re: Pray for me guys.

Does the state of Alabama not perform an autopsy at no charge of someone dies in their home?

I know the state of Mississippi does.

ETA: Just looked it up. It is free:

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5. What is an autopsy and is there a charge?

An autopsy is the examination and dissection of a decedent by a physician for the purpose of determining the cause and manner of death, obtaining specimens for specialized testing, retrieving physical evidence and identifying the decedent. This is a free service provided to the citizens of the State of Alabama.

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Commander Data - I posted in the thread that was in place but I see it is now gone.

Hoss, I feel for you. I deal with life and death almost daily. But, even though I have been involved with numerous deaths in my 35 years in the ER, nothing prepared me for my wife’s sudden death.

I think back to those days three and a half years ago and wonder how did I make it? At the time I had a number of people tell me just get through the day. I couldn’t understand why they kept telling me this. About a month into it, I sat down and spent quiet time thinking about it as it seemed like weeks since I slept.

It was then that I realized what people had meant. Just get through the day, get to the next day and just keep repeating this. It will start falling together for you.

Hard to imagine right now but life continues. Things happen that will bring back memories. Don’t fight those times. Take a step back, think about these triggers and smile. Smile because you had her for a number of years which is better than never having her.

I pray for you Hoss. I pray that over the coming days, weeks and months you find comfort as you push yourself through this.

Need to talk drop me an email

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Praying for you and your family man. While I can’t feel your pain what I can say is if you want to honor your wife and the life she provided for you and your children throwing that away seems like a bad way to repay her. Hold fast, stay in prayer, call your local pastor, any pastor and meet with them.

Data I’m so sorry for your loss! You and your family will be in my prayers. Your kids need you brother. Your wife would want you to hold your head up and be strong for your children. You HAVE to be strong! I know we don’t know one another but I live about an hour away from you and I will drop everything if you need anything. I’ve dealt with a devastating loss like you’re experiencing now so I can relate.

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Any updates on CD? Just hoping things are good.

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lost my 43 year wife last night and I am fighting temptations of ending my life. This is a cry for prayer. I keep finding reasons not to eat this whole bottle of Xanax and maybe I am just crying out for attention but I am broken and in bad shape. Please pray for me and my kids. I am completely broken and devastated. Thank you.

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CD I can tell you as someone who lost my birth mother at 6 years old if I didn’t have my Dad idk if I could have made it. The first 2 or so years were rough but Dad being strong pulled us through it and eventually my dad remarried to the person I call Mom now. Be strong for your kids because as someone who has experienced it It means A LOT.

Commander Data

I wanted to add this for you. When my wife passed away and like I previously stated, I sat down to think about things. One thing I told myself was this and I think with things you have been through you are a strong person who will get through this, so my thoughts about myself at the time were:

You are not the first person this has happened to

You will not be the last person to go through this

If others have gone through it, and many much weaker than you have gone through and came out of it okay, no reason why you cannot do so also

Stay the course Hoss. In the next few days and weeks while the adrenaline is flowing you will think you need to solve all the problems immediately. This is not the case. Slow things down, slow the process down. Put things on your timeline and not other’s timeline. Act when you are ready to act. You got this man

Data, I lost my wife back in 2018. It’s a pain unlike any other. Go to the local Emergency Room right now and let them know what is going on with you. You have to stay here in this life for your children; they’ve lost 1 parent already and you’re all they have left. Please do what I am asking you to do. You are in my prayers, my brother.