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my ex left me again and its tearing me apart (Please give me some advice/insight)
Posted on 2/22/15 at 2:40 am
Posted on 2/22/15 at 2:40 am
I know most of you know me from trolling LSu and stuff on the rant. But I'm actually a pretty decent guy.
Last year I made a thread about my ex and how she treated me and the break up that insued. Well after a 5 month break we got back together.
But it was built upon lies. She was secretly trying to get away from her previous ex (who she started seeing once we broke up). My gut told me when we first started talking she wAs lying. She came clean about it eventually after I comfronted her with proof. She then turned her focus on trying to see if I was with my old ex. I do talk to my ex in a platonic manner only. Anyway fast fwd to a month ago. I gave her a phone and added her to my account. She then secretly had her own phone which she said was off. She preached about trust and no secrets. When I discovered the secret phone she left me. She also called my job and made some vicious lies which in return got me fired and that had a trickle down effect on everything. Why would a person be so vindictive and immature over them getting caught being shady.
Last year I made a thread about my ex and how she treated me and the break up that insued. Well after a 5 month break we got back together.
But it was built upon lies. She was secretly trying to get away from her previous ex (who she started seeing once we broke up). My gut told me when we first started talking she wAs lying. She came clean about it eventually after I comfronted her with proof. She then turned her focus on trying to see if I was with my old ex. I do talk to my ex in a platonic manner only. Anyway fast fwd to a month ago. I gave her a phone and added her to my account. She then secretly had her own phone which she said was off. She preached about trust and no secrets. When I discovered the secret phone she left me. She also called my job and made some vicious lies which in return got me fired and that had a trickle down effect on everything. Why would a person be so vindictive and immature over them getting caught being shady.
This post was edited on 2/22/15 at 3:00 am
Posted on 2/22/15 at 2:43 am to MsGarrison
Pioneers next webshow.
"Women gone crazy"
Lets make it happen.
"Women gone crazy"
Lets make it happen.
Posted on 2/22/15 at 2:45 am to MsGarrison
Part two.
After all this happened she then makes the rash decision to move out of Louisiana and did it very quickly.
We started talking again shortly after all that drama and she reassured me she would do whatever possible to make things up. So just this past week she gave me a card on Valentine's and said she loved me and wanted to marry me. She was always asking for my phone to see if I was in touch with anyone. I gladly handed my phone over. But on Mardi Gras day she was texting all morning. She saw me on my phone and she assumed I wAs talking about her to my friends which I wasnt. She asked for my phone. I gave it to her.
I ask for hers and she tells me no. Then she then says she is leaving me. Why on earth would she do that to me?
After all this happened she then makes the rash decision to move out of Louisiana and did it very quickly.
We started talking again shortly after all that drama and she reassured me she would do whatever possible to make things up. So just this past week she gave me a card on Valentine's and said she loved me and wanted to marry me. She was always asking for my phone to see if I was in touch with anyone. I gladly handed my phone over. But on Mardi Gras day she was texting all morning. She saw me on my phone and she assumed I wAs talking about her to my friends which I wasnt. She asked for my phone. I gave it to her.
I ask for hers and she tells me no. Then she then says she is leaving me. Why on earth would she do that to me?
Posted on 2/22/15 at 2:53 am to MsGarrison
Part 3
She then goes cold on me after I ask her to please tell me what is going on. She ignores me completely. She left me in the hotel. I call, text, email. Nothing. Finally two days later I said I would call her to get some answers to know what and where we stand. She then replies back that she is with her family and she would email me as that's the best she could do. She needed time to formulate her thoughts. I told her to not email but call me and handle this like adults. She never called and every time I called she sent my call to voicemail. So friday I say Im going to call at 7pm. She replies back very cruelly, "I said I would contact you when I'm ready don't try to control how I deal with this." What is she dealing with? She broke up with me over her phone and being all secretive. She even went so far to send my previous ex 35+ emails, my phone number, etc.. As if I was having an affair on her. My previous ex even called her to tell her we were not together. This girl took my career away from me, I'm virtually on the brink of losing everything after she messed it up. Then on top of that she left today for Florida. She has left my life in shambles. She doesn't even care what is going on with me and my well being after she destroyed it. What the frick is wrong with her
She then goes cold on me after I ask her to please tell me what is going on. She ignores me completely. She left me in the hotel. I call, text, email. Nothing. Finally two days later I said I would call her to get some answers to know what and where we stand. She then replies back that she is with her family and she would email me as that's the best she could do. She needed time to formulate her thoughts. I told her to not email but call me and handle this like adults. She never called and every time I called she sent my call to voicemail. So friday I say Im going to call at 7pm. She replies back very cruelly, "I said I would contact you when I'm ready don't try to control how I deal with this." What is she dealing with? She broke up with me over her phone and being all secretive. She even went so far to send my previous ex 35+ emails, my phone number, etc.. As if I was having an affair on her. My previous ex even called her to tell her we were not together. This girl took my career away from me, I'm virtually on the brink of losing everything after she messed it up. Then on top of that she left today for Florida. She has left my life in shambles. She doesn't even care what is going on with me and my well being after she destroyed it. What the frick is wrong with her
Posted on 2/22/15 at 2:56 am to MsGarrison
Does she even care? We planned on moving to Florida together. I feel like she sabotaged our relationship due to her insecurities and trust issues. She was so obsessed with my ex. She even made her self believe my ex had called her before all this stuff happened. But when she called the number back it was the wrong number. She then didn't apologiZe but continued to fabricate more tall tales to feed her ego
Posted on 2/22/15 at 3:00 am to MsGarrison
Move on brah.
You have friends here
You have friends here
Posted on 2/22/15 at 5:35 am to MsGarrison
Do you have any kids with her?
