The Silverback
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re: Signs that your wife/GF is cheating on IG?
Posted by The Silverback on 11/3/25 at 7:09 pm to baldona
Her kid lives in Taiwan and lives a completely independent life. She also wants to start a business (my gf).
I’m not rich (a “sugar daddy”) but I will be.
I’m not rich (a “sugar daddy”) but I will be.
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re: Signs that your wife/GF is cheating on IG?
Posted by The Silverback on 11/3/25 at 6:22 pm to ChatGPT of LA
I mean share the Ukrainian follower’s IG, not my GFs.
re: Signs that your wife/GF is cheating on IG?
Posted by The Silverback on 11/3/25 at 5:46 pm to SaintsTiger
I really wish I could share the Ukrainian follower’s IG…… :wah:
re: Signs that your wife/GF is cheating on IG?
Posted by The Silverback on 11/3/25 at 5:46 pm to BOSCEAUX
Her daughter has her own life, is 22 years old, has a college degree, a full-time job, relationships, etc. and she plans on staying in Taiwan.
re: Signs that your wife/GF is cheating on IG?
Posted by The Silverback on 11/3/25 at 5:00 pm to SaintsTiger
Nahh.
Her best friends in Taiwan (best friends since childhood, ex coworkers, her daughter, and on and on) and New York all know me or have met me. I’ve video chatted with her dad (who lives in Hong Kong) and have met and know her mother and stepdad well. I’ve also met her brother and her daughter.
All of the important people in her life either have talked to me on the phone or have met me in person (because my GF wanted to).
Her best friends in Taiwan (best friends since childhood, ex coworkers, her daughter, and on and on) and New York all know me or have met me. I’ve video chatted with her dad (who lives in Hong Kong) and have met and know her mother and stepdad well. I’ve also met her brother and her daughter.
All of the important people in her life either have talked to me on the phone or have met me in person (because my GF wanted to).
re: Signs that your wife/GF is cheating on IG?
Posted by The Silverback on 11/3/25 at 3:59 pm to Robin Masters
Very true. Well put.
The guy is real and all but what you’re saying I absolutely agree with.
The guy is real and all but what you’re saying I absolutely agree with.
re: Signs that your wife/GF is cheating on IG?
Posted by The Silverback on 11/3/25 at 3:57 pm to Penrod
Well I had weird feelings about my ex (but she was actually showing signs, like texting her ex around me then concealing the messages, and then there being less condoms in the box one time and then her jumping all over me to make me forget once I mentioned it).
And you’re probably right on catastrophe syndrome. I was almost going to ask, “do you mean probably as in 51% sure or 99.9% sure?”
And you’re probably right on catastrophe syndrome. I was almost going to ask, “do you mean probably as in 51% sure or 99.9% sure?”
re: Signs that your wife/GF is cheating on IG?
Posted by The Silverback on 11/3/25 at 3:49 pm to Robin Masters
Not communicating, that I know of.
In a nutshell:
She’s from Taiwan, moved to NYc 3 years ago to be with family. She speaks so-so English, at best. All her NY friends are Asian and speak mandarin or Cantonese. She has 500 IG followers. One of them is Ukrainian and a software engineer in NYC. No mutual friends, no mentions, and nothing in common. I first noticed the follower 6-7 months ago (I had only looked at her followers list two previous times - April 2024 and October 2024). My GF hadn’t made any public posts to IG until this week (her last two posts were in May 2025). One post was of a tree and the other was Halloween of her and her family in costumes. The Ukrainian “liked” both. The Ukrainian has 210 followers and follows 500 or so people. Important note: My Gf has showed zero signs of cheating. She comes to TX for weeks at a time, buys plane tickets with her own money, talks about a future together, puts in effort calling/texting, cooks for me and on and on.
In a nutshell:
She’s from Taiwan, moved to NYc 3 years ago to be with family. She speaks so-so English, at best. All her NY friends are Asian and speak mandarin or Cantonese. She has 500 IG followers. One of them is Ukrainian and a software engineer in NYC. No mutual friends, no mentions, and nothing in common. I first noticed the follower 6-7 months ago (I had only looked at her followers list two previous times - April 2024 and October 2024). My GF hadn’t made any public posts to IG until this week (her last two posts were in May 2025). One post was of a tree and the other was Halloween of her and her family in costumes. The Ukrainian “liked” both. The Ukrainian has 210 followers and follows 500 or so people. Important note: My Gf has showed zero signs of cheating. She comes to TX for weeks at a time, buys plane tickets with her own money, talks about a future together, puts in effort calling/texting, cooks for me and on and on.
re: Signs that your wife/GF is cheating on IG?
