. Instead, you just like your interactions with certain people or those people's characteristics. You may not even like yourself.
I've got interpersonal relationships with many people, but I'm not sure that I care that much about them. I can enjoy spending time with them, and they have their good qualities, but I'm not sure that I actually have an emotional attachment to any of them. All of these interpersonal relationships are familial or neighborly; there are neither sexual nor romantic elements present in any of these relationships.
I honestly don't feel that close to anyone, and I sometimes wonder if I'll ever have a close friend or a partner. I'm 20 and have never dated or been involved in a serious relationship. I'm not seeking or interested in dating right now.
The Feeling
The amount of people you like is few to none. Instead, you just like your interactions with certain people or those people's characteristics. You may not even like yourself.
I've got interpersonal relationships with many people, but I'm not sure that I care that much about them. I can enjoy spending time with them, and they have their good qualities, but I'm not sure that I actually have an emotional attachment to any of them. All of these interpersonal relationships are familial or neighborly; there are neither sexual nor romantic elements present in any of these relationships.
I honestly don't feel that close to anyone, and I sometimes wonder if I'll ever have a close friend or a partner. I'm 20 and have never dated or been involved in a serious relationship. I'm not seeking or interested in dating right now.
Posted on 4/6/14 at 6:20 pm to Aurora Borealis
Sorry. You've caught the ghey
Posted on 4/6/14 at 6:27 pm to Aurora Borealis
Feelings are a beta move, bro.
Posted on 4/6/14 at 6:39 pm to Aurora Borealis
I am a loner for the most part. The only people I talk to regularly are my father and my best friend who I have known for 20 years. I have other friends and acquaintances, but only hang out with them on occasion. Like I have a concert buddy and an Alabama football buddy, but I have never hung out with them at the same time.
Posted on 4/6/14 at 6:48 pm to Aurora Borealis
There's nothing wrong with wanting to be alone on Sunday, fwiw.
About the dating, I thought the same thing until right before I turned 21. Eventually you'll develop a want for a relationship, I think, unless you're asexual, and there's nothing wrong with that. It's complicated, but I understand how you feel, I think. If you want to PM me, email me at birdfrombama@aol.com.
About the dating, I thought the same thing until right before I turned 21. Eventually you'll develop a want for a relationship, I think, unless you're asexual, and there's nothing wrong with that. It's complicated, but I understand how you feel, I think. If you want to PM me, email me at birdfrombama@aol.com.
Posted on 4/6/14 at 7:12 pm to Aurora Borealis
I've never had a feeling.
See a doctor if you're sad.
See a doctor if you're sad.
Posted on 4/6/14 at 7:13 pm to Aurora Borealis
I've been there before man. I wasn't necessarily a loner a lot but I wasn't accepted by many people. After having all the fun with the ladies and the goofy bro times, I thought what I wanted at the moment was a chick to tell me how great I was or at least some dude to smack talk how much he's gonna kick my arse at a video game.
But I got to the point (I'm 20 as well), I just turned my give a frick switch. Me and my brother go out and have a great time at the movies, clubs, among other things. Women are nothing more than a distraction and a bank account destroyer in marriage these days with few exceptions.
I will never marry because I don't want kids and I have no desire to be stuck with someone who'll probably screw my life over in 10-20 years. So do what you must. Don't let life get you down. And frick all these people in this thread. Just typical rantards.
Hope everything goes well for you going forward.
But I got to the point (I'm 20 as well), I just turned my give a frick switch. Me and my brother go out and have a great time at the movies, clubs, among other things. Women are nothing more than a distraction and a bank account destroyer in marriage these days with few exceptions.
I will never marry because I don't want kids and I have no desire to be stuck with someone who'll probably screw my life over in 10-20 years. So do what you must. Don't let life get you down. And frick all these people in this thread. Just typical rantards.
Hope everything goes well for you going forward.
Posted on 4/6/14 at 7:29 pm to Aurora Borealis
Hey, I used to be where you are. Then I dated a bunch of crazy women, and now I am back where you are.
