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re: OT: Anyone ever been through a divorce here?
Posted on 3/8/14 at 12:32 pm to Razorback Reverend
Posted on 3/8/14 at 12:32 pm to Razorback Reverend
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. The days of complete shaming someone to stay in an abusive, fornicating marriage should be over!
Could not agree more. I stayed much too long because I thought that's what I was "supposed" to do. When I realized my child was being hurt more by my staying in the marriage, I (we) got out. My child has since asked me why I didn't do it sooner. That kills me.
Doc, I'm glad things have turned out so well for you, and Hawgeye, it sounds like you've got a lot of support. Do what you know is right in your heart for your child & you, and things will work out for the best for you both.
On a lighter note, I found this amusing ...
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As a very busy Ob, ...
a beautiful daughter that surprised us all 5 yrs ago.
Just proves the unexpected can happen to anyone.
Seriously, though, congrats on your daughter, your happy marriage, & happy family.
Posted on 3/8/14 at 12:38 pm to Pigfeet
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Remember to pick up a strong sausage for Arkla Missy, and maybe a corndog.
Yes, please.
And don't forget mustard.
No shooting turtles!!! Only snakes.
Posted on 3/8/14 at 1:49 pm to Arkla Missy
Just thought I'd add... when I was growing up, my parents went through some rocky times and they very nearly divorced when I was around 10 or 11 years old (I didn't find out until several years later, and I found out by accident). My dad had the papers drawn up by his lawyer and everything. I actually know the lawyer by name and met him several times. I just thought it was because he and my dad were friends. Later I found out he was going to represent my dad in the divorce.
However, the divorce never happened. I grew up, finished high school, and went off to college. When I was home for spring break my freshman year, my parents told me over dinner that they were getting a divorce.
I don't know for sure, but I suspect that the reason my parents stayed together until I was in college is because they wanted me to grow up in a home with two parents. In hindsight, I realize how miserable my dad was all those years ago. He had trouble sleeping, he acted withdrawn from family functions like Thanksgiving and Christmas, and he started drinking more (but hid it well... I never noticed him acting drunk, but the front of his golf cart was stuffed full of Crown Royal bags and it didn't occur to me until I was much older how much he was really drinking). He was on pills that my parents told me were for insomnia, but years later I suspected they were for anxiety and depression.
I don't know if my parents reconciled and the next 8 years were better for them, or if they just agreed to stick together until I graduated purely for my sake. I really don't know and I don't think I'll ever ask. What I believe is that my parents considered what would be best for me, and they did it. I'm really grateful for that, because I can't imagine having to deal with my parents divorcing. I'm glad I didn't.
So I guess my point is that since you have a child, you should do everything you can to make it work with your wife, at least until your child is older. Exhaust every option you have before you end it. It's definitely worth a shot, especially for your daughter. She doesn't know it, but it will mean the world to her if you can stay together.
IMO there's a point when divorce becomes necessary and inescapable, but I think it's important to try everything else first.
However, the divorce never happened. I grew up, finished high school, and went off to college. When I was home for spring break my freshman year, my parents told me over dinner that they were getting a divorce.
I don't know for sure, but I suspect that the reason my parents stayed together until I was in college is because they wanted me to grow up in a home with two parents. In hindsight, I realize how miserable my dad was all those years ago. He had trouble sleeping, he acted withdrawn from family functions like Thanksgiving and Christmas, and he started drinking more (but hid it well... I never noticed him acting drunk, but the front of his golf cart was stuffed full of Crown Royal bags and it didn't occur to me until I was much older how much he was really drinking). He was on pills that my parents told me were for insomnia, but years later I suspected they were for anxiety and depression.
I don't know if my parents reconciled and the next 8 years were better for them, or if they just agreed to stick together until I graduated purely for my sake. I really don't know and I don't think I'll ever ask. What I believe is that my parents considered what would be best for me, and they did it. I'm really grateful for that, because I can't imagine having to deal with my parents divorcing. I'm glad I didn't.
So I guess my point is that since you have a child, you should do everything you can to make it work with your wife, at least until your child is older. Exhaust every option you have before you end it. It's definitely worth a shot, especially for your daughter. She doesn't know it, but it will mean the world to her if you can stay together.
IMO there's a point when divorce becomes necessary and inescapable, but I think it's important to try everything else first.
This post was edited on 3/8/14 at 1:51 pm
Posted on 3/8/14 at 2:32 pm to Arkla Missy
Damn Missy,
You don't miss anything.
You don't miss anything.
Posted on 3/8/14 at 3:08 pm to Pigfeet
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Just learned that the carat that were planning on heisting was actually a cubic zirconia
look, I ain't plannin' on bustin' up in their garden, pigfeet, an besides, I don't know too much about vejturbls, bedsides irish taters, mustards and hot water corn bread!
but when the rock has been grabbed, everdense dispozed of and the deed is done, I'll buy the cheeseburgers at lenore's place in hermitage, aight?
a m, they say tiger fans smell like corn dogs,, purty mowfwaterin', I suspect??
eta: "strong sausage",, lolololol
This post was edited on 3/8/14 at 3:10 pm
Posted on 3/8/14 at 3:22 pm to Ole Geauxt
Yes, OG, I love a good corn dog!!
I was also wondering what that delicious aroma is coming from some of my Tigger friends. Hell, I thought it was acqua di gio all this time.
I was also wondering what that delicious aroma is coming from some of my Tigger friends. Hell, I thought it was acqua di gio all this time.
This post was edited on 3/8/14 at 3:24 pm
Posted on 3/8/14 at 3:29 pm to Arkla Missy
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Yes, I thought it was acqua did gio all this time.
aqua doin' gio has what to do with a good corn dog??
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