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worried about friend in rehab
Posted on 10/8/16 at 3:25 pm
Posted on 10/8/16 at 3:25 pm
I have a friend who just checked himself into/was checked into rehab and I'm worried about him. I obviously can't ask him about it, so was wondering if anyone here could help me figure out how to think about this and what he's going through.
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Posted on 10/8/16 at 4:41 pm to IStandBytheU
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and what he's going through.
He's thinking about drugs, but wants to get off them.
Posted on 10/8/16 at 4:52 pm to IStandBytheU
He's going through hell. If he makes it through, he's going to need a lot of sober support.
Posted on 10/8/16 at 5:14 pm to IStandBytheU
If he checked himself into rehab, he must want help. That's a positive.
Posted on 10/8/16 at 5:19 pm to IStandBytheU
It's good that you're worried about your friend. If you're part of his support system, you should plan on an extended commitment for the near future.
Posted on 10/8/16 at 11:21 pm to IStandBytheU
my friend told me she slept for the first three days
Posted on 10/8/16 at 11:26 pm to MIZ_COU
What was she in for?
Posted on 10/8/16 at 11:28 pm to Cheese Grits
alcohol mostly with some cocaine. Tobacco addict also but they don't count that. She was forced by the courts but she stayed sober for years. I'm guessing different programs have different approaches.
Posted on 10/9/16 at 12:54 am to MIZ_COU
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alcohol mostly with some cocaine. Tobacco addict also but they don't count that. She was forced by the courts but she stayed sober for years. I'm guessing different programs have different approaches.
So alcohol mainly? You said she was sober for years, but now forced into one....so she relapsed?
If they were forced into rehab, then they may not want to quit. The only way a person can quit is if they want to quit.
Was she on probation or something to get forced into rehab? Sounds kinda extreme, as the DUI class I took said that drinking a beer or two a day is actually great for you compared to those who didn't drink at all. I get if she was drinking and frickin shite up, but if not then it is extreme. But thanks for the lack of dets.
Posted on 10/9/16 at 9:00 am to IStandBytheU
Thanks. It's hard not knowing what's going on. And not being able to help. At all.
Posted on 10/9/16 at 9:20 am to MIZ_COU
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alcohol mostly with some cocaine. Tobacco addict also but they don't count that.
In my experience and travels, Tobacco is the most addictive of the 3 but as you say, it "does not count".
If the court is involved it is not voluntary and means they are probably in a locked facility which means they may not take once the time runs its course. Does she have side issues like mental health problems? Many I have know in time use alcohol to "self medicate" when clearly it is not an effective medicine. Sadly americans still have stigmas to mental health issues and treatments which creates environments to continue to self medicate instead of getting support.
Posted on 10/9/16 at 10:07 am to IStandBytheU
What is he in for? To be truthful he is more than likely climbing the walls, sweating, skin crawling, legs shaking, plus puking and shitting everywhere. Not being a dick but being truthful
Posted on 10/9/16 at 11:19 am to HogBalls
I don't really know, to be honest. Shows you what a great friend I am!
But he gave me zero shite about the Miami FSU game, so I know it's bad.
But he gave me zero shite about the Miami FSU game, so I know it's bad.
Posted on 10/9/16 at 11:28 am to HogBalls
Not necessarily there are a lot of variables. It depends on what they are cleaning up for and if it's a medical rehab. As I said my friend said she slept for the first three days.
I have friends who are what I consider 'true' alcoholics. It changes their brain chemistry and they can't get off of it. I would describe her as someone who was self medicating and really liked to party. Lots of alcohol, coke, and pharma.
She got busted because her and friends got 3 pounds of weed sent to them via fedex. I never followed up on what happened to the others since I did not know them well. First offense she was offered drug court which meant rehab and probation, or go to regular court. It was not forced or on lock down, it was an option but if she failed she would be back in court.
