Kingshakabooboo

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Highest marriage rates Lowest crime Highest earners They are the best immigrants

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Well you would think with all these great qualities that India would be a great place to live and not the filthy stinking garbage pile that it actually is.

I have an 8 y/o grandson. Daughter was telling me that one Saturday he was on his tablet and his Dad told him to get off and do something else. He went and sat there and just sulked for 10 minutes. So his Dad took him out to the shop, handed him a bunch of tools and told him to take the engine apart on his little Murray push mower that he keeps to mow down by the creek behind the house (can’t get his zero turn back there)
He spent the rest of the day taking it apart. They actually had to make him stop when it was time for supper. We stopped in for a visit the next day and he was so proud to show me how he took the whole engine apart all by himself. I mean he even had it removed from the mower deck. SIL had removed the blade for him. There were pieces everywhere. I asked my SIL what the hell he was going to do for a mower now and he just smiled and said well now I am going to spend all day today teaching my son how to put it back together and what all the parts do and how the motor works.

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Younger people both conservative and liberal are finding it difficult for saving the 20% down payment.

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There are financing plans out there that do not require 20% down. My son purchased his first home under a zero down Rural development loan.

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As someone else mentioned, even a frail 100lb lady is difficult to manage for bathing, toileting, bed changes, dressing

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That was the problem we had. Except it was my wife that was the 100lb lady. My MIL was about 200lb when she moved in with us. It took a toll on my wife physically and neither would let me assist when it came to showers or potty chair over the toilet. Luckily once she moved in with us and my wife was able to monitor her diet more she lost some weight. It helped some.

My MIL moved in with us for 4.5 years. She could walk with a walker but for only short distances. Definitely get shower chair and also install handicap bars in your shower. Get a camera or multiple cameras in your house so that you can check in on her if both you and your husband are out of the house. They have them that you can also speak back and forth thru them as well. May need a lift chair/recliner for her. May also need a lift bed. We had a lift bed but honestly it got to the point where she just preferred to sleep in her lift chair because it was more comfortable.

That’s really about all the home furnishings and alterations we had. But you do need to prepare yourself mentally and emotionally. First of all understand that this will be hard on her emotionally and she may say things she doesn’t really mean. In our case, my MIL, sold her home and 99% of all her possessions. Think about spending a lifetime acquiring all the stuff you have and then it’s just all gone. We brought a lot of her home decor and took some of ours down to replace with her. I told her that I wanted her to feel as at home as we could make it but it was still hard in her.
It will also completely change your social life. Weekend trips out of town become more challenging because now you have to find trustworthy sitters to watch your parent. Having a dinner party at your home now is more challenging because your elderly parent is there. Hard to say, “ Hey Mom going to need you to stay in your room tonight cause we are having friends over for game night”.
It just changes a lot of things.

I am very glad we were able to do this for her. She is a great lady that always treated me like her own child. She finally declined to the point where she couldn’t walk with a walker even with assistance. Bathing her became too much for my wife trying to get her into wheel chair and then into shower and then back up into wheelchair. I offered to assist but neither wanted me too out of modesty for my MIL. It was actually her decision to go ahead and move into assisted living. I’m glad she did because it was really starting to take a toll on my wife both mentally and physically even with me assisting with as much as possible. And to be honest, she has actually done really well in her assisted living residence. She had made friends, teaches a weekly crocheting class and is overall in great spirits. Luckily we had a very good one less than 2 miles from our house. My wife is able to pop in several times a week and I even drop by sometimes during the day as I’m out seeing customers if I am nearby.

I wish you well. It’s tough. Try to build a support group around you with other relatives/friends so the burden isn’t totally on you both. Enjoy the time you have left with them. And don’t feel like you are failing as a child if it eventually gets to a point where she has needs beyond what you are able to provide.

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You think pre-social media people in favelas in Brazil or Africans in villages knew Jordan?

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Actually…yes, yes they did.

My one lone regret in life is that I never served. All the male members of my family had until me. I sadly screwed around aimlessly for about 4 years after high school until I finally matured and started actually working on my future. Looking back I wish I would have spent at least those first 4 years serving rather than just wasting them.

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Dude, I have no idea where my birth certificate is. I'd have to somehow request a duplicate copy of it.

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Let me help you out. Go to your Clerk Of Courts office and request one. Cost $15 dollars. You will have it in a few days.

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If you have a DL and a social security card that is sufficient for I9

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True. So what you are saying is you are fine with a DL and Soc Sec card for I9 but a DL and a BC to REGISTER to vote is one step too far. Is there really that big a difference between getting a SS card or a BC. If you are ok with one, then why not the other.

Please listen to what I’m about to say.

Our first home wasn’t a complete shithole but I definitely wanted better for my family. It was however in a poor school district in Shreveport. Once my first child was old enough to start school, we moved. No way I was sending my kids to Shreveport public schools. We moved to the Stockwell Elementary school district in Bossier. Technically we were in Dogwood Subdivision in Haughton but the front half is in Bossier school district. Wasn’t a mansion by no means but it was a decent 3BR/2BTH 1600sf home with garage. It was absolutely at the extreme edge of our budget. We didn’t spend an extra penny on anything that wasn’t absolutely necessary. It was pretty tough for a few years but over time my income increased as I moved up in my job. After about 5 years we could at least breath. After about another 5 years I had advanced enough that if we wanted we could have moved up in quality of housing. Thinking back on that first 5 years there we said hell no and stayed put. We had updated things over the years and it was home. The kids had tons of friends in the neighborhood. We loved our neighbors and the school district was good. My career advanced more and with the additional money we were able to save/invest quite a bit. Now once the kids were out of school, we came into a little inheritance money, sold that home and upgraded to a nicer home in North Bossier but honestly still didn’t even go as high as we could have.

Take what you want from my story. I definitely can relate to wanting to make sure your family is in a safe area and your kids are in good schools. But don’t make yourself house poor unnecessarily. I have always tried to teach my kids to live slightly below there means. They always called me cheap and my son would always say I settled for less to much. Hopefully they see now that I was just careful with my finances and that our true joy came from time spent with them and not necessarily material possessions.