re: Father-in-law question..anyone marry

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Believe me I try...we are in the same business, and even at 82, half blind with a permanent boot and a walker, he is still around at times.

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Hes trying to see if his daughter married a man or a puss. Guess you the later since you haven't 'nutted up' on him yet. Just stand your ground and tell him off one time. He'd respect you then and you might even get to bang his daughter from it. Also you should mention it to him about banging his daughter.

The thing you haven’t mentioned, or I missed, is your wife’s feelings about her father. This is key in determining how you relate to him.

He is not going to change. It sounds like he is a very negative person who has always bullied his family and now includes you in the mix.

You should have a heart-to-heart with your wife and tell her honestly how he is affecting you. Ideally, she will deal with her father when she wants to, or must, and you can stay entirely away from him. You can be her sounding board and offer psychological strength since I’m sure he has a negative effect on her as well. You can’t do this adequately now because you’re having to protect your own psyche from him.

Good luck. I wish you well.

I've found that people who are generally angry and miserable souls outlive the rest of us. They're terminators, they can't be reasoned with, they can't be bargained with, and they will not stop, ever, until you are dead.

My father-in-law was an angry, bitter man. Not towards me or people but was just an overall negative person. I'm fortunate because my wife warned me about this long before marriage and I was always respectful to her and him, but she laughed about it. He'd get going on a rant and I'd start singing Hee Haw's Gloom, Despair, and Agony on me, song. Hell, I even got him laughing.