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Beta Marriage: The trend that is becoming the norm
Posted on 7/28/14 at 12:00 pm
Posted on 7/28/14 at 12:00 pm
[It’s not a new concept, entirely. In the 1970s, the anthropologist Margaret Mead predicted the growing popularity of “serial monogamy,” involving a string of monogamous marriages. Helen Fisher, the biological anthropologist, has advocated for much of the same: she believes humans aren’t meant to be together forever, but in short-term, monogamous relationships of three or four years. Stephanie Coontz, the author of Marriage: A History, has advised a marriage contract “reup” every five years — or before every major transition in life — “with a new set of vows that reflect what the couple has learned.”
I like the Presidential with a mix of multiple partner model.
This post was edited on 7/28/14 at 1:23 pm
Posted on 7/28/14 at 12:20 pm to Pigfeet
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Helen Fisher, the biological anthropologist, has advocated for much of the same: she believes humans aren’t meant to be together forever, but in short-term, monogamous relationships of three or four years.
Sounds like millenials have some commitment issues.
Posted on 7/28/14 at 12:23 pm to BluegrassBelle
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Sounds like millenials have some commitment issues.
no it sounds like millennials are a bunch of little bitches.
Posted on 7/28/14 at 12:23 pm to BluegrassBelle
I respectfully disagree, they don't have a problem committing for 3-4 years or whatever they choose.
Posted on 7/28/14 at 12:28 pm to Pigfeet
Also how is this Beta trend becoming the norm? They answered a survey about what they want. This isn't actually occurring (at least not legally).
Posted on 7/28/14 at 12:31 pm to BluegrassBelle
not law, just the norm in thinking
Posted on 7/28/14 at 12:36 pm to Pigfeet
This model definitely favors males. So I am in favor.
Posted on 7/28/14 at 12:40 pm to Pigfeet
Can't speak for everyone, but it's been well over a decade and all I can say is, I am content...
...She know what I need.
...She know what I need.
Posted on 7/28/14 at 12:48 pm to LawDawg77
And honestly, you have the Beta model if you actually date someone for an extended period of time (and live with them) before committing to marriage.
The problem isn't the monogamy itself as much as how people handle the commitment that marriage takes. If you don't feel comfortable committing to a person for a lifetime then maybe you shouldn't be getting married in the first place.
The problem isn't the monogamy itself as much as how people handle the commitment that marriage takes. If you don't feel comfortable committing to a person for a lifetime then maybe you shouldn't be getting married in the first place.
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Posted on 7/28/14 at 12:50 pm to Pigfeet
those numbers add up to 141.
millenials are not good at math.
millenials are not good at math.
Posted on 7/28/14 at 1:02 pm to BluegrassBelle
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committing to a person for a lifetime
Just because in 1549, the Church of England created this "till death do us part" doesn't mean its right.
I think most have evolved since 1549.
Posted on 7/28/14 at 1:09 pm to BluegrassBelle
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Sounds like millenials have some commitment issues.
This isn't exactly a new thing.
See Roman marriage laws regarding, confarreatio, coemptio, and usus marriages.
Posted on 7/28/14 at 1:18 pm to Pigfeet
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Posted on 7/28/14 at 1:27 pm to Pigfeet
Wouldn't be interested in any of these, tbh
Seems like even more of a headache than, you know, just sticking it out with a single spouse
Seems like even more of a headache than, you know, just sticking it out with a single spouse
Posted on 7/28/14 at 1:28 pm to TbirdSpur2010
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Seems like even more of a headache than, you know, just sticking it out with a single spouse
Mrs. Out and I were talking about something similar last night. It started with an offhand comment about sister wives and having multiple women.
after about 30 minutes we decided it was in everybody's best interest that we just stick with one spouse, but that Mrs. Out should give it up more often.
Posted on 7/28/14 at 1:34 pm to 3nOut
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it was in everybody's best interest that we just stick with one spouse, but that Mrs. Out should give it up more often.
This is the solution we always come to, as well.
I'll be honest, I really just don't have the mental fortitude to deal with trying to frick more than one woman at a time. Much easier for me to be all or nothing, and give Aggiebelle my undivided attention without any of the extra drama.
As long as she realizes and understands that she's my only outlet and makes an effort to be available along those lines, I really have all I could ask for in life, tbh.
Posted on 7/28/14 at 1:38 pm to TbirdSpur2010
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This is the solution we always come to, as well.
Serious question, what is the acceptable number of times per week?
Posted on 7/28/14 at 1:42 pm to UMTigerRebel
In Tbird's ideal world, 4-5 times per week.
That rarely happens with our crazy work schedules, though but that's how often I want her on a regular basis.
That rarely happens with our crazy work schedules, though but that's how often I want her on a regular basis.
Posted on 7/28/14 at 1:43 pm to UMTigerRebel
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Serious question, what is the acceptable number of times per week?
Depends. Do you have kids? How many and how old?
Posted on 7/28/14 at 1:45 pm to Pigfeet
For someone who loves his open marriage, and totally isn't trolling about it, you sure do love trying to sell a message board on your e-lifestyle.
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