Posted by The Silverback on 11/3/25 at 3:31 pm to Robin Masters
I have started talking to a therapist.
She’s laid out framework to help navigate unwarranted fears and preventing them from getting into the anxiety loop.
She also said (because I asked for her opinion): that is doesn’t sound like your GF is cheating and that I have nothing to worry about.
Also, she said why in the hell would someone fly from NY to Texas, spend 2-6 weeks here at a time, buy tickets with her own money (which she is very limited of), and talk about the future and so many other things if she were secretly messing around.
She’s laid out framework to help navigate unwarranted fears and preventing them from getting into the anxiety loop.
She also said (because I asked for her opinion): that is doesn’t sound like your GF is cheating and that I have nothing to worry about.
Also, she said why in the hell would someone fly from NY to Texas, spend 2-6 weeks here at a time, buy tickets with her own money (which she is very limited of), and talk about the future and so many other things if she were secretly messing around.
re: Signs that your wife/GF is cheating on IG?
Posted by The Silverback on 11/3/25 at 3:29 pm to Robin Masters
Thank you!
I know one thing driving it is that my ex cheated on me on IG with her ex emotionally (probably did physically at some point too). She would message him on IG while she were around me and then try to conceal her phone when I would be in view of it. It was obvious (she had started mentioning her ex too, almost every weekend we spent together she’d say “oh my ex can’t find a job” or “my ex told me that”.
I feel this a “me” problem and that my fears are unnecessary.
I know one thing driving it is that my ex cheated on me on IG with her ex emotionally (probably did physically at some point too). She would message him on IG while she were around me and then try to conceal her phone when I would be in view of it. It was obvious (she had started mentioning her ex too, almost every weekend we spent together she’d say “oh my ex can’t find a job” or “my ex told me that”.
I feel this a “me” problem and that my fears are unnecessary.
re: Signs that your wife/GF is cheating on IG?
Posted by The Silverback on 11/3/25 at 2:51 pm to Robin Masters
With all the details, given that if IG didn’t exist (if I didn’t have an account), then everything seems fine - no signs.
With that being said, does that pretty much void my concern? Thank you.
With that being said, does that pretty much void my concern? Thank you.
re: Signs that your wife/GF is cheating on IG?
Posted by The Silverback on 11/3/25 at 2:50 pm to Robin Masters
Thank you!
But I don’t fully trust my gut. I once had a for sure gut feeling, turned out my suspicion was so wrong it was humiliating. And why? Because my anxiety/insecurity and the like taint a lot of things.
But I don’t fully trust my gut. I once had a for sure gut feeling, turned out my suspicion was so wrong it was humiliating. And why? Because my anxiety/insecurity and the like taint a lot of things.
re: Signs that your wife/GF is cheating on IG?
Posted by The Silverback on 11/3/25 at 2:26 pm to WonPercent
Wouldn’t that look bad on me though? Wouldn’t that make me look even worse and be a huge red flag to her?
Also, he only liked her last two posts - which both were last week. All her previous posts, no sign of him. And I would think if she wanted to hide someone on IG, that she wouldn’t do it in the first place because I follow her IG and I’m able to see who likes or comments on her posts.
Also, he only liked her last two posts - which both were last week. All her previous posts, no sign of him. And I would think if she wanted to hide someone on IG, that she wouldn’t do it in the first place because I follow her IG and I’m able to see who likes or comments on her posts.
re: Signs that your wife/GF is cheating on IG?
Posted by The Silverback on 11/3/25 at 2:24 pm to Dadren
She’s not. That I know of.
She has about 500 followers. One of them who follows her is Eastern European in NYC who’s a software engineer. She lives in NYC too but is from Taiwan and has been here 3 years. Her English is just so-so, at best. No mutual followers that I can tell, his account is private too.My GF doesn’t post on IG often.
I first noticed this follower about 6-7 months ago. When my Gf made two public posts in May on her IG, he didn’t “Like” either.
Also, since I discovered that follower (I don’t know exactly when they started following each other) there’s no signs she’s cheating, she comes to see me for long periods of time, she talks about a future together, and she buys her own plane tickets.
My GF made two posts on IG last week for the first time since May.
One was of a tree changing colors with a caption about Fall season and the other was her and some friends and family in Halloween costumes.
The Eastern European “Liked” both.
Like I said, if I weren’t on IG at all, this conversation wouldn’t be happening. I would tell you “I have zero worries”. This all stems from an unknown follower on IG who has nothing in common with my Gf but lives in the same city “liking” two posts last week.
It’s either random (which evidence suggests it is, because things would have happened, there would be real signs, etc). We’ve seen no signs.
