re: OT: Anyone ever been through a divorce here?

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Quality companionship doesn't require a license from the county clerk. In the legal sense, marriage is a contract that has nothing to do with love and commitment.

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I think too many people nowadays have it in their heads that they "need" to get married, and it seems to do with age and place in life. For instance, my wife and I are almost 30, which some of her friends feel is this daunting age that acts as some sort of benchmark deadline for marriage. One of her friends is absolutely obsessed with getting married before she's 30, quality of the guy be damned. Others, male friends of mine even, seem to get feedback from their parents or harbor this feeling that "welp, I'm a few years out of college, I have a steady job...I guess I have to find someone to marry now." The inherent problem is that you "find" someone to marry, it just happens. I started dating my wife during college, all through grad school, and by the time we got married we'd been dating for 5 years. I didn't "need" to marry her, I wanted to.

Tl;dr -- marriage has oddly become a societal mandate for people of a certain age.

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FWIW if I walked into a counselor and he/she started trying to counsel me based off some religion I would immediately turn around and walk out.

There is a time and place for religion (if that is what you are into) but for many it isn't necessary or wanted. I hope that counselors who pursue religion-based counseling make their intent very clear before the visit.

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Agreed.

My wife is a cradle Catholic and I'm a convert -- we've both talked about how if we ever needed counseling, the church and/or a faith-based organization is the last place we'd turn. She's more intelligent than most, and her background is in psychology, so it's more than understandable.

who is that sandra bullick?
poar as a whupperwill is poar, I can't buy friends,, can't even uhford to rent em..

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FWIW if I walked into a counselor and he/she started trying to counsel me based off some religion I would immediately turn around and walk out. There is a time and place for religion (if that is what you are into) but for many it isn't necessary or wanted. I hope that counselors who pursue religion-based counseling make their intent very clear before the visit.

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Uhhh, anybody who wouldn't has something to hide.. Here? Notta!

Amazing how so many people have things figured out so well without any relevance given to any creator. How's that working out for you folks?

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double post

I was going to say something about one of your posts, think your post had the following words in it: Strong, Sausage, and corndogs.

Decided not make a joke about it.

Well I tried to get a group together for some beer and whiskey drinking, while trying to pull off a diamond heist, with strippers doing blow in the back of an ol' truck.

Seems like OG wanted to meet at a furniture store in Strong, but I prefer Huttig, its closer to the bayou in case shite gets out of hand.

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Smug, and grounds for the start of another circuitous religious debate that I hope doesn't happen in this thread.

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haven't been smug this entire time bro. The little laughing face shows I meant it as a joke. And never attempt to be smug. But so many folks place psychology, money, "just business" over relationships that it becomes a question to be asked. I did refer to "any creator" not any certain one in particular. But giving another human being the Middle Finger just because you disagree Is I guess acceptable.
And No, not trying to begin any debate. Don't have time for it, and it usually ends in extremely negative/harmful feeling where there truly is no winner, all seem to lose.

What I have attempted to do anytime I have responded in this thread, started by the OP. Was to address my beliefs, thoughts in a way that was thoughtful and considerate of Him. I am glad he meets with a group once a week for a quick study and reflection.

But I would like anyone who gives two rips, this to consider. So many people base their complete personal relationships on psychology only. While psychology pays a very major role in all of our lives/relationships. If Psychology alone were the answer, why do we constantly have to go back to Psychology for the answers to the next proble, and so on and so on.

What if we began by some common sense. How about a very easy proverb (in many religions) that you ought to treat others the way you want to be treated as a human being. or, the common concept that one who places $$$ above others is to have many problems.

If living by these standards so many get from psychology has still led to the divorce rates, emotional problems, and devastation on so many realms. is there a better solution? Perhaps not religion, but how about Humanity,

If you read my other responses above, I am not one that believe you stay in a marriage or any relationship at all costs. I have often told folks to get away from abusive situations that their "Priest" has said they must stay in, if no adultery occurred, This is absolutely senile in all realms of thought.

You brought preconceived notions of all religions, and evidently a disagreement or hatred into the realm of this thread. It is easy to see! But not all religious people are the same. anywho, Carry on!