re: Divorced guys and gals. What ended your marriage and who made the call?

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Then I understood the loneliness and thoughts of abandonment she felt.

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You beta

You guys crack me up, you think 10k is a lot to get out of a bad marriage. I'm closing in on ten years ago and a half mil to get free of my crazy ex. Let me give a word of advice.

Don't ever try to pull macho shite in court. Cheating means nothing here. Assets are allotted without guilt being assigned. My ex was batshit crazy, about a half step from the ward, if she would have gone before the divorce I'd be on the hook for the cost. I settled big out of court to protect an even larger asset.

Freedom ain't free.

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Of course that is funny. I should have expected a young woman with no money or assets to pay for the divorce. Or is it hilarious that I thought the situation was really my fault for leaving her alone for 6 months just 1 yr after we got married?

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You did the right thing. Keeping it civil and and getting it over with are the best you can do.

I haven't been divorced but this is my opinion.

Was married for three years and she went on a girls trip. Comes back and says she is not happy, I tell her we can work it out. 2 months later she says she's going to go spend some time with some friends across town. Two weeks later she comes back and says she's through. I'm pretty easy to get along with so I'm like if she is unhappy I will give her a divorce. She wants to expedite the separation date (Louisiana).We are amicable during the whole thing and split the assets with her getting the majority of money and furniture. Well one month after the divorce is final and after both of us had moved, I find out she's pregnant. Needless to say I was livid and to tops things off we both live in the same city now. I've seen her, him, and the kid a handful of times over the course of two years. My one and only regret is being too nice and not getting a lawyer because I honestly thought she was just unhappy. I am very leary on who I trust now. Cheating bitch!

Married going on a "girls trip" frick that shite.

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Was married for three years and she went on a girls trip. Comes back and says she is not happy, I tell her we can work it out. 2 months later she says she's going to go spend some time with some friends across town. Two weeks later she comes back and says she's through. I'm pretty easy to get along with so I'm like if she is unhappy I will give her a divorce. She wants to expedite the separation date (Louisiana).We are amicable during the whole thing and split the assets with her getting the majority of money and furniture. Well one month after the divorce is final and after both of us had moved, I find out she's pregnant. Needless to say I was livid and to tops things off we both live in the same city now. I've seen her, him, and the kid a handful of times over the course of two years. My one and only regret is being too nice and not getting a lawyer because I honestly thought she was just unhappy. I am very leary on who I trust now. Cheating bitch!

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That is absolutely brutal. Women can be fricking evil.

I'll play.

Married 20 years with 2 children, 11 and 9. On fathers day (and the week after our 20th anniversary) at her mothers house she locks the doors and tells me to leave and she'll call later. I put down all the BBQ crap and go home. Wake up the next day. Internet shut off, I call it was cancelled by her, same with all utilities. Also mortgage payment had been cancelled 4 month previously.
She was a principal and had been let go after 8 years.
I had just signed a authorization for her to take about $5,000 for a saving account I had before we got married to pay bills so we wouldn't use our retirement money she got another job that started 2 months later.
After I hired an investigator, I found out she was cheating with a woman she hired, also cheated on her with several men.
We lost a home valued a $475,000 with a payoff of only $105,000. I lived off of sofa money until I decided to used money from the company I owned. (big mistake, needed that money to buy materials) and family helped out also.
She is still with the woman (She isn't a bad person, if your into that stuff).

If I had it to do all over I would had saved the money on attorneys and exposed her life style change. Total loss from my half of our assets was about $400,000. One child lives with me the other in college. They only found out about her girl friend after 4 years. I didn't want to tell them.

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I didn't downvote you, but I've been married 15 years and my wife goes on an annual girls trip with her high school/college friends. It's never given me pause, nor has she ever given me reason to doubt her fidelity. Even after she's told me some of the shitty things her married friends have done on these trips.

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Sounds very familiar to my experience. The same frieds she told me about later ratted her out. Told me she wan't even there at 2 of the Girls night out sleep overs.

My wife goes on trips with her friends every so often. If I have to worry about that than I wouldn't trust her anyway.