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Posted on 1/20/16 at 1:30 pm to South Alabama Tide
Posted on 1/20/16 at 1:30 pm to South Alabama Tide
I don't know your fiancé but I can only assume she's not stupid. I believe that you honestly had no intentions of cheating when you went to the dating site but I doubt you just did it just so you could laugh at people. It's not surprising that she doesn't buy that either. Guys are pre-programmed to look over the fence no matter how content we are in our own backyard.
You need to drop the "I just did it for shits and giggles" bit and honestly apologize. Tell her that you didn't take her feelings into account and that it will never happen again. Tell her that you understand that the only way your relationship will work is if you can have absolute trust in each other. Figure out a way to say that includes phone snooping without pissing her off.
If you look her in the eye and sincerely apologize and she still can't get past it, you should probably sit down and think about what you want your future to be.
You need to drop the "I just did it for shits and giggles" bit and honestly apologize. Tell her that you didn't take her feelings into account and that it will never happen again. Tell her that you understand that the only way your relationship will work is if you can have absolute trust in each other. Figure out a way to say that includes phone snooping without pissing her off.
If you look her in the eye and sincerely apologize and she still can't get past it, you should probably sit down and think about what you want your future to be.
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Posted on 1/20/16 at 1:42 pm to South Alabama Tide
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While I was asleep, she got my phone, saw what was still in safari, and freaked out and woke me up.
How is THIS not the biggest problem? She was checking up on you like the parent of a devious teen. You will be lucky if it is over.
Posted on 1/20/16 at 3:02 pm to Carolina_Girl
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Porn can be very fun in healthy relationships.
Just sayin'.
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Hell, I've gone to many a strip club with the ex. Couple's dances, me on stage with the stripper in her kiddie pool, etc.
I don't see anything wrong with it.
Holy shite! You must have been a freak in your younger days and I mean that in a good way. I like the way you think. Have an upvote.
Posted on 1/20/16 at 3:09 pm to South Alabama Tide
First off, she does not trust you. I lost my wedding ring on a cruise ship after a night of drunken reveling (found it in the lost and found that night). The wife had turned in early, and I came back with no shirt and no ring. I straight up told her what happened, the 100% truth. She believed me, and we went together to the lost and found and got the ring back. She was mad as hell, but not because she thought I was cheating, but because I'd been irresponsible.
If your woman doesn't trust you after 3 years, then she is never going to trust you. Ever. I'm not saying break up. I'm just telling you that some women do not trust their man, no matter what.
Whether you cheated or were attempting to or not, it doesn't actually matter.
If your woman doesn't trust you after 3 years, then she is never going to trust you. Ever. I'm not saying break up. I'm just telling you that some women do not trust their man, no matter what.
Whether you cheated or were attempting to or not, it doesn't actually matter.
Posted on 1/20/16 at 3:24 pm to South Alabama Tide
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While I was asleep, she got my phone, saw what was still in safari,
not to out myself, but has anybody told this idiot about private mode in safari?
not that i use it or anything. i heard about it. from a friend. that died.
This post was edited on 1/20/16 at 3:25 pm
Posted on 1/20/16 at 4:32 pm to Stacked
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How old are you? Still haven't said.
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Posted on 1/20/16 at 4:35 pm to Miz Piggy
Thank you for the insight. That was deep. I'll keep that in mind. We both need to work on things once we are speaking again. And if I get a chance to get back together.
Posted on 1/20/16 at 4:38 pm to DaBama
I'll definelty look her in the eyes and honestly tell her I am sorry for even being on the site with the curiosity of seeing another woman on there to judge whether she was laughably ugly or attractive. I was not on there to look at attractive women. Was there any? Honestly no, but the fact I did judge a woman is just as bad. And for that I will own up to it and deal with it.
Posted on 1/20/16 at 4:39 pm to cokebottleag
I am all about the truth and I get that's what the moral to your story is. I definelty want to get with her and work on everything period.
Posted on 1/20/16 at 4:45 pm to South Alabama Tide
You are putting this girl on pedestal. You go crawling back and you are setting a bad precedent for the rest of your life.
Posted on 1/20/16 at 4:47 pm to South Alabama Tide
There are secrets to relationships. And, all of them are unknown to me.
Posted on 1/20/16 at 4:50 pm to South Alabama Tide
Dude....
If your fiancé that you've been with for three years is going to throw your relationship away for this, I'd consider it a win! If you want to get married and raise a family, go find an adult woman. Sounds like your current girl needs to grow up some.
If your fiancé that you've been with for three years is going to throw your relationship away for this, I'd consider it a win! If you want to get married and raise a family, go find an adult woman. Sounds like your current girl needs to grow up some.
Posted on 1/20/16 at 5:05 pm to Aux Arc
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How is THIS not the biggest problem? She was checking up on you like the parent of a devious teen. You will be lucky if it is over
Maybe because he said he left his phone's web app open to the page? I know I borrow my wife's phone all the time to look up something on the web, and if I opened it and it happened to show an Ashley Madison page, there would be an explanation required.
Posted on 1/20/16 at 5:21 pm to South Alabama Tide
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I wasn't on the site for more than maybe 5-10 minutes at the most. She was asleep when I was browsing and watching tv, so when I got tired, I went to sleep. While I was asleep, she got my phone, saw what was still in safari, and freaked out and woke me up.
Got to this point and had to say this just means she's been checking your phone every time you go to sleep. Every. fricking. Time. She didn't trust you at all before she found this and that's your real problem.
Posted on 1/20/16 at 5:32 pm to South Alabama Tide
Ok. I've read through much of this thread. I've realized SEC Off-Topic = Big Bang Theory CBS series guys. OT Lounge = Rambo movie collection. You'd swear you guys live in Connecticut.
Posted on 1/20/16 at 6:17 pm to South Alabama Tide
Sounds like you need to return to that site and make an account
Posted on 1/20/16 at 6:32 pm to South Alabama Tide
Sounds like y'all have different levels of trust. What's not a big deal to you is to her for whatever reason. Have to find a reasonable way to meet her insecurity halfway without giving in to full-blown paranoia on her part.
Posted on 1/20/16 at 6:36 pm to Agforlife
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So you're sayin I can keep snap chat
Snapchat is awesome now that other girls can't see what girls you're "best friends" with on there.
Oh and there some men in this thread that need to grow a pair. I use the term "men" loosely here. Get a grip on your ladies fellas...when you start a new relationship don't give up your freedoms thinking you'll ever get them back.
My general rules for a new girl
1. You don't go through my phone
2. We aren't putting our relationship status on FB
3. I am going to go hunting
4. I am going to have nights where I hang out with my friends
5. I will not stop drinking or smoking cigs when I drink
Nip that in the bud from the get go. IF they don't like it, kick them to the curb before you get close to them. (Not addressing you agforlife, just the other wimps in this thread who are putting pussy on a pedestal)
Posted on 1/20/16 at 6:40 pm to South Alabama Tide
1. Stop being such a fricking pussy..
2. Move on.
2. Move on.
Posted on 1/20/16 at 6:58 pm to deltaland
I think as long as both parties are open and upfront, there's no need for "rules," per se.
There's nothing to hide, ergo no drama.
There's nothing to hide, ergo no drama.
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