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My fiancé just told me she needed a break.
Posted on 1/6/18 at 10:01 pm
Posted on 1/6/18 at 10:01 pm
To me this means it is over. I'm pretty distraught over this and my heart aches.
Has anybody had this happen and then rekindle the fire and stay together? Or am I just holding on with false hope.
Has anybody had this happen and then rekindle the fire and stay together? Or am I just holding on with false hope.
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Posted on 1/6/18 at 10:04 pm to asphinctersayswhat
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How old are you? Your answer will determine my response.
Posted on 1/6/18 at 10:06 pm to asphinctersayswhat
That sucks man sorry to hear it. I've broken up and gotten back together. Key was figuring out the reason and seeing if its resolvable. If not. Sadly there is little chance.
Posted on 1/6/18 at 10:07 pm to asphinctersayswhat
The best thing you can do is not sit around and mope. Get out and have a good time preferably with one of her friends. Women have this weird inverse relationship with happiness after a breakup. The happier you are the less certain they will be that they made the right decision.
If you are out and moving on with your life not only will you be more desirable to other women but to her as well.
If you are out and moving on with your life not only will you be more desirable to other women but to her as well.
Posted on 1/6/18 at 10:09 pm to asphinctersayswhat
Sorry to hear, did she give a reason. It may be over but if she’s someone you love don’t simply give up, couples weather storms and many turn out healthier on the other side. At the very least see if she’ll go to counseling with you to try and mend whatever needs to be.
Edit: saw the second response and that made me realize you may be considerably younger than me and yeah my answer probably would change if so.
Edit: saw the second response and that made me realize you may be considerably younger than me and yeah my answer probably would change if so.
This post was edited on 1/6/18 at 10:12 pm
Posted on 1/6/18 at 10:23 pm to asphinctersayswhat
Posted on 1/6/18 at 10:52 pm to asphinctersayswhat
I've had a girl tell me that she needed a break. It hurt and all I wanted to do was get back with her. I went ahead and kept living my life, even though I was miserable and nothing seemed fun. We ended up getting back together and I was happy as hell. About a week went by and it hit me that I was actually having more fun single 
I broke up with her and that was the end of it. It was the best decision I've ever made.
Moral of the story: Go have as much fun as possible and don't look back. Live your life and be selfish for a little while. You might just realize she wasn't the right person for you.
I broke up with her and that was the end of it. It was the best decision I've ever made. Moral of the story: Go have as much fun as possible and don't look back. Live your life and be selfish for a little while. You might just realize she wasn't the right person for you.
Posted on 1/6/18 at 11:54 pm to TideSaint
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Little background.
I've been married but stayed drunk most of the time and then woke up one day and quit drinking. Soon I realized that was happy with my wife and we ended up getting a divorce.
This woman(2nd woman I dated after my divorce) is someone I had a brief fling with before I met my wife. We ended up reconnecting about 1.5 years ago and got engaged this past summer. She is awesome and has a little boy that is 7. He is a cool little dude.
Little background.
I've been married but stayed drunk most of the time and then woke up one day and quit drinking. Soon I realized that was happy with my wife and we ended up getting a divorce.
This woman(2nd woman I dated after my divorce) is someone I had a brief fling with before I met my wife. We ended up reconnecting about 1.5 years ago and got engaged this past summer. She is awesome and has a little boy that is 7. He is a cool little dude.
This post was edited on 1/7/18 at 12:01 am
Posted on 1/7/18 at 12:43 am to asphinctersayswhat
If you all were in your 20s I’d say she gone but because y’all are a bit more mature she may just really need a break. Did she say why she wanted to take some time off?
It is a little disconcerting to take some “time off” from an engagement and probably signals some cold feet. Better to run in to this now than when you’re married and can’t really take a break.
It is a little disconcerting to take some “time off” from an engagement and probably signals some cold feet. Better to run in to this now than when you’re married and can’t really take a break.