Posted on 2/22/15 at 5:39 am to MsGarrison
I feel like the SECROT has been down this road with you before.
Good luck.
Good luck.
This post was edited on 2/22/15 at 5:40 am
Posted on 2/22/15 at 5:47 am to MsGarrison
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This girl took my career away from me, I'm virtually on the brink of losing everything after she messed it up. Then on top of that she left today for Florida. She has left my life in shambles. She doesn't even care what is going on with me and my well being after she destroyed it. What the frick is wrong with her
There is nothing wrong with her. She is just being the cold-blooded bitch that apparently comes natural to her.
The question is, WTF is wrong with you that you keep crawling back for more? When you can answer that question, you'll start figuring out what you need to do.
Posted on 2/22/15 at 6:06 am to SavageOrangeJug
I love her unconditionally like a parent loves their child. No matter how bad your kid is you always love them. That's how I feel about her.
I know I shouldn't be with her. It's just hard to get over her. She promised she would spend the rest of her life making things up. I believed her.
She's insecure with herself. Which leads to her to have trust issues and she sometimes sabotages our relationship.
I don't get how she can go from being so loving/caring and saying we would get married to leaving me and being a cold hearted sob. She talked to my previous ex for hours last week to see if we had anything going on (my ex is seeing someone now) and even told her if she talked to her she would stick by me. But after she got the answer that me and her are not doing anything behind her back she then rebuffed in her offer. It's like she just wanted to make sure I didn't have her if she decided she leave. Then she tells me on Friday via text that she will contact me when she is ready.
No matter how much I told her that im down in the dumps in my life (career and financially which she caused) she just gives this non chalant attitude.
I told her to tell me if we are truly over and she doesn't care or love me, she won't.
She keeps playing the victim in this. When I said I need to know so I can move on I get nothing from her. How hard is it to just tell someone that it's over and move on. I feel she is just playing a game now
I know I shouldn't be with her. It's just hard to get over her. She promised she would spend the rest of her life making things up. I believed her.
She's insecure with herself. Which leads to her to have trust issues and she sometimes sabotages our relationship.
I don't get how she can go from being so loving/caring and saying we would get married to leaving me and being a cold hearted sob. She talked to my previous ex for hours last week to see if we had anything going on (my ex is seeing someone now) and even told her if she talked to her she would stick by me. But after she got the answer that me and her are not doing anything behind her back she then rebuffed in her offer. It's like she just wanted to make sure I didn't have her if she decided she leave. Then she tells me on Friday via text that she will contact me when she is ready.
No matter how much I told her that im down in the dumps in my life (career and financially which she caused) she just gives this non chalant attitude.
I told her to tell me if we are truly over and she doesn't care or love me, she won't.
She keeps playing the victim in this. When I said I need to know so I can move on I get nothing from her. How hard is it to just tell someone that it's over and move on. I feel she is just playing a game now
Posted on 2/22/15 at 6:11 am to MsGarrison
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I love her unconditionally like a parent loves their child. No matter how bad your kid is you always love them. That's how I feel about her.
Then continue to enjoy the pain and punishment.
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I told her to tell me if we are truly over and she doesn't care or love me, she won't.
Yes, she told you. She told you loud and clear. You just don't want to hear it or believe it.
Posted on 2/22/15 at 6:23 am to SavageOrangeJug
The thing is this is what she does when she gets in that stage. She plays all cold.
She did the exact same thing last year (probably 100xs worse) but when we got back together she said it wAs all a front to try to convince herself and to try to push me away.
She did this a month ago. She ignored me for 5 days then she finally talked to me.
But this time it's different because we had plans of moving to Florida together to start over and she has already left.
It hurt because she left me behind. With nothing. Not even a goodbye. Maybe she did state it loud and clear by her actions.
She did the exact same thing last year (probably 100xs worse) but when we got back together she said it wAs all a front to try to convince herself and to try to push me away.
She did this a month ago. She ignored me for 5 days then she finally talked to me.
But this time it's different because we had plans of moving to Florida together to start over and she has already left.
It hurt because she left me behind. With nothing. Not even a goodbye. Maybe she did state it loud and clear by her actions.
Posted on 2/22/15 at 6:28 am to MsGarrison
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Maybe she did state it loud and clear by her actions.
There is no maybe about it. The woman does not love you. She uses you.
I'm sorry to be so blunt, but the pain will not stop until you move on.
Now is the time to make a decision. Either decide you like the pain, or decide to turn your back on her. Your life, your choice.
Posted on 2/22/15 at 6:48 am to MsGarrison
You ought to post a picture of this girl.
Posted on 2/22/15 at 6:50 am to MsGarrison
I'm not going to lie, you've always come off as a pretty big POS, so I'm not surprised that IRL you were dating your equal.
Sucks, and sorry about your job, but crazy tends to find crazy.
Eta: I may be confusing you slightly with GatorPrincess, but can't remember.
Sucks, and sorry about your job, but crazy tends to find crazy.
Eta: I may be confusing you slightly with GatorPrincess, but can't remember.
This post was edited on 2/22/15 at 6:53 am
Posted on 2/22/15 at 6:53 am to SavageOrangeJug
My family and friends actually said the same thing that she is a user
Posted on 2/22/15 at 6:58 am to MsGarrison
You sound just as pathetic this year as you did last year. You are either trolling for attention or you refuse to learn from the past. I have no sympathy for someone who refuses to learn from mistakes. Grow some balls and tell her you're done with her and not to bother you anymore. Then change your number and delete her number. Cut all ties with her or you're going to be a her little bitch until she decides to leave you for good.
Posted on 2/22/15 at 7:03 am to Cobrasize
This is not a troll. I know I should just leave her alone but it's so hard. I haven't eaten in days nor do I sleep. I just hold onto this phone hoping. Sad
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