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Posted on 8/21/18 at 1:20 pm
Posted on 8/21/18 at 1:20 pm
Have any of you ever had a friend that completely lost their mind after the death of a family member?One that would go to the lengths of abandoning family, friends, own young children by moving across the country to flea responsibility or accountability from his/her life? This person never returns calls or emails, and basically has tried to disappear without repercussion from everything and everybody (has been gone several months now)? It screams mental breakdown or drug problem to me... I'm at a loss of how to approach this with everyone but with so many other lives involved and the level of selfishness displayed it cant be ignored any longer. Thinking about boarding a plane to the last whereabouts and having a "come to Jesus" with this person eye to eye. *Disclaimer, I've known this person over twenty five years and consider them "family"... Just highly disgusted/disappointed at the behavior ....
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Posted on 8/21/18 at 1:34 pm to Luke
Sounds like a tremendous amount of guilt on their part.
Posted on 8/21/18 at 1:44 pm to Luke
There was a life they knew they'd never have with the life they had with their friends and loved one and now they are going to give that life a shot because YOLO. Your sympathies on top of pushing responsibility was probably sending him/her into a dangerous depression. You should feel bad.
Posted on 8/21/18 at 2:14 pm to hogNsinceReagan
I'm assuming this persons children and spouse shouldn't feel bad that their "family member" abandoned them due to no fault of their own. I would have never thought this person would have melted under the pressure. Who am I kidding, with this society anything and everything goes... No responsibility no guilt do what you want because hey, its all about me right ?
Posted on 8/21/18 at 8:28 pm to Luke
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It screams mental breakdown or drug problem to me
My guess is this may be the issue.
I have watched far to many bright stars blow it all on drugs.
Posted on 8/21/18 at 9:35 pm to Luke
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mental breakdown
That's my guess. If you find your friend, be kind. Life is super tough for some people. Having a friend who cares can make life worth living.
Posted on 8/21/18 at 10:15 pm to Luke
I’ve known people to fall off their rocker after stuff like that, but it’s always been temporary.
Posted on 8/22/18 at 9:54 am to Luke
I am sorry to hear that, sounds like a horrible situation
My biggest sympathy lies with the kids - who the hell abandons theirs kids? Sounds like this person has serious character defects; I know that sounds harsh, but the guy dropped off the face of the earth and turned his back on the children? And "young children" at that?
I don't think I would chase him, but I can understand that you want to.
If this guy is/was "like family" to you, does that mean you have a relationship with those children?
My thought is to be there for the kids if you can; let them know that although daddy is gone, they are not alone.
If and when he comes back or tries to reestablish a relationship with the kids; try to forgive him if you can (assuming he comes back sometime soon)
If it is years? Or even pushes much longer, I would say to hell with him
His selfishness is disgusting
My biggest sympathy lies with the kids - who the hell abandons theirs kids? Sounds like this person has serious character defects; I know that sounds harsh, but the guy dropped off the face of the earth and turned his back on the children? And "young children" at that?
I don't think I would chase him, but I can understand that you want to.
If this guy is/was "like family" to you, does that mean you have a relationship with those children?
My thought is to be there for the kids if you can; let them know that although daddy is gone, they are not alone.
If and when he comes back or tries to reestablish a relationship with the kids; try to forgive him if you can (assuming he comes back sometime soon)
If it is years? Or even pushes much longer, I would say to hell with him
His selfishness is disgusting
Posted on 8/24/18 at 5:06 am to Luke
I'll give you a rounded answer when I get back
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