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Depends on the level of emotional connection. Wife and I both work and obviously spend a lot of time at work. I have a pretty close relationship with a female co-worker. There's no physical attraction for me, but I definitely have an emotional connection to her. Wife knows her and knows about our friendship and it doesn't bother her. Wife has had a few guy friends at work she was close to, even calling one her "work husband." I knew him and it didn't bother me. We both have trust in each other we wouldn't let it progress to anything physical.

You just gotta be open and honest. I've even told my wife I wasn't comfortable hanging out with a couple we know because I found the girl very attractive. She was pretty mad at first, but got over it and respected me more for telling her.

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Trust is key--I've been in a relationship with my wife on some level for 8 years. In each and every one of those years (including this one), we've endured a long period of physical separation (usually military-related).

If we didn't trust each other, we wouldn't have made it. She dealt with depression issues a lot and needed to be around people she could lean on. If I wasn't secure enough in my trust in her, I couldn't have allowed her to seek camaraderie with friends and coworkers of the opposite sex while I wasn't there. And vice versa.

Trust and unfettered communication go a LONG way toward building a solid relationship--one that isn't plagued by suspicions of cheating.