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re: Potential FIL
Posted on 6/18/16 at 8:00 pm to dwgsfrlife7673
Posted on 6/18/16 at 8:00 pm to dwgsfrlife7673
quote:I'm sorry
I am currently employed as a teacher
Posted on 6/18/16 at 8:32 pm to Evolved Simian
Yes, an update would be welcome
Posted on 6/18/16 at 9:23 pm to MontyFranklyn
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Black people give Lebron shite too. Black people give Cam shite too. White people hate Peyton Manning, white people hate Brady, white people hate Bush and Kennedy, black people hate Obama. No matter what your skin color is there will always be someone that hates you even if they share the same pigment as you.
This.
I'm dark as hell and love Steph's game and personality, as an example

As for you, OP, you know my background. Next Saturday will be my 5 year wedding anniversary to a white gal (I was 22 when I got married, and she was 21. Our birthday's are both in July).
You've gotten some good advice from a lot of perspectives itt. Meeting on his terms, in my opinion, is an excellent sign of good faith. Be careful, of course, but just present yourself as a man who loves his daughter very much and is willing to go to any lengths (even potentially uncomfortable ones) to make her happy and show her family respect.
If he can't respect that, that's his problem, not yours.
Best of luck with the dinner when it occurs!

This post was edited on 6/18/16 at 9:25 pm
Posted on 6/18/16 at 9:28 pm to TbirdSpur2010
quote:Mine is better...
Our birthday's are both in July).
Posted on 6/19/16 at 2:00 pm to Funky Tide 8
He hasn't posted in a couple days. I'm checking the news and social media for a missing person
Posted on 6/20/16 at 9:03 am to MontyFranklyn
yea,lets hear about the weekend. 

Posted on 6/20/16 at 9:17 am to dwgsfrlife7673
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I said we planned on getting married. I'm not dropping my knee tomorrow lol.
Good, because you're both too young. Good luck with these South Ga. folks lol. Hope her Dad comes around....takes some longer than others for different reasons. Ain't a damn thing wrong with love though.
Posted on 6/20/16 at 12:39 pm to Hogwarts
idk. I haven't seen or heard anything about a missing black male in south Georgia. Still looking though. Hope like hell he is okay or maybe just in jail or something
Posted on 6/20/16 at 3:38 pm to Hogwarts
Anyone check the south Georgia papers?
Posted on 6/20/16 at 4:20 pm to dwgsfrlife7673
Sounds like a passive racist. Lots of those left! Just go to the dinner and be yourself. It sounds like he will have no choice but to like you. You can open his eyes to the new world the rest of us are living in here in the 2016.
Posted on 6/21/16 at 10:11 am to TbirdSpur2010
Bumping.
OP may be stuffed in his future FIL's freezer
OP may be stuffed in his future FIL's freezer

Posted on 6/21/16 at 10:23 am to dwgsfrlife7673
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Oh after how heartbroken he was after she said she was dating me I don't particularly need him liking me. I just want to meet, show him I can support and love his daughter regardless of my color, and call it a day.
Just take it like a man. Don't get pissed because a father is irritable about the guy who is dating his daughter. That is how we roll. As for the racial thing, don't take it personally. The reality is that most people have limited exposure to other races and I don't think you should sweat him have trepidations. I am married outside of my race.
I reiterate, act like a man. That doesn't mean bowing up. That means being respectful to his daughter. It means being respectful to him and his wife. It means have the stones to walk into his house to be introduced as the boyfriend of his daughter. If he gives you shite, just take it. You will win him over as much as possible by proving that you take care of his daughter, treat her with respect, and handle your business. It takes time. Honestly, if you are a parent whose only exposure to black people is what you see on tv, wouldn't you have a natural fear for her? Same for black parents. Its human nature bud.
I watched my father take a lot of shite from his father in law. He did it because he cared about my mom and didn't want to cause a rift that would suck in his wife, her mother and everyone else. Be a man.
This post was edited on 6/21/16 at 10:25 am
Posted on 6/21/16 at 10:31 am to CCTider
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Just the fact that you've gone to a site with a lot of racist or pro segregation posters
Yeah I mean look at all the racists in this thread

Posted on 6/21/16 at 1:32 pm to Weagle25
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Yeah I mean look at all the racists in this thread
More so on the ot and political talk. But do you really think there aren't many racists throughout the boards? I'm not saying it's a majority, but there are plenty.
Plus, there was the other auburn fan who was against race mixing. He's not be lighting crosses, but there's definitely some prejudice there. But he brought an interesting perspective to the table and gave his advice
This post was edited on 6/21/16 at 1:45 pm
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