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What was your favorite Christmas family tradition when you were a child?

Posted on 12/17/15 at 9:26 pm
Posted by mizzoukills
Member since Aug 2011
40686 posts
Posted on 12/17/15 at 9:26 pm
Early Christmas Eve my mother and father would drive my siblings and I two hours to my Granny and Grandpa's house where we would meet our aunts, uncles, and cousins for holiday merriment and celebration.

Granny and Grandpa's house was a very large 3 story colonial style home in the picturesque countryside of northeast Missouri located about 20 country miles from Mark Twain's childhood cabin and the Mississippi River.

I come from a musically rich family so holidays were filled with the sounds of piano, violin, and song. The only arguments that would occur were between my mother and uncle and usually involved whether or not someone was singing out of tune.

Just before dinner Grandpa would silence everyone and read the Christmas story straight from the Bible just before saying prayer. Adults and lucky young adults sat at the "adult table"...children and unfortunate young adults sat at the "kids tables". For what it's worth, I didn't make it to the adult table until I was 29. LOL.

Dinner was HUGE and consisted of wild and tame turkey, ham, oyster stuffing, oyster stew, boiled shrimp, the regular fixings, and several home made pies. Alcohol flowed freely. Teenagers would sneak a few beers to the 3rd floor where a completely separate party took place (the adults knew what was going on up there, but it was only one night of the year so they turned a blind eye to it).

Suddenly (and usually toward the end of dinner), everyone would hear the faint ringing of bells outside and then soon after Santa would barge into the front door with a loud and convincing, "Ho, ho, ho...Merry Christmas!"

All the kids would chaotically run to Santa and then line up to sit on his lap and tell him what they wanted for Christmas. The magical thing is that Santa always recalled exactly what all the adults in the house wanted when they were children. His "gift" of recollection made every kid in Granny and Grandpa's house a true believer

Of course when we became young adults we found out that generations of men from a specific farm family in the area would drive to houses on Christmas Eve and visit families that had paid a small fee for the service. Mother told us that Santa had always visited Granny and Grandpa's house even when she was a child which only made us kids believe in him even more.

Santa would give each child a small brown bag of treats and cheap toys (different bags for girls and boys) and then as swiftly as he had arrived he was gone.

We would end the night with a few more songs. We'd listen to the local radio Christmas station give an NORAD sponsored Santa flight tracker update. And then the adults would command us to bed with warnings that Santa may skip Granny and Grandpa's house if we weren't asleep.

Early the next morning all the kids would awake to a living room transformed into a gift package wonderland. The incredibly tired adults would drag themselves out of their beds, make coffee, and attempt to stay awake while the kids organized and tore into their Christmas gifts. Grandpa, my father, and my uncle would sometimes fall asleep in their chairs while the women took pictures and simultaneously bitched at the men for falling asleep.

The Killz family Christmas was truly magical.

Those days are gone. Grandpa passed way a few years ago. Granny is trying hard to beat the onset of dementia at 90 years old. Traditions have changed, but the memories are as fresh in our minds as cool mountain air...or as Ray Kinsella once said, "The memories [are] so thick [we] have to brush them away from their faces."

I'm now creating new Christmas traditions with the hope that future generations of family experience the same kind of magic that I once did when I was child at Granny and Grandpa's house on Christmas Eve...and that's exciting.

I'm starting now what my grandfather started in the 1950s. I am my grandfather's spirit reborn in the flesh.

Merry Christmas.
This post was edited on 12/18/15 at 10:13 am
Posted by semotruman
Member since Nov 2011
23179 posts
Posted on 12/17/15 at 9:54 pm to
My family did something similar, traveling to a tiny little town in northeast Arkansas to my MaMa's farm. I got to see all my cousins, there was always music and lots of good country food. We would pile all the kids into the basement and giggle until we finally fell asleep, listening for Santa. Gifts spilled all over the living room on Christmas morning, and there's no telling how many trees perished in the making of all that wrapping paper.

I specifically remember singing Oh, Holy Night with my brother, who passed away a few years ago. We liked to harmonize. And I remember making all the Christmas goodies with Mom. She loved making Christmas candy and cookies. Happy memories...

Maybe when I go home next week I can talk her into makin a few things with me.
Posted by mizzoukills
Member since Aug 2011
40686 posts
Posted on 12/17/15 at 10:06 pm to
Your childhood Christmas sounds incredibly similar to my childhood Christmas. We had to sing and harmonize (lest we receive a lecture from my mom or uncle for singing out of tune).

The loss of traditions can be sad for many people.

But I choose to view it another way. I'm thankful for a very blessed childhood and although I miss Granny and Grandpa's Christmas Eve, I use those memories to inspire me to create new incredible Christmas traditions for my wife and children and one day their spouses and children...and perhaps great grandchildren if we live long enough.

