re: I need help, guys

First: Digital non-erotic hug bro, this sucks and I know it hurts. Honestly wish I could wipe it away (emotional pain sucks and this is one of the biggies).

Second: Get counseling just for you, ASAP. It will help if you allow it to. I think secular is better just because they typically have more training and a different approach but if you need to do so faith based counseling can help.

Third: Hang in there. It WILL get better.

I don't know enough about your situation to offer much more but she's obviously scarred by prior relationships if she is lumping you in with others regarding couples counseling and that's not your fault.

I won't lie to you - all this is gonna suck balls for a while but it really does get better and I really do think personal counseling can do you good even if it's only to get it all out. I wish I could offer you more.