This post was edited on 1/7/18 at 12:46 am
Posted on 1/7/18 at 1:15 am to KSGamecock
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If you all were in your 20s I’d say she gone but because y’all are a bit more mature she may just really need a break. Did she say why she wanted to take some time off?
Yes, she wanted time off.
The thing that is disconcerting is that, by nature, she is very warm and loving woman. The last 6ish weeks she has been very cold......always at arms length mentally.
Posted on 1/7/18 at 1:24 am to asphinctersayswhat
Stop being a pussy and go frick bitches, because she is obviously taking a dick that isn't yours.
Posted on 1/7/18 at 2:14 am to asphinctersayswhat
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Yes, she wanted time off.
The thing that is disconcerting is that, by nature, she is very warm and loving woman. The last 6ish weeks she has been very cold......always at arms length mentally.
Hey man, sorry that you're having a bad time but here's the thing: Focus on you.
If she wants space, cool, give her space, go do shite. I'm not saying go frick people (that's retarded), but what I'm saying is show yourself and her that you're capable of doing things on your own.
I just had a break with my girlfriend (I'm 30, she's 22) and it was basically that -- I just had to see if she could go do things on her own and have her own life because she was drivin' me frickin' crazy.
So that's the advice, man. 1. If she really needs the space, she's got it. 2. If you're doing other things, you're not thinking of her so if she really wants to end it on a longer term, then you'll be alright.
Whatever you do, don't just sit around stewing about it.
Posted on 1/7/18 at 5:23 am to StrawsDrawnAtRandom
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The last 6ish weeks she has been very cold......always at arms length mentally
This says a lot right here. Obviously this is something that has been burning at her for a while.
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cool, give her space, go do shite
This is all you can do
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I'm not saying go frick people (that's retarded)
Not retarded at all! If it is over then this will help you get over her
Posted on 1/7/18 at 5:24 am to StrawsDrawnAtRandom
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I just had a break with my girlfriend (I'm 30, she's 22)
Jeez someone decided to rob the cradle
Posted on 1/7/18 at 6:01 am to asphinctersayswhat
I member when Men were Men, this shite wouldn’t even be a question.
Kick that bitch to the curb and move to the next one.
Remember, pussy ain’t worth buying, just rent it for a while.
Kick that bitch to the curb and move to the next one.
Remember, pussy ain’t worth buying, just rent it for a while.
Posted on 1/7/18 at 8:15 am to asphinctersayswhat
It's over. Sorry.
Posted on 1/7/18 at 8:44 am to asphinctersayswhat
I am afraid I shall have to join in the chorus of people saying move on with your life and don't look back. Particularly at your age.
Pining over a lost girlfriend when you are in your 20s is one thing, in your 40s (and I'm up there myself) you don't have much longer in the dating life.
It didn't work out, that is unfortunate, but these things happen. Go out, have a good time, and if you aren't ready to get back into dating then go to a strip club and leer at nekkid women (unless where you are they only have bikini bars). Do not dwell on this.
Pining over a lost girlfriend when you are in your 20s is one thing, in your 40s (and I'm up there myself) you don't have much longer in the dating life.
It didn't work out, that is unfortunate, but these things happen. Go out, have a good time, and if you aren't ready to get back into dating then go to a strip club and leer at nekkid women (unless where you are they only have bikini bars). Do not dwell on this.
Posted on 1/7/18 at 8:56 am to Arksulli
This just happened yesterday so, having fun is not what i want to do right now. I need to wallow in my misery a bit. Plus, there wasn't certainty in what she wanted. I've got to go over to her place and get some stuff today so I'll know more after that.
Posted on 1/7/18 at 10:53 am to asphinctersayswhat
Good luck, man, just remember to focus on you and everything will be fine. 
Posted on 1/7/18 at 11:17 am to asphinctersayswhat
I hate to say it but there is a good chance she has been wanting to cheat on you and taking a break gives her a chance to do so. If she is seeing someone in the next week or two you will have your answer. So, for now, go have fun. You’re too old (and I am in your age group) to waste time moping.
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