re: I need help, guys

Well, My advice isn't revolutionary but you need to show her and everyone else around you that you've changed and if you can think of some way that it'd open her eyes to her mistake, that'd help. Even if that doesn't work, it will help in divorce proceedings. Also, when all else fails, you need to have a conversation with her about what's best for the children. If yall remaining togeather would be toxic, then divorce might be better. But if the issues can be worked through, it's far better for the children than to go through a messy divorce.