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Posted on 6/17/16 at 2:23 pm to dwgsfrlife7673
Posted on 6/17/16 at 2:23 pm to dwgsfrlife7673
As a Dad with a white daughter with a black boyfriend, I speak with some experience on this.
I will admit that I struggled hard with this. Im old school and believe(d) that colors shouldnt mix. Call me old school southern, racist, whatever. Its how I was raised.
Having said that, at the end of the day I found myself asking the following questions.
1. Is he a good man? (yes)
2. Does he love my daughter? (yes)
3. Does she love him? (yes)
4. Do they respect each other (seems so.)
5. Is he an ambitious person who would be a good provider/partner/husband in due course (I think so.)
6. Does he have a good family? (mostly)
At the end of the day, if these questions are all yes, then color is irrelevant. Im good with it.
Where I do have concerns is with mixed kids. They take shite from both races. I look at the crap blacks give steph curry as an example. I was on twitter last night and someone was calling him that "tan colored n&gga". I've seen articles about that issue of color of color.
Anyway, I digress. go talk to your future FIL. Respectfully tell him all those things above. if he still has a problem, then tell your future MIL those same things. She'll fix his arse.
Thats my advice.
I will admit that I struggled hard with this. Im old school and believe(d) that colors shouldnt mix. Call me old school southern, racist, whatever. Its how I was raised.
Having said that, at the end of the day I found myself asking the following questions.
1. Is he a good man? (yes)
2. Does he love my daughter? (yes)
3. Does she love him? (yes)
4. Do they respect each other (seems so.)
5. Is he an ambitious person who would be a good provider/partner/husband in due course (I think so.)
6. Does he have a good family? (mostly)
At the end of the day, if these questions are all yes, then color is irrelevant. Im good with it.
Where I do have concerns is with mixed kids. They take shite from both races. I look at the crap blacks give steph curry as an example. I was on twitter last night and someone was calling him that "tan colored n&gga". I've seen articles about that issue of color of color.
Anyway, I digress. go talk to your future FIL. Respectfully tell him all those things above. if he still has a problem, then tell your future MIL those same things. She'll fix his arse.
Thats my advice.
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Posted on 6/17/16 at 2:44 pm to Pavoloco83
People are going to not like you no matter what 
Black people give Lebron shite too. Black people give Cam shite too. White people hate Peyton Manning, white people hate Brady, white people hate Bush and Kennedy, black people hate Obama. No matter what your skin color is there will always be someone that hates you even if they share the same pigment as you.
Black people give Lebron shite too. Black people give Cam shite too. White people hate Peyton Manning, white people hate Brady, white people hate Bush and Kennedy, black people hate Obama. No matter what your skin color is there will always be someone that hates you even if they share the same pigment as you.
Posted on 6/17/16 at 2:49 pm to Pavoloco83
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Where I do have concerns is with mixed kids. They take shite from both races
Not quite like in the past. Mixed kids are commonly some of the most attractive people, especially in rural areas where the genes seem to be getting too similar. Plus, our president for the last 8 years is mixed. That problem is on the decline.
I don't think this is a problem at all in decent sized cities. Maybe in very small country towns. But I don't expect a teacher with a masters degree to end up in bum frick Egypt. Things have changed a lot between generations.
And if he tries to tell the old joke, . What do you call a black guy with a masters degree?
Answer : either boss or sir
Preempt the dumb racist shite and prove a point. Just the fact that you've gone to a site with a lot of racist or pro segregation posters, says a lot about how conflicted you and how much you love this woman.
This post was edited on 6/17/16 at 3:00 pm
Posted on 6/17/16 at 4:36 pm to Pavoloco83
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Having said that, at the end of the day I found myself asking the following questions.
1. Is he a good man? (yes)
2. Does he love my daughter? (yes)
3. Does she love him? (yes)
4. Do they respect each other (seems so.)
5. Is he an ambitious person who would be a good provider/partner/husband in due course (I think so.)
6. Does he have a good family? (mostly)
At the end of the day, if these questions are all yes, then color is irrelevant. Im good with it.
Very sound philosophy.
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