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Posted on 4/23/23 at 9:15 pm to Tigertown in ATL
If nothing changes Friday will be the day he comes home with us. He has been using his twice weekly calls to get to better know us, and let us know more about him. My anxiety about the placement is still there but with each conversation it is getting better. I hate shopping so Friday is going to be with the wife shopping, he has no clothes that fit him, literally nothing. Saturday will be me and him, morning will be at the barber shop followed by lunch, that’s what me and me previous foster son always did followed by seeing if he knows how to work a chainsaw, we are in the middle of cleaning up the woods around the house. My pastor also wants to be involved but he doesn’t want to overwhelm him but in the near future he wants to invite him out with our Men’s ministry for lunch to show him he now has a supportive group of men around him, he’s never seen anything but his Mom’s various abusive boyfriends as it relates to men
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Posted on 4/23/23 at 11:33 pm to pioneerbasketball
Me too I don't have anyone except trant and I don't really have them
Posted on 4/24/23 at 9:47 am to Jdillard343434
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"A man never stands quite so tall as when he stoops to help a Boy"
This quote applies to you and your wife.
Posted on 4/26/23 at 9:47 am to AgSGT
Fostering is hard. This world is a better place because of people like you guys who are willing to step up and make a difference. Props to you for giving this kid a better shot at life.
Posted on 4/30/23 at 6:06 pm to AgSGT
Any update?
Posted on 4/30/23 at 9:59 pm to greenbean
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Any update?
The plan for the first couple of days didn’t work as planned but it hasn’t been bad at all. Different sort of trauma, but the boys reaction to being back in society reminds me of when I first came home from Afghanistan, I think that has helped me empathize with him as he readjusts to society and being part of it. Took him to Church today and I saw a spark I hadn’t seen the first couple of days, I’m pretty sure Church is something that is going to help, but he didn’t think would. He is big into basketball, decades ago I spent everyday on a basketball court, so today I could tell he was bored after Church so I asked if he wanted to go play some basketball. I forgot how much I enjoyed basketball but he lit up on the court, I got to see what he is passionate about and it made it all the more fun. The first couple of nights he spent the evenings in his room, after playing basketball today he has hung out with us all night, I think I found the in Imwas looking for
Posted on 4/30/23 at 10:19 pm to AgSGT
How good is the kid? Its aau season if hes interested.
Posted on 5/2/23 at 10:09 am to pioneerbasketball
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How good is the kid? Its aau season if hes interested.
Where we live I don't even know that there is AAU anywhere close. I'm admittedly a little more harsh when it comes to judging basketball talent, I went to school and played high school ball in Columbia, SC and back then, high school basketball there was like high school football in Texas, it was on another level. I wasn't the best but I could hold my own. Living in the sticks of Missouri though, I can't imagine the talent being that great so he may have a shot of making the team. He is open to coaching which is good, so the plan going forward is for me to work with him on drills I used to run daily growing up. If he makes the team, awesome, but if he doesn't at least we will have had that time together.
Also on a side note, because of the timing of the placement, he has to wait till the fall to start his senior year rather than jumping into school with a month left. Rather than sit around and be lazy, today is his first day on the job on a friend's construction crew. They are starting him at the bottom but I think it will be invaluable for him going forward in teaching him responsibility.
Posted on 7/21/23 at 9:36 pm to greenbean
Wanted to provide an update, a month back the boy we took in tried to runaway and was picked up by the police at which point he said he was harming himself and showed the police the cuts. After a week in Psyche, he came back to us and we found out he had abandoned all of his meds leading up to the runaway attempt. As a condition of him coming back we told he’d have to stay on the meds until he worked with a Psychiatrist and doctor to adjust the meds so they weren’t negatively impacting him. He’s on a crap ton of meds to deal with the mental impacts a life of physical and mental abuse. Well, unfortunately he did not follow that condition. He isn’t a bad kid, just a kid dealt a crap hand in life, wasn’t disrespectful towards us but he decided to abandon his meds again and the defiant side of him came out again. We told him over and over to take the meds, follow a regular sleep schedule and he just kept bucking back. That led to a confrontation after we discovered pills he was supposed to be taking hidden I; his room. When confronted he did his usual during a confrontation and ran to his room and refused to talk to us. Hated to do it but we had to call his case worker, he was not following our rules and he was becoming more unpredictable and defiant and because of that he was removed from our care. It sucked to do, but we want to help kids in need, and he wasn’t accepting the help. He knows he was in the wrong and we aren’t completely cutting him off, we still want to help where we can, but him living with us was no longer possible. We’ll see what happens going forward but despite the difficult situation we informed our case worker we will still take in kids but we will no longer take in teenagers
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