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Posted on 12/13/20 at 11:51 am to SummerOfGeorge
I’m probably just a crappy person, but this is why I can’t give money to random folks no matter how sad their backstory is without a way for me to know for sure how the funds will be used.
Posted on 12/13/20 at 11:54 am to Bryant91092
I think we all have our own lines in the sand on this sort of stuff and each of them is reasonable. Some people give money to everyone they see. Some give to almost nobody. Some are inbetween.
Like RTR said, the worst part about this is the future damage it does to people who won't be given the time of day who this site and the generous people here could help.
Like RTR said, the worst part about this is the future damage it does to people who won't be given the time of day who this site and the generous people here could help.
Posted on 12/13/20 at 12:10 pm to Bryant91092
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I’m probably just a crappy person, but this is why I can’t give money to random folks no matter how sad their backstory is without a way for me to know for sure how the funds will be used.
I will give money to people who need it, but it has unfortunately been pretty obvious that whoever is in control of Commander Data's account is stoned out of their brain and has been for days. This is why whenever someone approaches me at a gas station asking for money for food or gas I always offer to buy them gas or whatever they want to eat. Sometimes I get taken up on the offer. Usually I don't. If there was someone trustworthy to give the money to directly I'd have no problem with it since his wife clearly died unexpectedly and he has money trouble. It doesn't seem like that's possible right now though.
Posted on 12/13/20 at 12:21 pm to Robot Santa
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Robot Santa
Yep. 100%
Posted on 12/13/20 at 12:22 pm to Roll Tide Ravens
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... think it is justifiable to question whether the money will go toward its intended purpose or what the money not needed for the funeral be used for.
I disagree. Someone asks for help. States they need money for funeral expense, acknowledges they'd been laid off for some period of time and just now gained employment that still wasn't sufficient compensation and that his wife's income would be sorely missed. I think (hope) it is a safe assumption that the excess money will help ends meet until he can hopefully adjust to a single income family cost of living.
In any case, "donations" or money provided to friends, families, etc shouldn't be subject to audit by the masses. If one feels that way, it is best not to give. It only leads to ill will.
Personally, I think it would be most responsible to kill this thread and others at this point.
The speculation and doubt cannot be good for CD. The threads have served their purposes and the rest will be what it will be.
Given his mental and emotional state, it is probably best he not read about those doubting his intentions, questioning motivations of himself or other family members, etc.
Just my 2 cents. Still wish him the best and strength for his entire family. It will not get easier over the next year. Every first missed thing hurts like the event all over again. Keep him in your thoughts. It is only money at the end of the day. Bigger things at stake.
Posted on 12/13/20 at 12:28 pm to Che Boludo
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I disagree. Someone asks for help. States they need money for funeral expense, acknowledges they'd been laid off for some period of time and just now gained employment that still wasn't sufficient compensation and that his wife's income would be sorely missed. I think (hope) it is a safe assumption that the excess money will help ends meet until he can hopefully adjust to a single income family cost of living.
I feel that you haven't read the OT thread in the last couple of days if you don't see how one could reasonably question all of this. I hope you're right that the money will "help ends meet", I do. The activity from CD's account the last couple of days (particularly the posts made by his sister-in-law) in the OT thread calls into question how responsibly the funds will be used.
This post was edited on 12/13/20 at 12:31 pm
Posted on 12/13/20 at 12:39 pm to SummerOfGeorge
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Like RTR said, the worst part about this is the future damage it does to people who won't be given the time of day who this site and the generous people here could help.
This pisses me off the most. There are people that will need help in the future and this site won’t be an avenue because of this situation.
I 100% believe Data, but his sister in law just came across as a money hungry woman, that will try to exploit this situation for her own wants
Posted on 12/13/20 at 12:39 pm to Roll Tide Ravens
Wait..so all this was a scam?
Posted on 12/13/20 at 12:40 pm to Allthatfades
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Wait..so all this was a scam?
The consensus is that his wife really died and they need help paying for a funeral. However, some of the behavior on CD’s account has called into question whether he is in a position to responsibly handle the funds for their intended purpose.
Posted on 12/13/20 at 12:41 pm to Allthatfades
His wife did die and he’s in a mess. Based on his SIL’s posts and their family history, people are questioning if someone in the family, not him, is taking advantage of the situation. That’s all anyone knows.
