re: I need help, guys

Is she open to counseling or is the relationship too far gone? A lotta times if both wanna make it work & realize that a major change is needed, the relationship can be repaired, but it's a long process...

I was married for 30 years before my divorce, it was a very bad time in my life & I was blindsided but later figured out it was as much my fault as hers...

Try your best to see if the relationship has any hope of being mended cause that's the best possible outcome, but you have to be brutally honest with yourself. If it's over... It's over...

Best wishes & prayers Spiff, everything usually seems to work out for the best in the long run. You gotta lot of bad days & nights ahead of you but keep the faith & try to stay positive, grow & learn from this. You're a lot younger than I was & I came thru it ok, you can too...