It in interesting she was looking at prison for what would be a Monday morning's commerce in CO but that would get me started on the DEA being in league with big pharma and making plants illegal when they are cutting into profits (kratom being the latest example), but it turned into a positive thing for her.
She seemed to like the rehab and got attached there. She finished her degree and went back there as a counselor. She was clean for several years but never fully dealt with her personal issues that where making her unhappy and then fell off the wagon for a year when a long term relationship ended. Then she cleaned up again on her own and moved back east to be near family. She now works at a bar of all places and is still clean
quote:Well it's not like I owe you any but here's a more complete story.
But thanks for the lack of dets.
I have friends who are what I consider 'true' alcoholics. It changes their brain chemistry and they can't get off of it. I would describe her as someone who was self medicating and really liked to party. Lots of alcohol, coke, and pharma.
She got busted because her and friends got 3 pounds of weed sent to them via fedex. I never followed up on what happened to the others since I did not know them well. First offense she was offered drug court which meant rehab and probation, or go to regular court. It was not forced or on lock down, it was an option but if she failed she would be back in court.
It in interesting she was looking at prison for what would be a Monday morning's commerce in CO but that would get me started on the DEA being in league with big pharma and making plants illegal when they are cutting into profits (kratom being the latest example), but it turned into a positive thing for her.
She seemed to like the rehab and got attached there. She finished her degree and went back there as a counselor. She was clean for several years but never fully dealt with her personal issues that where making her unhappy and then fell off the wagon for a year when a long term relationship ended. Then she cleaned up again on her own and moved back east to be near family. She now works at a bar of all places and is still clean
This post was edited on 10/9/16 at 11:31 am
Posted on 10/9/16 at 11:41 am to MIZ_COU
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She seemed to like the rehab and got attached there. She finished her degree and went back there as a counselor. She was clean for several years but never fully dealt with her personal issues that where making her unhappy and then fell off the wagon for a year when a long term relationship ended. Then she cleaned up again on her own and moved back east to be near family. She now works at a bar of all places and is still clean
That is the real issue
Most I know will go through rehab but "hide" an issue during the process, so it never gets addressed. It could be sexual assault (where they had no control) or a simple death (never went through the grief process) but the results seem the same when they hit a trigger point where they return to self medication even though the long term effects are terrible.
I agree with your assessment of a change in brain chemistry. Many horror stories where they pick booze over their parents, siblings, or children. With dope and booze, prohibition is clearly not the solution but neither is legalization with profit driven multi nationals doing more damage than the mob ever did.
Phillip Morris in the weed business will be no bette than Phillip Morris in the beer or cigarette business as the profits are too easy and the power to control is too great.
Thanks for your post and attempting to bring some light to tRant.
Posted on 10/10/16 at 7:20 am to MIZ_COU
How long was she there?
Posted on 10/10/16 at 7:39 am to IStandBytheU
Means you are going to have to find somebody else to party with.
Posted on 10/10/16 at 7:53 am to IStandBytheU
Pray for your friend. Forgive your friend (if their addiction has caused you or someone you love 'harm')
When they get out - BE THERE FOR THEM: offer encouragement and support, hold them accountable to good behavior/choices, and continue to pray for them.
Remember: People are human. They are deeply flawed. They do dumb things. And you are one of them too.
When they get out - BE THERE FOR THEM: offer encouragement and support, hold them accountable to good behavior/choices, and continue to pray for them.
Remember: People are human. They are deeply flawed. They do dumb things. And you are one of them too.
Posted on 10/10/16 at 8:12 am to IStandBytheU
It's a good sign. Many drug addicts find more connections in rehab though, so any encouragement you and other friends can offer, do so.
Posted on 10/10/16 at 1:33 pm to Pavoloco83
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Means you are going to have to find somebody else to party with.
Probably this.
I had a good buddy that went to rehab and he had to completely do a 180. He had to cut off all connection to anything that reminded him of it.
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