A question about the school shooting today...

You are a different person when not posting on the rant.



Anyhow, been saying this myself for a long time. Parents not participating in their kids lives is a huge issue both generally and specifically in these kinds of events.
You can't just give your kids a table or sit them in front of the TV and call that parenting.

There is no way parents don't see signs of difficulties in these kids and I guess just ignore it.

There has to be some way to get parents to engage in their kids lives.

I think a lot of this kind of stuff could be avoided if society as a whole would quit making excuses for bad or deviant (for lack of a better word) behavior and start placing personal responsibility before people's feelings.

Many, many parents are shirking their child-rearing responsibilities and defering to the schools to raise their little darlings. Most households with married parents see both of them working in order to finance the "American Dream."

They simply don't allot the needed time to raise their children. I think the shooter in this tragedy was exhibiting rage towards his surrogate family, the school.

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Very few on this website know private schooling better than I do.

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Uhh okay

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Many, many parents are shirking their child-rearing responsibilities and defering to the schools to raise their little darlings. Most households with married parents see both of them working in order to finance the "American Dream."

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And in nearly every single case the kids will tell you they’d rather have less “stuff” and more time with their parents. Add this particular part of the problem to single parenting and parents who rifle through partners like there’s some sort of merit badge being given out and you have a glut of neglected children. They don’t feel secure, loved or emotionally stable on many levels. It isn’t just the extreme cases of these shooters. There are countless children being brought up without anyone they feel they can depend on no matter what. People can have whatever feelings they want about “traditional values” but stripped down to the basics of what the term means you’ll find a much more stable, joy filled life. I really don’t mean this as a critique of parents as I don’t have any kids. I have no idea the challenges they face. I do, however, have a pretty good direction to point them to. Or more specifically a Book.

I think one of his parents died a year or two ago.

I agree to some point although I've heard nothing about the parents of the young man it's just mho I think in some cases you can try to raise a kid right and they just turn out to be a bad apple, it's the kids choice on rightand wrong it's the parents job to show them right and wrong .Again I haven't heard anything about the parents if someone would like to enlighten me I just think the kid was a sick frick just my 2 cents

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He was living with a friend whose parent(s) allowed him to skip school at his current high school (for troubled teens) today because he said he didn’t go to school on St. Valentines Day. They also allowed him to have an AR15, as long as he kept it locked up.

He was also reported as having terrible emotional problems.

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If they are his legal guardian, this fits the definition of negligence like a glove. Does it not?


He's already had be put into a behavioral school, has participated in animal mutilation and posted about it on social media, and was reported as having "terrible emotional problems", yet he's allowed to own lethal weapons in their home?


At no did they think, "maybe we should invest in some trauma counseling or behavioral therapy or at the very least hold off on allowing him to play with guns in our home until we are sure he's not a fricking lunatic"?


I learned how to use firearms when I was 10, but I can guarantee you that if I ever got caught posting morbid shite on the internet or fricked around at school enough to warrant being placed in special ed classes, or threatened ANYONE with a gun, I would have had my guns taken away from me permanently and my stepdad would have kicked my arse from one end of the house to the other. Then he would have called my dad and my uncles to fly down to Sarasota just to repeat the kicking of my arse from one end of the house to the other.


Warning signs were EVERYWHERE with this kid. EVERYWHERE. Same thing with the Columbine shooters, the kid at Virginia tech, Sandy Hook, Dylan Roof, etc.

I weep for the families of the victims, this did not have to happen.

The media is gonna blame guns, or rap music, or Marilyn Manson, or video games, or bullying, but they never take a look at the people who had more power to prevent these tragedies than anyone else besides the shooters themselves, the parents/guardians.

I guarantee if you start holding the parents accountable, and administer harsh enough punishments for negligence, they will start watching their kids like a hawk.

Apparently he and his brother were adopted at a young age by and elderly couple, he was still in high school and living with them. This was preventable.

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Apparently he and his brother were adopted at a young age by and elderly couple, he was still in high school and living with them.

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Simple fact check indicates both adoptive parents as deceased... your solution goes nowhere in this particular case.