Everybody is alone on some level. Don't sweat it. I care about plenty of people, but I am not super attached to any of them.
Maybe we share the same sociopathology.
I think maybe you are just a little bit of an introvert. It took me many years to discover this about myself. I make friends easily, but I get worn out if I have to interact with lots of people all of the time. It just doesn't suit me. That's just the way I am.
I get what I consider to be a normal amount of "lonely" if I isolate myself, but I need time alone in order to feel sane.
Everybody is alone on some level. Don't sweat it. I care about plenty of people, but I am not super attached to any of them.
Maybe we share the same sociopathology.
I think maybe you are just a little bit of an introvert. It took me many years to discover this about myself. I make friends easily, but I get worn out if I have to interact with lots of people all of the time. It just doesn't suit me. That's just the way I am.
I get what I consider to be a normal amount of "lonely" if I isolate myself, but I need time alone in order to feel sane.
Posted on 4/6/14 at 7:35 pm to Aurora Borealis
I basically have a pretty close circle of people I hang out with along with the SO and family. I'm pretty introverted in that respect. There's a difference in keeping a close circle and being legitimately unhappy/lonely though. You should be able to garner happiness without outside influence (i.e. other people). If you're unable to do that, you may want to talk to someone about it.
Posted on 4/6/14 at 8:07 pm to Aurora Borealis
i was having too much fun at 20 to think about dating seriously. had casual friends and liked my time alone. best of both worlds imo
Posted on 4/6/14 at 8:36 pm to Aurora Borealis
shite man, appreciate your solitude. Being around people all the time blows. I've always valued my alone time. Make yourself happy and use other relationships to supplement your happiness, not to make your happiness.
Get some structure in your life and start some sort of exercise routine, even if it's power walking or some shite. If you're not a good looking guy, learn to munch box. Hell, learn that anyway, it will serve you well in a few years.
I don't get the whole "feeling better talking to internet people vs real people" thing. I guess it's a generational thing. Not knowing who I'm talking to on here still freaks me out.
Get some structure in your life and start some sort of exercise routine, even if it's power walking or some shite. If you're not a good looking guy, learn to munch box. Hell, learn that anyway, it will serve you well in a few years.
I don't get the whole "feeling better talking to internet people vs real people" thing. I guess it's a generational thing. Not knowing who I'm talking to on here still freaks me out.
Posted on 4/6/14 at 8:41 pm to Aurora Borealis
If you want to create some relationships, I can tell you from experience that you will never do it by trying to create them just for the sake of having a relationship with somebody.
You need to get out, develop some hobbies and interests, and from that relationships will follow.
You need to get out, develop some hobbies and interests, and from that relationships will follow.
This post was edited on 4/6/14 at 8:42 pm
Posted on 4/6/14 at 8:43 pm to Aurora Borealis
I have a tendency to isolate myself from others, friends and family included. It's not something I'm proud of, but it happens, nonetheless.
I've also learned that it's smarter to have a few great friends, than a lot of shitty friends.
I've also learned that it's smarter to have a few great friends, than a lot of shitty friends.
Posted on 4/6/14 at 10:17 pm to Aurora Borealis
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I'm 20 and have never dated or been involved in a serious relationship. I'm not seeking or interested in dating right now.
I was about the same until 21 -- it's not all that unnatural. I was just completely uninterested in girls at my high school (I dropped out eventually).
It took a high school (ironic) Asian girl to deter me, and it worked well. It'll hit you, too, eventually.
Posted on 4/7/14 at 8:43 am to Aurora Borealis
I can somewhat relate. I've always had a hard time making new friends. Part of that is me being somewhat anti-social and being diagnosed with social anxiety. The weird thing is I'm looked at as the social butterfly in my family. I've tended to always gravitate towards the social butterflies. Kind of the yin to my yang. My best friend has never met a stranger, nor has my wife. I'm terrified of going into a social situation where I don't know anyone.
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