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Posted on 6/17/16 at 2:23 pm to
Posted by Pavoloco83
Acworth Ga. too many damn dawgs
Member since Nov 2013
15347 posts
Posted on 6/17/16 at 2:23 pm to
As a Dad with a white daughter with a black boyfriend, I speak with some experience on this.

I will admit that I struggled hard with this. Im old school and believe(d) that colors shouldnt mix. Call me old school southern, racist, whatever. Its how I was raised.

Having said that, at the end of the day I found myself asking the following questions.

1. Is he a good man? (yes)
2. Does he love my daughter? (yes)
3. Does she love him? (yes)
4. Do they respect each other (seems so.)
5. Is he an ambitious person who would be a good provider/partner/husband in due course (I think so.)
6. Does he have a good family? (mostly)

At the end of the day, if these questions are all yes, then color is irrelevant. Im good with it.

Where I do have concerns is with mixed kids. They take shite from both races. I look at the crap blacks give steph curry as an example. I was on twitter last night and someone was calling him that "tan colored n&gga". I've seen articles about that issue of color of color.

Anyway, I digress. go talk to your future FIL. Respectfully tell him all those things above. if he still has a problem, then tell your future MIL those same things. She'll fix his arse.

Thats my advice.
Posted by MontyFranklyn
T-Town
Member since Jan 2012
23835 posts
Posted on 6/17/16 at 2:44 pm to
People are going to not like you no matter what
Black people give Lebron shite too. Black people give Cam shite too. White people hate Peyton Manning, white people hate Brady, white people hate Bush and Kennedy, black people hate Obama. No matter what your skin color is there will always be someone that hates you even if they share the same pigment as you.
Posted by CCTider
Member since Dec 2014
24248 posts
Posted on 6/17/16 at 2:49 pm to
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Where I do have concerns is with mixed kids. They take shite from both races


Not quite like in the past. Mixed kids are commonly some of the most attractive people, especially in rural areas where the genes seem to be getting too similar. Plus, our president for the last 8 years is mixed. That problem is on the decline.

I don't think this is a problem at all in decent sized cities. Maybe in very small country towns. But I don't expect a teacher with a masters degree to end up in bum frick Egypt. Things have changed a lot between generations.





And if he tries to tell the old joke, . What do you call a black guy with a masters degree?

Answer : either boss or sir


Preempt the dumb racist shite and prove a point. Just the fact that you've gone to a site with a lot of racist or pro segregation posters, says a lot about how conflicted you and how much you love this woman.
This post was edited on 6/17/16 at 3:00 pm
Posted by JustGetItRight
Member since Jan 2012
15715 posts
Posted on 6/17/16 at 4:36 pm to
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Having said that, at the end of the day I found myself asking the following questions.

1. Is he a good man? (yes)
2. Does he love my daughter? (yes)
3. Does she love him? (yes)
4. Do they respect each other (seems so.)
5. Is he an ambitious person who would be a good provider/partner/husband in due course (I think so.)
6. Does he have a good family? (mostly)

At the end of the day, if these questions are all yes, then color is irrelevant. Im good with it.


Very sound philosophy.
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