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I was dating a sophomore in HS when I was a senior, we were 16 and 18. I continued to date her until I was 20 and her 18, although our birthdays lined up where I was 19 and her 16, or 20 and her 17 for a few weeks.

Even at that time when I was 20, and I knew that she was only 3 weeks away from being "2 years younger than me" instead of 3 years, I felt creepy AF and basically refused to do anything sexual with her during that period.

And then, in my early 20s, I started realizing just how young high school girls looked and acted. I see seniors in high school now (I'm 35) and they look like little kids to me. I've felt like they look like little kids since I was in my early 20s.

I'm trying to put myself in your shoes and imagine ANY time in my 20s where it would've been acceptable or felt ok "fricking" a 16 year old, and I just can't get there. A 16 year old?!?

Maybe - MAAAAAAAYBE - an 18 year old in my early to mid 20s. But 16 man?? You're trying to play it off like "who wouldn't bang a perfectly legal 18 year old in their early 20s?" despite the fact that you said 16!

16 year olds have looked and acted like little kids to me since I was maybe 20. I don't have a daughter, but if I found out some 20+ year old dude was interested in my 16 year old girl IN ANY WAY I'd end that dudes life.

This is not something you should be proud of or readily admit, in fact it's very predatory and creepy

All of this. I felt weird dating an 18 year old freshman when I was a 21 year old senior. By my mid 20s, freshmen and sophomore college girls looked like children to me. Now (I'm 38), all college girls look like children to me. I couldn't fathom seeking out and having sex with a high school junior or sophomore when I was in my early 20s.

And, I do have a daughter. Not a chance in hell dude would be walking again if I found out a 22-23 year old was sleeping with her at 16.