The true blessing aren't the traditions...it's the passing of the torch from one generation to the next.
Posted by 50CalMG
The Mountain Top
Member since Jun 2012
476 posts
Posted on 12/18/15 at 12:00 am to
My dad would make the same jokes about how he killed all the reindeer. My dad was an a-hole.
Posted by ZouDawg88
Wentzville
Member since Mar 2013
377 posts
Posted on 12/18/15 at 12:34 am to
My memories are of Christmas Eve when we would have an appetizer buffet of homemade tamales, homemade egg rolls, shrimp, meatballs, mini sandwiches, etc. To this day we still do this for Christmas.

Mom would also have us do a treasure hunt where we each would get a typed clue in the form of a short poem to guide us to where our next clue was located. At the end of finding all of our clues we would find a wrapped gift that could be opened that night.

And of course Dad would always read "'Twas the night before Christmas".

Good memories!
Posted by sofa
CoMo
Member since Nov 2013
631 posts
Posted on 12/18/15 at 6:22 am to
Hoping all the checks daddy kited cleared before the manager at K-Mart took the toys back.
Posted by Wtodd
Tampa, FL
Member since Oct 2013
67482 posts
Posted on 12/18/15 at 6:51 am to
quote:

My dad was an a-hole.

An a-hole for a dad beats the shite out of an absentee dad.........scratch that......absentee father.

Sorry for making this depressing but everything is relative (no pun)
Posted by Kamikaze25
Columbia
Member since Jul 2015
1199 posts
Posted on 12/18/15 at 8:11 am to
quote:

Those days are gone. Grandpa passed way a few years ago. Granny is trying hard to beat the onset of dementia at 90 years old. Traditions have changed, but the memories are as fresh in our minds as cool mountain air...or as Ray Kinsella once said, "The memories [are] so thick [we] have to brush them away from their faces."


Wow, this hits pretty close to home. My family busts out the piano and guitar as well. My uncle was a concert pianist, so he can play that thing like a boss.
Posted by mizzoukills
Member since Aug 2011
40686 posts
Posted on 12/18/15 at 9:14 am to
quote:

Wow, this hits pretty close to home



I can't talk about my childhood Christmas traditions without mentioning that they no longer take place.

I must have reverence for what once was but is no longer.
Posted by jafo
Northwest Missouri State Bearcats
Member since Jan 2012
2954 posts
Posted on 12/18/15 at 10:10 am to
Our families were not as close. Had we done the same thing you once did, it would have ended ugly. So everyone kind of did their own thing. My brother was the only one to take in my parents dinner. Did the usual present exchange. The one thing I miss now and really for the last 20 yrs. is while everyone else either had a turkey or ham for the center piece of their Christmas dinner, I grew up with pheasant, quail or duck and or a goose and yes it was wild game. It was pheasant and quail most times. The geese and ducks were a bonus and treat because thanks to the federal government, they made it such a pain in the arse to hunt them, we just didn't bother most the time. So I do come from a family that hunts. It was always interesting eating because you had to be careful for any buckshot my mom couldn't dig out of the birds. But that would be a tradition I miss most. Wild game bird has a distinctive smell and flavor and both are awesome. Everything is centered around dinner. I never met one granddad, and the other passed in '75. I barely knew him. My grannies, one passed in the early 80's and my other passed just after I graduated HS. She was the only one I really got to know. She didn't have much money. Both sides were extremely poor and the last granny to go couldn't afford presents, but it didn't matter. She lived in a small town in SE Kansas, McCune. Loved to go see her and was the only reason I stayed out of baseball. But anyways, the dinner was the biggest tradition we had. Thanksgiving was always the day we left for western Kansas for pheasant hinting. That was also a tradition every year.
Posted by MizzouPhoto
Atlanta
Member since Oct 2015
101 posts
Posted on 12/18/15 at 10:53 am to

Eating roasted Jayhawk was the highlight of our seasonal celebrations.
Posted by mizzoukills
Member since Aug 2011
40686 posts
Posted on 12/18/15 at 10:55 am to
quote:

I grew up with pheasant, quail



You don't realize how lucky you were to eat pheasant or quail for Christmas. Those two birds are food gold. Easily blow away turkey. Honestly, I don't like turkey. I'd much rather eat pheasant or quail.

quote:

Had we done the same thing you once did, it would have ended ugly. So everyone kind of did their own thing


Talk about your current traditions! Have you made an effort to create new traditions that could be passed to future generations?
Posted by jafo
Northwest Missouri State Bearcats
Member since Jan 2012
2954 posts
Posted on 12/18/15 at 11:24 am to
I love turkey. Dark meat though. Has the most flavor.

I've never heard pheasant or quail refered to as food gold, but yeh you're right, it is. I know exactly how lucky I was as unfortunately haven't had it in about 20 yrs. I don't mind the hunting, but the drive and cooking breakfast in sub zero weather I don't miss. My dad is nearing his 90's and brother is in his mid 60's and they are just too old now to go and I have tried to find other hunting areas but it's always a long drive. But, may be on to a new hunting area in Iowa. Another thing we used to do is tell the same hunting stories during dinner. Not the actual hunt itself, but the odd things that would happen while we were out there in Kansas. My brother has a very knack at turning normal things into humorous stories. He's one of the greatest oneline artists I know. He missed his calling.

