re: I need help, guys

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The only thing I can think of is sharing with her what you've shared here

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This...plus what Chef said. She needs to hear that you realize your past mistakes and see it clearly now. She needs to hear how you feel about her. Also, we tend to tiptoe around it in some circles but if you're a believer don't leave out seeing your pastor/preacher/priest.

Even the best marriages have rough spots and it takes actual hard work sometimes. Check out a book called "The 5 Love Languages" by Gary Chapman, PHD. It will help you figure out how to express love to her in terms she'll understand and that will "click" specifically for her based on a short little quiz because if you don't know how she receives your inputs regarding how you feel for her (physical, spoken word, deeds etc) both positively and negatively it is that much harder to convey your love for her in a way she'll understand is real and genuine and feel fulfilled/content.

I've also seen something called a "30-day relationship challenge" for couples going through similar issues and it can be profound from what I have read.

Good luck.