Getting over heartbreak

In August I got out of a 3.5 year relationship and I couldn't have been more pumped about it. I was so glad to be free. She even was engaged 6 months after we broke up and I'm happy for her

The only thing that was hard for me is I miss my damn dog he was like my son and that hurt. But as for the girl... See ya! It definitely is weird at first though not having her around 24/7 and it takes a while to get used to things being different because you grow so comfortable in a long term relationship, but in the long run you'll see that its for the best.


You'll move on and meet a new girl and you'll eventually be happy your were able to get out. You'll be alright man, its just fresh right now
I just started talking to a new girl that I have so much more in common with than I ever did my ex and we're really clicking fast and I'm excited. I couldn't be more happy right now and it never would have been possible if I hadn't gotten out of that relationship.

yeah, it took a few weeks for him to get over it but he eventually went back to normal.

Bitches are the most destructive force in the Universe, my sympathies.

My advice, besides finding a rebound (never hurts, doesn't usually help, but it feels good), is to go and spend quality time with friends and family and talk about ANYTHING BESIDES HER.

Do not bring her up, by bringing her up, what you're really looking for is sympathy and empathy or possibly some super secret method to win her back (will NEVER happen). By talking about her, you're hanging on when you need to be letting go.

Stay busy, be social, engage in activities that require you to actively participate, not passively participate (like bingeing Netflix).

Don't isolate, that's the worst thing you can do.

OK this is how it will go down; one morning you're going to wake up, look in the mirror and say (probably out loud) "frick her" and it will be over.

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All I can think about is his fat arse pounding her all night..

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first thing you need to remember is that fat people are fat for a reason, so I doubt there's many allnighters going on.

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anybody have any tips to get over her fast?

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You need to go pick up whatever will have you at the local bar. Just banging some random chicks will clear your head...and if you can somehow let her find out about it, the better.

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I’ve hit the weights extremely hard

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Let this be a reminder to you that chicks don't like fat dudes. Would you want to keep banging a chick that gave up and got fat? Stay in shape!!!

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You need to go pick up whatever will have you at the local bar. Just banging some random chicks will clear your head...and if you can somehow let her find out about it, the better.

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Honestly was thinking about doing this tonight haha.. I don’t know how much better it will make me feel but it’s worth a shot.. thanks for uplifting advice brother

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I got out of a 3.5 year relationship and I couldn't have been more pumped about it

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sounds yall were great for each other



To OP, I went through a similar situation a while back (not the fat guy part) and it is definitely tough to start with. I was legit depressed for a few months but eventaully time does heal all wounds. A few things I would suggest:

-You dont' want to hear this, and you may not do it, but I'm telling you the very first thing you need to do is STOP CONTACT and ditch the tangible memories. It's REALLY difficult but brother you will be glad in the long run. That means defriending her on facebook, remove her number, get rid of all yoru pictures together, throw out all the birthday/anniversary cards, etc. It's inevitable you'll still eat places yall used to, or hear "your song", or wear clothes she got you...that's fine. But you CANNOT cling for dear life to memories that are in the past, it's mentally toxic and will only prolong your sadness. First step to recovery is a totally clean break.
-Sounds weird, but allow yourself grieving time. Guys feel like they're pussies or weak for being hurt, but it's a natural human emotion as old as time. Give yourself a couple weeks to really wallow in your pity. Get real drunk. Cry if you need to. Listen to sad country songs. You've gotta get all that bad mojo out of your system, or else if you bottle it up and try to be john wayne it'll just stay inside you longer and fester until you break
-GET SOME HOBBIES. After my grieving period, I tried to find anythign I could to occupy my mind and body. I started working out which I had never done before. Took up reading, tried my hand at cooking. Basically just keep yourself busy and sharp and before you know it you'll pick up some new skills and interests.
-This is optional, but it may not be a bad idea early in the process to write yourself a list of all the bad things or reasons you couldn't/shouldn't have a future together. With my SO, I obviously loved her but there were some major issues (that would be long term ones, not like "she doesn't make the bed") that I just ignored because of my feelings for her. Once I started jotting down some of these things that would be major issues down the road, I got ot wondering why we even lasted as long as we did.

It sounds like you didn't really truly know her and that you'll be much better off without her. Count this a blessing.

Most guys have been through something like that. It's a helluva learning experience.

There's a lot of good advice in this thread. Soak it in.

I'd just add that you need to get to normalcy without her in your life as soon as possible. Get into a routine of living for you, now and the future. Her and her memories are nothing but an anchor

Oh yeah-and there's a whole lot of pussy out there. Get some.

My hats off to the people in this thread, at least you guys had guts to try a relationship, I never have.

Seen too many getting hurt, so I gave up along time ago.