Posted on 12/14/20 at 10:07 am to 1BamaRTR
Updating with some Commander Data posts on the OT from this thread last night:
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I apologize for starting another thread but I wanted to say a couple of thanks and give an update for those that believed me and are worried. First, I am still heartbroken. No sleep, no water etc. it hurt to ask help from anyone but I needed money to pay for funeral and burial.
I wasn’t able to keep up the thread or provide updates. I noticed my go fund me removed and I had a pm from chicken requesting that I email him because he questioned my motives and honesty.
The go fund me I set up on Facebook is rapidly losing money because people are skeptical and encouraging folks to get refunds since it is a lie,
I have been grieving so bad and haven’t been on here my sister in law tried to fix things didn’t realze she was still under my name it was all just a lot of things that can be proven tomorrow I will have pictures and proof I have had people trying to help explain and people don’t wanna listen to the truth
I ain’t the best guy in the world but instead of support some of you are trying to hurt me.
I am just hurt after reading your comments. I was desperate for support and don't want to admit where my mind is. You guys don't owe me anything but as a broken man I was desperate and thought you guys would understand. I kept replying because some of the things being said hurt my world and pissed me off. This is my last post here. I am still shocked that you would say hurtful things to a grieving man getting over the loss of his wife.
Posted on 12/14/20 at 10:10 am to paperwasp
A sad situation has become even sadder. Unfortunately, his efforts, and particularly those of his sister-in-law, to clear things here have done the opposite. He’s in my prayers, I hope he can successfully push through the tragedy of his wife’s death for both himself and his kids.
Posted on 12/14/20 at 10:15 am to Roll Tide Ravens
I noticed that the amount in the GoFundMe has apparently gone down about $800 since yesterday afternoon. GFM must be processing refund requests. There is still just over $20k in the GFM.
Posted on 12/14/20 at 10:22 am to Roll Tide Ravens
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GFM must be processing refund requests.
Yesterday KentuckyGirl (supposedly his aunt) posted this:
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Apparently the GFM is now locked so in the mean time, I'm using my credit card to pay for the funeral so they can get her buried.
Not sure what is going on, but I assume the refund requests have triggered a lock on the account.
This post was edited on 12/14/20 at 10:57 am
Posted on 12/14/20 at 10:24 am to paperwasp
I think that was the wife’s aunt. She’s the one who put $6k on her credit card to pay for it. Yeah, I think the refund requests must have locked it. I think you have to give a reason for requesting a refund, so there’s no telling what some people have said.
This post was edited on 12/14/20 at 10:26 am
Posted on 12/14/20 at 10:25 am to Roll Tide Ravens
Money to support buying a car and paying mortgages is not what people signed up for. I don't really care, but it's silly to talk about.
Either way, hope CD figures things out. This is all been very unfortunate.
Either way, hope CD figures things out. This is all been very unfortunate.
Posted on 12/14/20 at 10:37 am to Roll Tide Ravens
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Unfortunately, his efforts, and particularly those of his sister-in-law, to clear things here have done the opposite.
I mean if you look at the next post in that thread made by Commander Data it's obvious that whoever made the first one got stoned out of their mind before making the second one or it was a different person altogether. I do not believe he is attempting to take advantage of the situation, but I do believe that one or more of his relatives are taking advantage of him right now. It's all really sad. I feel terrible for the guy.
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Posted on 12/14/20 at 10:43 am to Robot Santa
I hate all this happened and want the best for CD and his family . I made a donation to help out in good faith and humanitarianism . I do not want my money back like others and if the money is being used for other things than those represented then that is between them and their maker . Happy Holidays to all. 
Edit : some posters on the OT are using this for entertainment purposes only and stirring the pot so to speak which is sad in and of itself
Edit : some posters on the OT are using this for entertainment purposes only and stirring the pot so to speak which is sad in and of itself
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Posted on 12/14/20 at 10:52 am to Roll Tide Ravens
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I think that was the wife’s aunt.
Oh, you're right. After reading through, apparently KentuckyGirl is his aunt, and Sonya is the sister-in-law, who they claim was also allegedly posting to the OT under Commander Data's account.
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> You better pay back Kentucky girl with that money
Actually she is my Aunt and is the Beneficiary over the account and Sonya my sister in law is also helping me to pay for the Funeral and the things my children and I need after the funeral
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Commander Data
Posted on 12/13/20 at 12:39 am
Hello his girls are [name redacted] 22 [name redacted] is 16 and [name redacted] is 13 anything you would like to give them would be greatly appreciated you can contact me on Facebook for more info SONYA [name redacted]
This post was edited on 12/14/20 at 11:02 am
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