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Posted on 3/29/18 at 8:35 am to kywildcatfanone
Posted on 3/29/18 at 8:35 am to kywildcatfanone
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The decline is real, and a big part of that is parents who don't discipline their kids
There are other, more effective forms of discipline than spanking. I've never spanked either of my kids, and both are very well behaved and respectful. Far from perfect kids, but they know the consequences when they misbehave.
I always thought I'd spank my kids, but then I had them. The only times the urge struck me to spank them was when they had angered me, and that is the absolute worst times to spank. My decision to not spank was solidified when my daughter was born. I could never reconcile raising her to not tolerate boys hitting her while her own father would hit her for being bad. Talk about a mixed message.
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Posted on 3/29/18 at 8:57 am to thomasbrown_2007
You should ask Dr. Spock's kid.
Posted on 3/29/18 at 9:02 am to The Spleen
quote:You're not suppose to spank a child to satisfy your own desire, but for the benefit of the child. I spanked my kids when it was really hard to make myself do it (especially my daughter), but I felt it was necessary and we're both glad now that I did.
I always thought I'd spank my kids, but then I had them. The only times the urge struck me to spank them was when they had angered me, and that is the absolute worst times to spank. My decision to not spank was solidified when my daughter was born. I could never reconcile raising her to not tolerate boys hitting her while her own father would hit her for being bad. Talk about a mixed message.
Posted on 3/29/18 at 9:08 am to The Spleen
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I always thought I'd spank my kids, but then I had them.
Spanking does not indicate that you don't love your kids. Generally it's quite the opposite.
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My decision to not spank was solidified when my daughter was born. I could never reconcile raising her to not tolerate boys hitting her while her own father would hit her for being bad. Talk about a mixed message.
Maybe I'm reading this wrong, but this seems messed up to me. How does a father spanking his child to discipline her equate to it teaching her that other boys/men can hit her?
Posted on 3/29/18 at 9:43 am to kywildcatfanone
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Spanking does not indicate that you don't love your kids.
I know. My parents spanked me, and I never questioned their love for me. I don't think it had as big of an impact on who I am today than other forms of reward/punishment did though.
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How does a father spanking his child to discipline her equate to it teaching her that other boys/men can hit her?
I'm raising my daughter to be strong and independent and not tolerate boys hitting her, for any reason. How can that lesson be effective when I myself hit her when she's bad? In my eyes, it's degrading my role as a father by lowering myself to the type of scum that hit women.
Posted on 3/29/18 at 10:04 am to The Spleen
quote:How old is your daughter? There's obviously an age or maturity level reached when you stop any form of physical punishment. Also, what type of "spanking" do you refer to?..hand?...belt?...switch off a tree....hair brush?, etc?
I'm raising my daughter to be strong and independent and not tolerate boys hitting her, for any reason. How can that lesson be effective when I myself hit her when she's bad? In my eyes, it's degrading my role as a father by lowering myself to the type of scum that hit women.
Posted on 4/3/18 at 9:15 pm to thomasbrown_2007
Agree with it but it has to be done in moderation. Mix it with other punishments depending on the offense. And if you spank, don't go overboard. Just hard enough to cause some slight stinging
Posted on 4/4/18 at 5:52 pm to thomasbrown_2007
For it. It’s the easiest and most effective way to get the message across to children. Universally accepted until the late 20th century.
This post was edited on 4/4/18 at 5:53 pm
Posted on 4/4/18 at 8:57 pm to DownSouthJukin
Posted on 4/5/18 at 7:25 am to Vols&Shaft83
Spank them young.
After 6 years old, just giving a look works fine.
My oldest is 14 and great. Spanking very young makes kids want to please. When they intentionally disobey over 6 years old, it is just too easy to take away privileges. I haven't needed or wanted to spank in a long time.
After 6 years old, just giving a look works fine.
My oldest is 14 and great. Spanking very young makes kids want to please. When they intentionally disobey over 6 years old, it is just too easy to take away privileges. I haven't needed or wanted to spank in a long time.
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