re: I'm in real need of some advice please

Good point

I'm gonna burn bridges no matter when I leave

But in February I can at least say I waited until the agreed upon time frame

If they're really on your side and it's just a matter of people not moving when they thought they would I'd try to parlay that into getting some control over where you'd go when the time comes and stick it out for a bit.

You've proven you're willing to do what it takes to move up in the company including moving away from home and your SO for an opportunity to advance. If that's not valued by the company, I'd bail. You know if that's the case, and the waiting until February won't make a difference. If they're really putting you on a back burner because they don't value the sacrifice the bridge being burned probably doesn't mean much.

That being said, I wouldn't get too caught up on the Nashville thing. There's a lot of fine places that are just as nice as Nashville, and while they may be outside of your comfort zone, there's a lot of great places.

ETA: I'm assuming your job pays well enough that the move away from Nashville and your chick was worth it and that moving to a nice spot that isn't in the great white north would get her to wherever you are. If that's not the case and she's not leaving BNA for anything, go to Nashville and I refer to paragraph 2.

The SO is more than willing to move. She just doesn't want me to wait it out up here just for them to offer me somewhere I don't want to be. Most of the locations I'd expect to be offered would likely be more rural areas. Neither of us want that.

But if they were to offer a Charlotte or Atlanta or something, I'd go and she would too.

Although this new potential job of hers is new to the whole situation. It's one of those jobs that she's built her way up to finally having the experience to be a legitimate candidate.

Nashville would be the easiest transition for right now, but I'm not "Nashville or nothing".

The problem is that there is no way to tell what will come open. And I could wait another 6 months for them to still be pushing me to take something in rural Alabama or Louisiana.

Basically my region consists of all the SEC states except Florida and Georgia. And add North Carolina.

I could probably leverage my way into them opening up other states. But regional managers don't like giving up guys to other regions.

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Yea I do

I'm gonna burn some bridges though if I leave

It's stressful

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Well I have burned bridges and done things I never would thought I'd do. Not saying that's what you should do but the mistakes I made and what I did with them made me who I am today and I like who I am. That being said if you made a commitment honor your commitment if it's not going to wreck your rrelationship.Good luck man I know how tough this can be.

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Most of the locations I'd expect to be offered would likely be more rural areas. Neither of us want that. But if they were to offer a Charlotte or Atlanta or something, I'd go and she would too.

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If you haven't told them this, then you should. Hell, you're a salesman, right? Sell them. If you can't negotiate this, then they should at least respect the attempt and understand why you left. Which is something quite different from burning a bridge.

I've told them numerous times. But nothing has happened yet. I think I'll just wait it out until February and keep communicating with them what I want.

Then, as you said, if they can't come through, they have no reason to be upset with me.

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That being said if you made a commitment honor your commitment if it's not going to wreck your rrelationship.

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Solid advice right there

Any metro area? That obviously opens your chances at the best job, but where would yall prefer:

Tenn #1 Im guessing
Louisiana
Texas maybe next?

Or yall really don't care?

Reason I ask is this becomes important the older you get. Certain jobs screw people around, make promises etc.

My first thing to suggest is focus a general area yall want to be. Like I said - very general. Could be a few cities or a few states. BIg City/Dallas / Houston

Small town? either?

Any desire to go to LA or New York kind of thing?

Im getting to a point. Just trying to find first what you and your family to be want. That comes first.

Any New Orleans/BR interest?

Good point. That is one of the reasons I was asking about location.

If yall have no desire for Minn. - Make up your mind now you are leaving - and then start planning.

You are so young you have so much ahead of you - good and bad. If you do not want to be in Minnesota leave. Screw the bridges.

One thing I learned at your age is that employers will use this to scare you. I made some bad mistakes that set me back a few years because of this. Do not let that happen.

Be respectful - but if you do not like it - leave. Or start applying and interviewing while they are paying you.

If Minn. is an option this is different.

But think down the road - where do I want to be? I need to be making my connections there - even if the job isnt ideal. The connections will mature as you get older, and if your reputation is as a hard worker - no matter what - the big breaks come.

That is not to say if you land a phat job in NYC don't go. Just a little info on the getting older path.

Semo you are spot on with how my line of thinking has shifted. I just need to make some moves, let them know I'm looking for jobs, and stick to my guns.