Or if it wasn’t random (option 2) - then they would have met in public somewhere or on a dating app and then took it to IG. Given that this follow happened at least 6 months ago, we would have seen actual signs long ago (because she would be “done” if she were seeking guys in public, or on dating apps)
She has about 500 followers. One of them who follows her is Eastern European in NYC who’s a software engineer. She lives in NYC too but is from Taiwan and has been here 3 years. Her English is just so-so, at best. No mutual followers that I can tell, his account is private too.My GF doesn’t post on IG often.
I first noticed this follower about 6-7 months ago. When my Gf made two public posts in May on her IG, he didn’t “Like” either.
Also, since I discovered that follower (I don’t know exactly when they started following each other) there’s no signs she’s cheating, she comes to see me for long periods of time, she talks about a future together, and she buys her own plane tickets.
My GF made two posts on IG last week for the first time since May.
One was of a tree changing colors with a caption about Fall season and the other was her and some friends and family in Halloween costumes.
The Eastern European “Liked” both.
Like I said, if I weren’t on IG at all, this conversation wouldn’t be happening. I would tell you “I have zero worries”. This all stems from an unknown follower on IG who has nothing in common with my Gf but lives in the same city “liking” two posts last week.
It’s either random (which evidence suggests it is, because things would have happened, there would be real signs, etc). We’ve seen no signs.
Or if it wasn’t random (option 2) - then they would have met in public somewhere or on a dating app and then took it to IG. Given that this follow happened at least 6 months ago, we would have seen actual signs long ago (because she would be “done” if she were seeking guys in public, or on dating apps)
re: Signs that your wife/GF is cheating on IG?
Posted by The Silverback on 11/3/25 at 2:13 pm to Robin Masters
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Changes in sexual appetite with you. Has she cut you off or has the frequency increased dramatically? Sudden increase in exercise or concerns about weight and how she looks. Did she suddenly start shaving her vagina? That’s a dead give away. Change in schedule. Working late? Or on weekends? Buying new clothes/jewelry. New hobbies. New Piercings or tattoos
Changes in sexual appetite with you. Has she cut you off or has the frequency increased dramatically?
No. It’s as normal. When things heat up or one of us wants it. Unchanged.
Sudden increase in exercise or concerns about weight and how she looks.
No. She’s always been worried about her appearance because she used to work for a famous beauty industry company (one that’s world-wide). She’s also a microblading eyebrow artist.
Did she suddenly start shaving her vagina? That’s a dead give away.
No change.
Change in schedule. Working late? Or on weekends?
No.
New Piercings or tattoos
No.
Buying new clothes/jewelry.
No. Sometimes she’ll wear new earrings for a while (ones she’s already had) but nothing here has changed.
New hobbies.
She likes playing certain games (like on her iPad) and sometimes starts playing new ones, that’s about it.
New Piercings or tattoos
No.
re: Signs that your wife/GF is cheating on IG?
Posted by The Silverback on 11/3/25 at 1:49 pm to markthetiger
Can you tell the story?
re: Signs that your wife/GF is cheating on IG?
Posted by The Silverback on 11/3/25 at 1:49 pm to thegambler
If I never browsed or picked out unknown male follower on IG and if I didn’t check who’s liking what posts, I would never think anything was wrong.
Basically, remove IG from the equation and I would say our relationship is totally fine, no reason not trust, and she invests weeks at a time of her time to come see me (she’ll come and stay 2-6 week a time). She also buys her own plane tickets and has already bought some Christmas gifts for some family members of mine.
Like I said, No me browsing IG = zero worry, thoughts about cheating, etc.
Perhaps it’s no more than a mental construct made through an anxiety loop.
Basically, remove IG from the equation and I would say our relationship is totally fine, no reason not trust, and she invests weeks at a time of her time to come see me (she’ll come and stay 2-6 week a time). She also buys her own plane tickets and has already bought some Christmas gifts for some family members of mine.
Like I said, No me browsing IG = zero worry, thoughts about cheating, etc.
Perhaps it’s no more than a mental construct made through an anxiety loop.
re: Signs that your wife/GF is cheating on IG?
Posted by The Silverback on 11/3/25 at 1:19 pm to ChatGPT of LA
Clearly you didn’t read or comprehend my post.
re: Signs that your wife/GF is cheating on IG?
Posted by The Silverback on 11/3/25 at 11:44 am to Henry Jones Jr
Please elaborate
re: Signs that your wife/GF is cheating on IG?
Posted by The Silverback on 11/3/25 at 10:50 am to OysterPoBoy
You can want in one hand and shi* in the other
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