re: "Dear Killz" Advice and Help Column

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Sorry for your loss Coastie

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Killz this is workers comp no way are they paying for that but thanks

MSCoastTigerGirl

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I watched my dog die of cancer at 2:12 am this morning. I'm a hysterical wreck right now.


Should I go get drunk? I'm thinking yes.

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I would say don't get drunk. Alcohol is only a temporary solution to problems or emotional grievance. Essentially, drinking postpones emotional pain to a later date. You gain nothing from it other than numbing the pain...but the pain still exists deep inside your soul and it'll wait to torture you another time.

I suggest you confront your loss head on...and sober. Force yourself to remember all of the good times with your dog. Forget the sad moments. Allow those moments to fade from your memory.

Look at pictures...cry...look at more pictures...cry. Be emotional. Allow yourself to grieve.

Call a close friend or family member who was familiar with your dog or who happened to share valuable experiences with your dog. Tell doggie stories.. Laugh. Cry.

Once again, confront your loss head on. You'll never move on properly if you delay your loss with alcohol. Remember how great of a companion you were to your dog. You were there for him when he needed you most...

...and because you were there for him when he needed you most, he died in peace with love in his heart. Trust me when I tell you to feel comfort in the fact that he knew he was fortunate to have a wonderful loving companion in his life. Feel comfort knowing that his last image of you was, in his heart and soul, a blessing.

-Killz

PS. Once you've grieved a little, get out of your house. Go for a country drive. Put some music in the car and drive down a meandering country road with the purpose to get lost.

It is when we are lost that we discover ourselves. There is more truth in that than you realize.

You'll feel better when you come back home. Enlightened.