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Posted on 6/30/16 at 11:27 am to dwgsfrlife7673
Posted on 6/30/16 at 11:27 am to dwgsfrlife7673
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He doesn't have to like me just respect I love his daughter
You expect him to respect that you love his daughter, but you don't respect that he doesn't want you with his daughter that he has known all her life? If you truly loved her and this is giving her anxiety, you should let her go. Just my 2 cents and probably not what you want to hear.
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Posted on 6/30/16 at 11:50 am to jvilletiger25
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you don't respect that he doesn't want you with his daughter that he has known all her life?
Except he doesn't even know her daughter's BF and is making assumptions based on his race.
You have to be kidding me
Posted on 6/30/16 at 12:07 pm to jvilletiger25
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You expect him to respect that you love his daughter, but you don't respect that he doesn't want you with his daughter that he has known all her life? If you truly loved her and this is giving her anxiety, you should let her go. Just my 2 cents and probably not what you want to hear.
Do you really think that two people in love should spilt up, if one of their parents doesn't approve of the relationship because of stereotypes? That's almost as dumb add me not letting my kid marry someone because they're an auburn fan. Because in all reality, those two things have as much correlation to someone being a good person and partner.
Posted on 6/30/16 at 12:16 pm to jvilletiger25
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You expect him to respect that you love his daughter, but you don't respect that he doesn't want you with his daughter that he has known all her life?
If her father doesn't want them together because his skin tone doesn't match hers, that's is a position that merits absolutely zero respect, regardless of how long the father has known her. Completely irrelevant caveat.
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If you truly loved her and this is giving her anxiety, you should let her go.
Things cause anxiety in relationships all the time. Hell, most brides (and grooms) are anxious on their freaking wedding day, for crying out loud: lol: That's precious little reason to "let her go," especially when the anxiety being caused is by someone outside of the relationship with bigoted views.
Shame on you for intimating that OP and his girl striving through adversity not of their own doing is indicative of him not truly loving her. That's some straight up bullshite right there
Posted on 6/30/16 at 12:59 pm to jvilletiger25
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You expect him to respect that you love his daughter, but you don't respect that he doesn't want you with his daughter that he has known all her life? If you truly loved her and this is giving her anxiety, you should let her go. Just my 2 cents and probably not what you want to hear.
Speaking as a father of two daughters and one son, I'd NEVER jeopardize seeing my children again for ANY reason. As a matter of fact, if my children took a stand and held his/her ground, I'd think I would have raised them right. I may not like the decision, but I respect my children. If they're in love, they should dig their heels in regardless of anxiety. I have some news, life is full of things that cause anxiety - learn to deal with it, especially with the one you love.
My guess is, FIL will come around. It may take him some time as he's working from a place of ignorance. Just my 2 cents.
To the OP - keep on keeping on. I wish nothing but the best for you and your fiáncé.
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