Started By
Message
re: Could you date a girl who was a slut in college/earlier in life?
Posted on 4/10/13 at 12:00 pm to McRebel42
Posted on 4/10/13 at 12:00 pm to McRebel42
Then I must be lucky or something. 
Of course, it might also have to do with the fact that I don't bullshite around about it either. I know a lot of girls that will drag a guy around for the attention (as Tel suggested that I might be doing
) or leave that little bit of a hint that something could develop.
Of course, it might also have to do with the fact that I don't bullshite around about it either. I know a lot of girls that will drag a guy around for the attention (as Tel suggested that I might be doing
) or leave that little bit of a hint that something could develop. 
2
Posted on 4/10/13 at 12:00 pm to BluegrassBelle
quote:
If it's addressed early on then how is it ignoring? If he says he's okay with it I'm going to take his word for it. Otherwise that's on him.
How many times this line of thinking has gotten men in trouble with women... is probably in the trillions. Talk about a double standard.
quote:
Not all guys are like that though.
You're underestimating us. Text everyone of your friend zoned guy friends and simply say, "could you see us ever sleeping together?" You will be surprised at the answers. One way or the other.
Posted on 4/10/13 at 12:01 pm to BluegrassBelle
quote:
Then I must be lucky or something.
Of course, it might also have to do with the fact that I don't bullshite around about it either. I know a lot of girls that will drag a guy around for the attention (as Tel suggested that I might be doing ) or leave that little bit of a hint that something could develop.
I wasn't suggesting you specifically, beautiful.
Posted on 4/10/13 at 12:03 pm to McRebel42
Well, generally, if a guy wants to date a girl, he likes her personality. It would be ridiculous for a guy to decide to date a girl just to date her, regardless of personality, and then drop her once he found out her plans didn't fit in his small world view.
So, while a guy might hope that he has a chance, most are willing to deal with their feelings and move on, all while maintaining friendships. Friendships ebb and flow, and sometimes you need a little break to recalibrate, but if a pretty girl stopped being friends with people just because they wanted to frick her, she wouldn't have any friends.
So, while a guy might hope that he has a chance, most are willing to deal with their feelings and move on, all while maintaining friendships. Friendships ebb and flow, and sometimes you need a little break to recalibrate, but if a pretty girl stopped being friends with people just because they wanted to frick her, she wouldn't have any friends.
Posted on 4/10/13 at 12:05 pm to BluegrassBelle
No I think it is the guy and in the back of his head, or better yet his little head, is telling him he can do it she'll turn around and fall for him and then they'll go to pound town.
I don't care which guy it is EVERYONE OF US HAVE THOUGHT THIS WAY ONCE OR TWICE WITHOUT FAIL ... only way you don't is you have to be slightly ghey.
But you are right though, the situation can definitely become worse based on how the girl in the situation acts and treats him. The worse cases are always with the flirts and nothing but trouble is going to follow them.
I don't care which guy it is EVERYONE OF US HAVE THOUGHT THIS WAY ONCE OR TWICE WITHOUT FAIL ... only way you don't is you have to be slightly ghey.
But you are right though, the situation can definitely become worse based on how the girl in the situation acts and treats him. The worse cases are always with the flirts and nothing but trouble is going to follow them.
Posted on 4/10/13 at 12:09 pm to TeLeFaWx
quote:
Talk about a double standard.
Like I said, I can't speak for other women. But if I'm in that situation and a guy puts me in the friend zone if I can't handle being just friends then I back off or go away all together. Largely because I hate being strung along. I know not everyone is like that though.
quote:
You're underestimating us. Text everyone of your friend zoned guy friends and simply say, "could you see us ever sleeping together?" You will be surprised at the answers. One way or the other.
I've had this conversation with guy friends before. The ones I mentioned both said no and stated because of a sibling-esque attachment.
Posted on 4/10/13 at 12:10 pm to TeLeFaWx
Posted on 4/10/13 at 12:11 pm to McRebel42
quote:
But you are right though, the situation can definitely become worse based on how the girl in the situation acts and treats him. The worse cases are always with the flirts and nothing but trouble is going to follow them.
Girls who drag it out drive me insane. Last weekend, one of my friends invited a guy to a party to carry her cooler around, and then got irritated when he realized she was there to hook up with someone else. She is pissed he is trying to cock block the crush, and he leaves with the cooler with all of her beer. The guy looks like droopy. She is gorgeous. She needs to stop inviting him to shite and carry her own fricking cooler.
