re: Divorced guys and gals. What ended your marriage and who made the call?

I'll play.

Married 20 years with 2 children, 11 and 9. On fathers day (and the week after our 20th anniversary) at her mothers house she locks the doors and tells me to leave and she'll call later. I put down all the BBQ crap and go home. Wake up the next day. Internet shut off, I call it was cancelled by her, same with all utilities. Also mortgage payment had been cancelled 4 month previously.
She was a principal and had been let go after 8 years.
I had just signed a authorization for her to take about $5,000 for a saving account I had before we got married to pay bills so we wouldn't use our retirement money she got another job that started 2 months later.
After I hired an investigator, I found out she was cheating with a woman she hired, also cheated on her with several men.
We lost a home valued a $475,000 with a payoff of only $105,000. I lived off of sofa money until I decided to used money from the company I owned. (big mistake, needed that money to buy materials) and family helped out also.
She is still with the woman (She isn't a bad person, if your into that stuff).

If I had it to do all over I would had saved the money on attorneys and exposed her life style change. Total loss from my half of our assets was about $400,000. One child lives with me the other in college. They only found out about her girl friend after 4 years. I didn't want to tell them.