Thanks to my wife, we have new traditions. Her family upbringing was totally opposite of mine. They are a close knit family unit. Both sides. I never traveled on holidays until we married. I still find myself adjusting to it after 27 years of marriage. I'm not accustomed to hugs and what not from other family memebers. I grew up in a house of little outward showing emotion other than tempered situations. It was a cultural shock for me. I was raised in a strong republican based house, my wifes was split. That's always interesting because my wife now cooks Christmas dinner at our house and her family and my family meet here. It's like Lampoons vaction. My dad is still die hard republican as is my brother and they are at an age where they don't care who's around, they will speak thier minds. Wifes family is abit more liberally minded and they don't mind saying what's on their minds. It gets interesting, and somewhat comical at times. Nothing like politics on Christmas day. But that's kind of our new tradition, bringing both sides together. Um yeh.
Posted by TigerTalker16
Columbia,MO
Member since Apr 2015
11533 posts
Posted on 12/18/15 at 11:50 am to
quote:

Eating roasted Jayhawk was the highlight of our seasonal celebrations.


Oh, I like this one.
Posted by Wtodd
Tampa, FL
Member since Oct 2013
67482 posts
Posted on 12/18/15 at 11:54 am to
quote:

Have you made an effort to create new traditions that could be passed to future generations?

I think so; daughter & SIL (and new 1 month old grandbaby) come down from Chicago and we go out for fresh seafood the day after Christmas.....it's called Florida Christmas Dinner. This will be year 3 doing this.
Posted by mizzoukills
Member since Aug 2011
40686 posts
Posted on 12/18/15 at 1:10 pm to
quote:

daughter & SIL (and new 1 month old grandbaby) come down from Chicago and we go out for fresh seafood the day after Christmas.....it's called Florida Christmas Dinner. This will be year 3 doing this.



I'd like to do a Florida (or tropical) Christmas sometime...
Posted by everytrueson
Los Angeles, CA
Member since Mar 2012
5887 posts
Posted on 12/18/15 at 1:21 pm to
I always remember living in Nebraska and going out to cut down a real tree at some Christmas farm. The event would always occur on the weekend of the Army/Navy game so we would get home and I would hear that CBS college football intro music (love).

Every year there was some random thing that would happen. It would snow two feet one year so we would have to dig out the tree just to get a place to saw, the tree would fly off the top of the car, the tree would be too big for the house, etc.

All fun times. I am the oldest of 5 so it was always a cluster just finding everyone when it was time to go home. Especially if it was like the artic out there. Good good times.
Posted by mizzoukills
Member since Aug 2011
40686 posts
Posted on 12/18/15 at 1:54 pm to
quote:

All fun times. I am the oldest of 5 so it was always a cluster just finding everyone when it was time to go home. Especially if it was like the artic out there. Good good times.



I grew up in Northeast Missouri not far from the Missouri/Iowa border. It can get pretty cold up there.

On Christmas morning after everyone had opened presents and eaten breakfast, if it was extremely cold outside my grandfather would ask my cousin, brother, and I to drive out to the farm to cut holes in the ice on the creek to allow the cattle a place to access water. Grandpa started asking us to this when we were 14 or 15. None of us even had a driver's license yet but farm kids learn to drive when we're about 12 or perhaps even younger.

The farm was about 10 country miles from their house. We'd drive out there, walk up and down the frozen creek with axes and chop holes in the ice near the banks. It took us maybe 30 minutes to 1 hour tops to finish the chore.

We'd frick around, share a beer or two, shoot guns at targets on hay bales, drive around the pastures looking at cattle, and arrive back at Grandpa's house about 4 hours later.

Always a blast.
Posted by jafo
Northwest Missouri State Bearcats
Member since Jan 2012
2954 posts
Posted on 12/18/15 at 7:23 pm to
Ok, wait a minute. I thought my wifes aunt was the only one who made oyster stuffing. I stayed away from it myself, but she loved it.

That's quite a story there Killz. It sounds fantastic, almost surreal. It also sounds like you're abit nostalgic. Nothing wrong with that. That's how they live on even though they are not physically here anymore.

The only piece of advice I can can pass along since you're the new steward of Christmas, is share those memories with the younger generation, and do it often. That history, your lineage depends on it. It's a way to keep that deep sense of family between you and yours year round. I think family history follows the same course as the language of a lost or conquered people. If it's not handed down through the generations and shared, it's lost to time.

Merry Christmas Killz.
Posted by Mizzou Mule
St. Charles County, Missou-rah
Member since Sep 2014
3071 posts
Posted on 12/19/15 at 10:55 am to
Getting that lump of coal to skip off my dad's head and hit my mom too. Two for one.
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