re: Getting over heartbreak

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Honestly was thinking about doing this tonight haha.. I don’t know how much better it will make me feel but it’s worth a shot.. thanks for uplifting advice brother

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The sex itself won't make you feel better and you'll probably end up thinking about your ex and crying while you're on top of her. But it will help you realize that you still got it and can go out and get another chick whenever you're ready.

And if somehow you can accidentally run into her at the club with another broad on your arm, or tell one of her firends and it gets back to her, all the better. Makes you feel a little better for sticking it to your ex...

not as good as it once was.

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Seen too many getting hurt, so I gave up along time ago.

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Just some general advice. It may or may not apply.

1). When you are in a long-term relation make sure all your friends are not her friends. Women will try to steer you away from your friends and into her clicque. So when there is a breakup not only are you separated but suddenly you are short of friends at a critical moment.

2). Don't do everything with your girl. Have your own hobbies and interests. If you do everything you like with your girl you won't enjoy those things without her around. That's probably why you aren't bouncing back quickly.

3). Have a side piece. In order to maintain OT cred, every guy should be required to have a FWB. There are literally tons of girls out there who do not want a serious relationship, but would happily trade a blowjob for a romantic night out every once in a while. And if things go bad you have a fallback plan. Just don't màke your side piece her best friend or roommate or something stupid like that.

If you were in a relationship for 3.5 years, she probably started thinking about breaking up with you several months prior. Women always have an exit plan and they love a soft landing. They mày seem cavalier about breaking up but they've done all their thinking well in advance.

The best thing you can do is let her see you in out & happy in the company of another woman. This will make her regret her actions. And women hate to regret anything.

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If you were in a relationship for 3.5 years, she probably started thinking about breaking up with you several months prior. Women always have an exit plan and they love a soft landing. They mày seem cavalier about breaking up but they've done all their thinking well in advance.

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This x1000, women are so much better at break ups than we are.


When my ex wife hit me with "I just fell out of love with you", it felt like it came from out of nowhere, and my first thoughts were

"bullshite, there's someone else".

Or

"Ok, I must have done something really bad to piss her off this much, but I have no idea what it was ".


It was neither of those things. To my knowledge, she never cheated on me and if she did, it had nothing to do with me as a man, it would have been a way for her to detach from me emotionally.

Since I wasn't emotionally prepared for the break up, and she was, she had all the power in the divorce negotiations. She got the house, the furniture, the wedding gifts, my lawnmower (GOD frickING DAMNIT), my dog. I guess I figured if I was overly generous, she would reconsider her decision to end the marriage. SO frickING STUPID

I ended up with my car, my clothes, a TV, and my Xbox (she tried to get that too, but frick that, the fricking xbox is mine).

Anyway, 6 months after we separated, I woke up one morning, and I said "frick her", and I was over it. 2 months later, the divorce was final and I was relieved. I had deleted her number from my phone, no need or desire to ever speak to her again. A friend told me she was in a new relationship, and I was indifferent to this news. THAT felt great, to feel nothing.

A few months later on my birthday, I get a text from her out of the blue

"Happy birthday, how are you?" I responded "fine, thanks". She tried to start a conversation, I just kept responding with 1 word answers, not being hateful or anything, just trying to convey the message that I'm not interested in small talk.

She informs me that she found my passport when she was cleaning and offered to bring it or mail it to me. I didn't want her having my new address so I agreed to pick it up from her house. When I get there, I notice that she's wearing an engagement ring, apparently her new boyfriend had proposed a few days earlier, I jokingly said "that was fast". She asked how I felt about it, I told her the truth "I don't care".

She gets mad, "why do have to be so cold to me, I'm trying to be nice and you're just being an a-hole, blah blah blah". Then it occurs to me, what the frick am I doing here? I signed a legal document that freed me from my obligation to listen to this shite. I Start to leave, and she grabs my arm and apologizes and hugs me.

Long story short, we end up having sex. Angry, break up sex. I've never fricked harder in my life, last time I'm ever gonna see her, I was gonna wreck that pussy. Clothes torn and scattered all over the living room, broken lamp on the ground, I got scratches all over my chest and back. I finish, on her new couch btw, put my clothes back on, don't say a word, and leave.


She called me a few days later, I didn't answer. She texts me a few times over the next few weeks, I never respond.

I was never actively seeking revenge, but I got it, and it was sweet

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Vols&Shaft83

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I just took it out on other women's lower units. It never occurred to me to take it out on my ex-wife's lower unit.

And she lived 7.5 hours away.

Make sure your rebound is twice as hot as she was to piss her off.

You don't need to block her number or stop all contact, but get rid of all her shite. If she contacts you, be polite but cold as ice.

Pick up hobbies. Nothing's worse than going home from work and spending your life alone. Go work out at a kickboxing gym. Shoot at a pistol range. Pull up a stool at the nearest bar and chat up bartenders until you make a friend. Buy a fish tank or some plants and appreciate that new hobby. Buy a jeep and join the local jeep club.

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All of a sudden she dumped me for a fat mf and she told me she “lost feelings” for me.

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Find out what he had that you did not. Probably not healthy to try and get back together but at least you can learn what you may need to work on in your mating game.

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anybody have any tips to get over her fast?

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3 way with her mom and sister has helped me get over a woman in the past. Sure it is petty and short sighted but it sure eases the pain.

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F*cking beta move. A man who gives up their lawnmower OR dog (much less both) needs to turn in their man card post haste.

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Well considering I wasn't in a position to buy a house at the time, and nobody will let you bring a full grown Rottweiler into a rental, it was either let her keep him or give him away.