Posted on 4/10/13 at 12:11 pm to BluegrassBelle
quote:
I've had this conversation with guy friends before. The ones I mentioned both said no and stated because of a sibling-esque attachment.
So you've got about two actual legitimate friend zoned guys? That seems reasonable and is about in line with what I'm thinking. I have about four that aren't off limits, but two of which I would definitely sleep with. The one I wouldn't, I'm not sexually attracted to.
Posted on 4/10/13 at 12:11 pm to Bellabama
quote:
Well, generally, if a guy wants to date a girl, he likes her personality
Truth! because eventually in between the sex fest you gonna have to talk to each other... maybe clean a closet or two together who knows... If she cant stand your sarcastic personality or you cant stand her serious approach to everything.. then its never gonna work.
quote:
while a guy might hope that he has a chance, most are willing to deal with their feelings and move on
And this is how guys and girls become friends on a generally speaking basis. He may always hold out hope.. But to remain friends once you reach that point, a guy will just have to deal with his hope every new boyfriend that comes along or stop being friends with her. But it is possible to be friends. FawX is correct to a degree from a guys perspective, a guy friend will for a long time hold out hope if it initially doesn't happen, but its up to him to decide if he can be friends once he has been zoned.
Posted on 4/10/13 at 12:13 pm to Bellabama
quote:
Girls who drag it out drive me insane. Last weekend, one of my friends invited a guy to a party to carry her cooler around, and then got irritated when he realized she was there to hook up with someone else. She is pissed he is trying to cock block the crush, and he leaves with the cooler with all of her beer. The guy looks like droopy. She is gorgeous. She needs to stop inviting him to shite and carry her own fricking cooler.
You need nicer friends.
Posted on 4/10/13 at 12:16 pm to TeLeFaWx
Didn't say she was a good friend. When you socialize, and go to parties, you can't always just surround yourself with close friends.
Posted on 4/10/13 at 12:17 pm to BluegrassBelle
quote:
I've had this conversation with guy friends before. The ones I mentioned both said no and stated because of a sibling-esque attachment
Or they lied, because they're still playing the long game.
Posted on 4/10/13 at 12:18 pm to TeLeFaWx
quote:
So you've got about two actual legitimate friend zoned guys? That seems reasonable and is about in line with what I'm thinking. I have about four that aren't off limits, but two of which I would definitely sleep with. The one I wouldn't, I'm not sexually attracted to.
Right now, yeah. I have a small circle of close friends. Everyone else is just the occasional people to have a beer with type thing.
That said, I also tend to end up being friends with exes unless it's a breakup of bad terms. I don't consider them "friend zoned" though because I obviously had a relationship with them. And you could certainly make the argument that we're able to be friends because we weren't relationship compatible to begin with.
Posted on 4/10/13 at 12:18 pm to Bellabama
quote:
Didn't say she was a good friend. When you socialize, and go to parties, you can't always just surround yourself with close friends.
My friends have done far worse to the opposite sex. Trust me.
Posted on 4/10/13 at 12:19 pm to BamaChemE
quote:
Or they lied, because they're still playing the long game.
In this case I can say for sure it's legit. That's definitely not in every case though and I'm not speaking for everyone else.
Posted on 4/10/13 at 12:20 pm to BluegrassBelle
quote:
That said, I also tend to end up being friends with exes unless it's a breakup of bad terms. I don't consider them "friend zoned" though because I obviously had a relationship with them. And you could certainly make the argument that we're able to be friends because we weren't relationship compatible to begin with.
I am about 50/50 on the former lover still being friend thing. The more compatible and the more intense the relationships, we most definitely aren't friends anymore.
Posted on 4/10/13 at 12:21 pm to BluegrassBelle
quote:
In this case I can say for sure it's legit. That's definitely not in every case though and I'm not speaking for everyone else.
If you sneak attacked them with a mouth hug, it might be different. Just saying.
Posted on 4/10/13 at 12:22 pm to BluegrassBelle
quote:
In this case I can say for sure it's legit
That's good. I always enjoy Chris Rock's bit on platonic friends.
Cause you never know
Posted on 4/10/13 at 12:22 pm to TeLeFaWx
Page 10 of 16
Popular
Back to top
Follow SECRant for SEC Football News