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re: Could you date a girl who was a slut in college/earlier in life?
Posted on 4/10/13 at 1:09 pm to BluegrassBelle
Posted on 4/10/13 at 1:09 pm to BluegrassBelle
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im not usually a jealous person because i believe im better than everyone especially exs but if mrs. hbt was to start being friendly with an ex id be super pissed off. In general i think its a pretty bad idea to be friendly with exs while you are in a relationship.
Okay ladies what about when it comes to the point where you really have found mr. right only problem is that he takes major issue with you being such close friends to all you exes, or at lest some exes, and that is causing a major rift between y'all (I have seen this happen and been in a situation where this was the case).
What do y'all do or feel about that now?
This post was edited on 4/10/13 at 1:10 pm
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Posted on 4/10/13 at 1:12 pm to McRebel42
My basic policy is I don't care who/how many you slept with...I just would prefer not to meet them. One of the guys my girlfriend used to date dates one of her friends. So I see him quite a bit.
He is actually a pretty decent guy...but I don't really make any effort to hang out with him.
He is actually a pretty decent guy...but I don't really make any effort to hang out with him.
Posted on 4/10/13 at 1:12 pm to McRebel42
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Okay ladies what about when it comes to the point where you really have found mr. right only problem is that he takes major issue with you being such close friends to all you exes, or at lest some exes, and that is causing a major rift between y'all (I have seen this happen and been in a situation where this was the case).
What do y'all do or feel about that now?
I'd hope if it's the right guy for me he'd trust me enough that he'd be okay with those friendships.
That said, if he wasn't comfortable with them I can understand that. And if it's the right guy I'd have no problem cutting those ties with my exes. FWIW, this also applies to my exes and their current girlfriends/wives. If they aren't comfortable with me being around I understand that and while it's unfortunate I'm not going to try to cause issues for them.
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Posted on 4/10/13 at 1:13 pm to TbirdSpur2010
I think it is also different being friends with members of the opposite sex if you are married. I know my husband would probably not be happy if I had a close male friend who wasn't a mutual friend and vice versa. However, we do have a core group of 3 other couples that are our best friends, and it is always more fun when all of us are together, rather than just the females or males hanging out.
Posted on 4/10/13 at 1:14 pm to Eric Nies Grind Time
I agree with that except if the girl has dated/been railed by a friend then its a no go for me. I do agree with not really caring or wanting to meet others that railed what i am
Posted on 4/10/13 at 1:15 pm to BluegrassBelle
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I cannot confirm or deny my mattress prowess.
So you're saying you need further interrogation? Or you have a gag order in place. I'm down for either.
Posted on 4/10/13 at 1:17 pm to TeLeFaWx
Posted on 4/10/13 at 1:17 pm to UMTigerRebel
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I think it is also different being friends with members of the opposite sex if you are married. I know my husband would probably not be happy if I had a close male friend who wasn't a mutual friend and vice versa. However, we do have a core group of 3 other couples that are our best friends, and it is always more fun when all of us are together, rather than just the females or males hanging out.
That makes sense. And FWIW, I'd have no problem introducing any ex I'm a friend with to my boyfriend and us all hanging out together. I'm pretty open about stuff like that.
Posted on 4/10/13 at 1:17 pm to Eric Nies Grind Time
Maybe the best gif of all time??
Posted on 4/10/13 at 1:18 pm to BluegrassBelle
for me its not so much of a trust issue as a dislike for someone that had the girl before me.
Posted on 4/10/13 at 1:20 pm to UMTigerRebel
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I think it is also different being friends with members of the opposite sex if you are married. I know my husband would probably not be happy if I had a close male friend who wasn't a mutual friend and vice versa. However, we do have a core group of 3 other couples that are our best friends, and it is always more fun when all of us are together, rather than just the females or males hanging out.
Matches my thoughts.
Posted on 4/10/13 at 1:21 pm to heartbreakTiger
Yeah...I pretty much just don't want to think about my friends railing some girl I am dating.
Posted on 4/10/13 at 1:23 pm to UMTigerRebel
You definitely get to a point as a girl where you realize that if you want any friends, you had better find some good girlfriends or else make friends with the girls your male friends date. Otherwise, you won't have any friends.
Posted on 4/10/13 at 1:24 pm to BluegrassBelle
that wouldn't work with me 
im the type of person that even if the guy was actually cool and almost exactly like me id find a reason to make fun of him and just generally be an a-hole until i left.
i think the only way id even be remotely cool and try to be subtle with making fun of the person would be if he was buying me drinks
im the type of person that even if the guy was actually cool and almost exactly like me id find a reason to make fun of him and just generally be an a-hole until i left. i think the only way id even be remotely cool and try to be subtle with making fun of the person would be if he was buying me drinks
Posted on 4/10/13 at 1:24 pm to BluegrassBelle
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That makes sense. And FWIW, I'd have no problem introducing any ex I'm a friend with to my boyfriend and us all hanging out together. I'm pretty open about stuff like that.
Same here. I also had no problem meeting and talking with my husband's ex of 7 years. We would never be friends though, not because she was his ex, but because we had completely different personalities.
Posted on 4/10/13 at 1:26 pm to Eric Nies Grind Time
i look at it as a weak move to pick up the trash your friends leave on the side of the road
Posted on 4/10/13 at 1:28 pm to GenesChin
I just realized I never answered the OP.
There are men who aren't sluts?
It really depends on what we consider "slut". I'd probably be turned off by someone who's done nothing but sleep around before me. But at the same time I don't want to marry someone who hasn't had some experiences with other people because those guys who haven't are usually the ones that end up stepping out from my experience.
Aside from maybe once or twice in high school, I've never dated anyone that slept with or dated a friend. It'd probably be far too awkward.
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Could you marry a man that was a huge slut before he knew you?
There are men who aren't sluts?
It really depends on what we consider "slut". I'd probably be turned off by someone who's done nothing but sleep around before me. But at the same time I don't want to marry someone who hasn't had some experiences with other people because those guys who haven't are usually the ones that end up stepping out from my experience.
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Could you marry a man who a number of your good friends had already slept with?
Aside from maybe once or twice in high school, I've never dated anyone that slept with or dated a friend. It'd probably be far too awkward.
Posted on 4/10/13 at 1:29 pm to UMTigerRebel
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Same here. I also had no problem meeting and talking with my husband's ex of 7 years. We would never be friends though, not because she was his ex, but because we had completely different personalities.
When I encounter exes who still pine for my boyfriends or are territorial, I don't have much patience. One of my friends used to date a guy whose ex always called him to do stuff like help her take out the Christmas tree, and we all knew she was trying to get him back. Not that he wanted to go back, but still... it was stupid. If I can tell that the girl and the person I am dating are clearly not interested in anything, I have absolutely no problem with chatting and being friendly.
This post was edited on 4/10/13 at 1:29 pm
Posted on 4/10/13 at 1:29 pm to heartbreakTiger
I went on two dates with a girl my friend had dated. I just ended up having to end things before the sex happened.
I mean intercourse. She did give me a blowjob.
My rules don't make any sense.
I mean intercourse. She did give me a blowjob.
My rules don't make any sense.
Posted on 4/10/13 at 1:30 pm to BluegrassBelle
I don't date my friends' exes, but I've had friends of my exes ask me out.
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