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re: Could you date a girl who was a slut in college/earlier in life?
Posted on 4/10/13 at 12:26 pm to TbirdSpur2010
Posted on 4/10/13 at 12:26 pm to TbirdSpur2010
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Old, but thought it could apply to the current discussion
that bit is so true
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Posted on 4/10/13 at 12:27 pm to TeLeFaWx
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I am about 50/50 on the former lover still being friend thing. The more compatible and the more intense the relationships, we most definitely aren't friends anymore.
I've been pretty surprised by my most recent breakup. We were together for 5 years and I officially broke up with him back in December (we tried some time apart to sort things out before that). At first he didn't talk to me much, but now we talk fairly regularly and I could see us hanging out at times. But I know I'm going to have to tread carefully too. I don't want to give any indication that we would be getting back together.
Posted on 4/10/13 at 12:30 pm to BluegrassBelle
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At first he didn't talk to me much, but now we talk fairly regularly and I could see us hanging out at times. But I know I'm going to have to tread carefully too. I don't want to give any indication that we would be getting back together.
I just don't see the point in this. It doesn't seem like you would be spending your time wisely with this at all.
Posted on 4/10/13 at 12:31 pm to BluegrassBelle
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But I know I'm going to have to tread carefully too. I don't want to give any indication that we would be getting back together.
This is just one reason I find staying friends with exes a bad thing ... plus most the time they seem to be a CANCER on a new relationship. IMO I find it best to cut the ties and move on.
But hey to each their own.
This post was edited on 4/10/13 at 12:32 pm
Posted on 4/10/13 at 12:43 pm to TeLeFaWx
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I just don't see the point in this. It doesn't seem like you would be spending your time wisely with this at all.
He was my best friend as much as my boyfriend for that time and we've been through a lot on both ends. It's worth the time IMO.
Posted on 4/10/13 at 12:49 pm to BluegrassBelle
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He was my best friend as much as my boyfriend for that time and we've been through a lot on both ends. It's worth the time IMO.
I'm saying this from his perspective as much as yours. You must be great in bed.
Posted on 4/10/13 at 12:50 pm to TeLeFaWx
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I'm saying this from his perspective as much as yours. You must be great in bed.
Why is that?
Posted on 4/10/13 at 12:55 pm to BluegrassBelle
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He was my best friend as much as my boyfriend for that time and we've been through a lot on both ends. It's worth the time IMO.
My perspective on this has changed as I've gotten a little older and lost people I've loved. Sex can come and go, but finding good friends is really hard. If you can move past the hurt feelings and you are both committed to staying in each others lives, I think that's amazing. It's just hard to navigate.
Posted on 4/10/13 at 12:57 pm to BluegrassBelle
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Why is that?
Just a sneaky suspicion. Prove me wrong if you must.
Posted on 4/10/13 at 12:58 pm to Bellabama
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y perspective on this has changed as I've gotten a little older and lost people I've loved. Sex can come and go, but finding good friends is really hard. If you can move past the hurt feelings and you are both committed to staying in each others lives, I think that's amazing. It's just hard to navigate.
I still want to share those close and intimate details with a person I am close and intimate with. What your describing sounds like a stop gap til you find a true counter point.
Posted on 4/10/13 at 1:00 pm to TeLeFaWx
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TeLeFaWx
Playing the long game I see ... you sly devil you.
Posted on 4/10/13 at 1:00 pm to McRebel42
Posted on 4/10/13 at 1:01 pm to McRebel42
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Playing the long game I see ... you sly devil you.
Forever and always. I am Taylor Swift song in the making.
Posted on 4/10/13 at 1:01 pm to McRebel42
Posted on 4/10/13 at 1:05 pm to TeLeFaWx
No, I'm saying that if you're dating someone who is your best friend when someone close to you dies, and then you break up with that person later, you get to a point where you realize friends come in all forms. Just because something doesn't work out romantically doesn't mean you stop loving the person. And it doesn't mean you won't have someone else to share intimacy with. It just means the relationship has changed a little.
This post was edited on 4/10/13 at 1:06 pm
Posted on 4/10/13 at 1:06 pm to Bellabama
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My perspective on this has changed as I've gotten a little older and lost people I've loved. Sex can come and go, but finding good friends is really hard. If you can move past the hurt feelings and you are both committed to staying in each others lives, I think that's amazing. It's just hard to navigate
I think the big thing for me is that we were together when my brother died. And he was there through some pretty awful stuff all around that happened in the wake of that. It made us very close but at the same time I'm not the same person he began dating and fell in love with and that's inevitably what did it for us. We just grew apart, have totally different life goals/paths, etc. And I knew it wasn't something that could be "fixed" so I ended it.
That said, there are exes that we may have split on decent terms but I could never be friends with because it'd be too much for either one of us.
Posted on 4/10/13 at 1:07 pm to Bellabama
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And it doesn't mean you won't have someone else to share intimacy with. It just means the relationship has changed a little.
Of course. I agree.
Posted on 4/10/13 at 1:07 pm to BluegrassBelle
Exactly my point.
Posted on 4/10/13 at 1:08 pm to TeLeFaWx
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Just a sneaky suspicion. Prove me wrong if you must.
I cannot confirm or deny my mattress prowess.
Posted on 4/10/13 at 1:08 pm to BluegrassBelle
quote:im not usually a jealous person because i believe im better than everyone especially exs but if mrs. hbt was to start being friendly with an ex id be super pissed off. In general i think its a pretty bad idea to be friendly with exs while you are in a relationship.
I've been pretty surprised by my most recent breakup. We were together for 5 years and I officially broke up with him back in December (we tried some time apart to sort things out before that). At first he didn't talk to me much, but now we talk fairly regularly and I could see us hanging out at times. But I know I'm going to have to tread carefully too. I don't want to give any indication that we would be getting back together.
even more so when distance is involved.
This post was edited on 4/10/13 at 1:10 pm
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