re: I want to be in a coma

Definitely don't see her again, at least not any time within the next few months. Don't talk to her, text her, post shite on her Facebook, nothing. The sooner you remove yourself from the situation the sooner you can start moving forward. Give her the space she apparently wants, then if she ends up missing you enough to come crawling back evaluate the situation again. By that time you may have a new woman you think the world of, or at least you've healed enough to take a step back and see if that's what you still want.

For all you know, this wasn't even the best woman out there for you. I know I went through similar emotions after a bad breakup with a girl I had been dating for 6 years and literally traveled the world with. Took me a while to pick myself back up again, but it wasn't until I fully healed and met others that I finally realized that I hadn't been myself AT ALL around this woman and she didn't even really know who I truly was. I told myself that the next one that came along I'd be myself from beginning to bitter end, and only then did I meet someone I'm truly compatible with.

If you don't listen to any other parts of this, at least listen to the part about not talking to her, texting her, etc. Every time you do it'll be the equivalent of picking a fresh scab, opening the wound right back up again and restarting the healing process. That's the most important thing you can do, period.